I told my fiancee I have prostatitis...

[Wilt Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wilt]

Hi everyone,

I really need help. Some of you may recognize my name as I have left posts on here about what I thought was SPA. Turns out it was prostatitis, I was diagnosed a month ago. I told my fiancee about it a week ago. She is very faithful to me even though we haven't had sex in months. The impotence has caused me to not talk dirty or do wilder things because I was afraid of losing my erection. She told me she is afraid we may never have sex again but told me she still plans on marrying me. She said her number one concern is that I will be alright and that I won't be in pain.

I believe her, I really do. But is there something I should be worried about with her at this point? I could really use a woman's perspective right now.

[maelsukr Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close maelsukr]

I don't believe you have anything to worry about .
I've had the same years ago .
Antibiotics will take care of it .

Stay in good spirits , it's all good .
mael out !!!

[danovae Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close danovae]

Nothing to worry about, prostatitis is treatable with antibiotic, just take what you're prescribed and return to your doctor regularly until it is cleared up. You may need to give more samples for them to check, in some cases prostatitis will sometimes give false positives or can be mistaken for prostate cancer. so keep going back to get checked up.

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I appreciate what you guys are saying. I just don't want to be unable to have sex here. She really wants it and is getting frustrated. She told me flat out she is getting annoyed and frustrated that we aren't having it. But I trust she is here to stay in the relationship. She told me she's afraid she'll never have it again and she told me she isn't afraid to marry me with this. I guess she's saying she really is that committed to me and is going to be right there no matter what comes up in life. But this is still a hard thing to deal with. I have every symptom out there and am in constant pain. It's just hard to feel secure when in this level of agony.

[Wilt Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wilt]

I guess my problem right now is my confidence in my sex life is basically tanked. I never get an erection. Not when I wake up, not at night, not when I watch porn, not when I jerk off, not with her. We're getting married next year and the relationship has been wonderful but my sex problems have always caused some frustration. In my heart, I believe she will stay with me. But I guess it's reasonable for me to still have this fear. Because I don't know when I'll be able to get hard again and I know that's something she really wants to have with me. I'm just lost and confused right now and starting to feel very depressed about the situation. She told me she's not afraid to marry me and she is still going to do so. But this mood is doing awful things to me. Any words of advice from any girls out there? I could really use the pick-me-up.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

I am not a woman, but prostatitis, by definition, is just inflammation of the prostate. I can see how it might affect the way you piss and may be uncomfortable at times, but I don't think it is a death sentence like you make it seem. Also, unless your fiancee is a dude, I'm pretty sure it isn't contagious, so have lots of sex.

Good luck, buddy. You'll get through this.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

I guess my problem right now is my confidence in my sex life is basically tanked. I never get an erection. Not when I wake up, not at night, not when I watch porn, not when I jerk off, not with her. We're getting married next year and the relationship has been wonderful but my sex problems have always caused some frustration. In my heart, I believe she will stay with me. But I guess it's reasonable for me to still have this fear. Because I don't know when I'll be able to get hard again and I know that's something she really wants to have with me. I'm just lost and confused right now and starting to feel very depressed about the situation. She told me she's not afraid to marry me and she is still going to do so. But this mood is doing awful things to me. Any words of advice from any girls out there? I could really use the pick-me-up.

Give yourself a SLAP, man! Snap out of it. Life sucks. Life is depressing. For everyone. Deal with it. No one wants to marry a depressed insecure man.

If you are taking medication, consider stopping. Most meds make us lethargic, get fat, and makes our penis soft too. Either way, start eating right. Start running 2 miles every other day. Start planning something "fun" for you and your fiancee every weekend. Do something that makes your finacee feel special, daily. Grab life by the horns. Do this and your depression will not only leave, you will become a stronger and more confident man. And that, my friend, will make you look and feel attractive - and that is really what you are searching for.

[Wilt Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wilt]

To tell you the truth, I do all those things. I'm in great shape, I work out 5 times a week and eat very healthy. But I had a talk with a friend earlier today and my insecurity has faded. I can see that I know there's so many great things about me, and so does she. I'm just dwelling on the one area I struggle. And I suppose the more I put into it, the bigger it will become. The more I focus on what she loves about me, the stronger those will become.

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

There is something wrong here. Maybe English is not the OP first language. I don't think he understands what he has has a quick fix. You don't need to stop sex. Just use a condom ( it is contagious). Maybe he has ED before his prostitis and that's why he is worried. That's another convo all together

[Looking4more Retired Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Looking4more]

The prostitis is no big deal. I had it about 9 years ago. A quick go round with antibiotics cleared it right up. If you still have ED after the prostitis is gone, we can help you through that too. Good luck with it.

[MrsLooking4more Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrsLooking4more]

Wilt, as Islander and many others pointed out prostatitis is just an inflammation easily taken care off by antibiotics. Take them get over it and have fun. Mean while use condoms until the inflammation clears and don't forget sex is not comprised only of intercourse. If at this moment you can not handle intercourse then by all means feel free to use your fingers, tongue or a vibe to keep her satisfied. Believe me my Mr had ED which is the reason we joined this site but he always took care of my sexual needs and I tool care of his too, even though we could not have intercourse.

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I appreciate it. Her and I talked it out too. We agreed I will go on ED pills for the immediate future as the prostatitis is going to take a couple months to clear up. I hear mixed reviews about dependancy on the drugs, but I'll take my chances. She's with me all the way, I have no doubt of that and I'm going to take this as an opportunity to have sex with confidence and really develop what we already have. I'm just glad that we finally know what's causing this disaster.

[worldhuge Member Find all posts View Profile Close worldhuge]

Hi everyone,

I really need help. Some of you may recognize my name as I have left posts on here about what I thought was SPA. Turns out it was prostatitis, I was diagnosed a month ago. I told my fiancee about it a week ago. She is very faithful to me even though we haven't had sex in months. The impotence has caused me to not talk dirty or do wilder things because I was afraid of losing my erection. She told me she is afraid we may never have sex again but told me she still plans on marrying me. She said her number one concern is that I will be alright and that I won't be in pain.

I believe her, I really do. But is there something I should be worried about with her at this point? I could really use a woman's perspective right now.

what is the reason that you get prostatitis?
is that because you have too much sex? or you masturbate too much?

[FastF4i Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close FastF4i]

There is something wrong here. Maybe English is not the OP first language. I don't think he understands what he has has a quick fix. You don't need to stop sex.

I've never heard of Prostatitis before seeing this thread so I did a little research. I think what a couple of you are missing here is that impotence is one of the symptoms, and this is the OPs primary concern. Its not that he WONT have sex, he CANT. That being said(at least the way I hear it) he's afraid that this may very well be a death sentence, at least to his relationship. Hence the request for female responses.

[Wilt Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wilt]

About two weeks into Cipro, and starting on Citrolline, I am finding that I have morning wood again and I'm getting boners a little more easily though they aren't as strong as they have been before. I suppose these build up in strength over time? I'm getting very confident again and am finding myself a lot hornier of late. This can only result in good things here. I do have a urologist appointment coming up very soon so from a medical POV, this is going to help and I should be good to go!