compliments that border on flirting

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

Is it bad to give small compliments to other women if the intent is to make them feel better about themselves? I think I have just realized that I do this sometimes. They are all totally innocent but could be taken as flirting if the person didnt know me. I dont think it bothers anyone else?

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

I love to give complements to the ladies, especially my Bride. We all have insecurities.

I meet a lot of people due to my travels of my job and frequently give a lady a wink or a complement with a smile.

The return smiles are priceless!

[CaptAbe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CaptAbe]

I've given compliments myself, and yes it can be borderline flirting, but it's all in good faith on my part.

~Abe

[aBone2pick Senior Member Member of the Month July 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close aBone2pick]

If you would do it with your wife standing next to you, then it's fine.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

I may have worded that wrong I mean compliments like you notice your buddys wifes hair is different and you say "Wow your hair looks great like that" or she has on a nice outfit because they are going out and I might say "Wow paul you better keep an eye on her she is looking hot" ( that was said to the husband but the wife could hear intentionally ) or just see a girl all fixed up to go out that you are used to seeing hanging out in jeans and a tee shirt and just telling her she cleans up well or something? I just realized im always complimenting people not just girls though guys as well. I noticed one neighbor really looking good (guy) and I said damn man you are looking ripped whast up? and he had been on a diet / excercise routine for like 6 mos I didnt even know it. Another guy I just complimented this week without shaving this guy has gone from looking like a dork to looking like some of those guys in "The hot guys thread" lol I said damn dude you should consider keeping the beard ( I told his wife as well ) and there is one girl in the hood I want to congradulate or compliment but I havent gone there. She has been on a strict diet for 6 mos and has lost 40 lbs since having her kid I know she has to feel better inside Id love to give a compliment but wouldnt want to say the wrong thing. I have already told her husband that she was really looking hot and he smiled. This girl has been hard at it. I know it shouldnt matter what someone outside of your relationship thinks about you or your spouse but in the end it does to a degree. Even when me and the wife go out we dress up, fix our hair she does a little eye makeup and maybe some lipstick but I think she likes to recieve compliments from others just as much or maybe even more so than from me? I compliment her all the time maybe too much? Me personally I like compliments from others as well. A few of the neighbor girls complimented me on a hair cut a while back and it felt good.

[samsi4life Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close samsi4life]

I try and do this too at work or in public.. the other day i was was talking to this girl at my new job we learned each others names , she is not the prettiest girl but she is pretty and has a nice body. The next day she came up said "hey sam remmber my name? I say yes ****** are you suprised? Well you shouldnt i always remember the pretty girls... lol im a lady killa

[faithandhope Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close faithandhope]

I love handing out compliments and little suggestive remarks to the ladies. It is just good vibes all around! Strokes my own ego knowing how much they love it, and I'm sure it makes them feel good too. I'll tell random girls, or even older woman, at Dunks or the bank or anywhere really, that they have nice eyes, or they wear their dress nicely, or something of that nature. That coupled with an appropriate smile works a charm!! I notice that the more suggestive I'm being, the more I squint my eye. I always give them the one sided smile, thats just my thing. As for guys, I might toss something out but I mean, I'm not gunna comment on guys looking good or something even if I notice they are clean cut and would clearly be classified as sexy. Bit weird, maybe its just me.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Sincere compliments are good which is what I notice you guys are doing. Like complimenting those putting effort into their bodies (diet/exercise) and its showing.

It is far from flirting, and can actually help some people if they believe its not fake, or they'll think its just social niceness.

Personally, I never compliment someone for the sake of complimenting them or to get something out of it (no hypocrisy ) If I don't feel it I won't say it, very recently, in the rare occasion when I meet a relative or neighbor and they're wearing something nice, I compliment them on it, and they like it (priceless, I love to make people happy)

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Op
The stuff you are saying about females that are not single wouldn't go over well in my world.
It's crude and forward.
You can simply say you look very nice. You don't need to add the HOT or watch your wife stuff.

I do realize we all have our version of manners, boundaries , tact and hopefully you know yours and those in your life.

So my answer is yes compliments can turn into flirting and make many people uncomfortable by adding a few more words to it.

Carry on

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

What is so bad about saying something nice to somebody. If somebody wants to take it as flirting that's they're problem. I will get in trouble for this one!

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

Op
The stuff you are saying about females that are not single wouldn't go over well in my world.
It's crude and forward.
You can simply say you look very nice. You don't need to add the HOT or watch your wife stuff.

I do realize we all have our version of manners, boundaries , tact and hopefully you know yours and those in your life.

So my answer is yes compliments can turn into flirting and make many people uncomfortable by adding a few more words to it.

Carry on

Nice call Islander! Well worded and well said.

There is a time and place for everything. Act accordingly.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Well at least I know I'm a non discriminatory flirter; I compliment male and female. Hey draggin you've got such a cute and hot avatar!

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

I don't think what you do is any kind of a problem, OP.

Even calling women hot. Oh sure, that may be flirty but what's the problem with being flirty? Looks like you're flirting with guys too (in a non homosexual kind of way... not that there's anything wrong with that) so it looks just fine. Innocent flirting is good in my books!

Carry on

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

I asked a few guys friends. They said what OP does is all fair when amongst friends and my reply was my typical strong armed response lmao!

So yea, carry on lol.

[LilNudeDude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LilNudeDude]

I only cautious on compliments online unless we have met and know each other in real life. The typed word often does not translate well.

I often through out compliments at random. Especially to make them smile when they are looking down. Social media is awesome. I have connected with friends from early childhood. People I thought I would never hear from again. However, I think that is also part of the problem.

Face to face interaction is far less than it used to be. Conversation is/was almost an art form. People could pick up on your intentions from body language, facial expression, and voice inflection. It was far easier to discern flirting from just being thoughtful of others.

But, I refuse to not be myself. The few scowls or misinterpretations that I may get, are far outweighed by the smiles and thanks that I receive back. I totally believe that everyone should practice no less than one random act of kindness everyday.

I don't think you need to change a thing NCG. You know your company and what's acceptable expressions to use. Keep it going. It has likely rubbed off on someone.