How to make wife more initiative ?

[Obsidian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Obsidian]

Well as the title say, some more background now.

We have awesome sex life and I'm really not complaining at all just i would like to make her more initiative about sex, something like she comes and grabs me for my D, or start some passionate cuddling or similar than just waiting for me to make a move. I'm not saying she never did it just i want her to be more ''in to me''. I have said directly to her that i want her to be more initiative but she kind of just moved along the question.

Stuff I/we tried/done, sexting, role playing, not asking for sex for some time or initiating it, talking directly to her about the theme

So any suggestions ? I hope I posted at right place

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Talk, talk, talk again, and when you're done talking talk some more. Sounds like nagging huh? Well that's how they get us to do stuff. Plus the more you talk the more she'll know that you were being serious on the subject. I don't think they make an "initiate pill" yet and , well beatings just have gone out of style so try it my way.

[bolkonsky Banned Find all posts View Profile Close bolkonsky]

there is a small and short book that address' this perfectly for women. "a good girls guide to bad girl sex".

I most wives could use this book.

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

there is a small and short book that address' this perfectly for women. "a good girls guide to bad girl sex".

I most wives could use this book.

My Mrs likes books, maybe I'll get it for her or at least maybe an E-reader copy.

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

50 Shades of Gray AUDIO CD's.

I purchased the 50 Shades Trilogy on CD and she listens during her commute.

Sometimes she just goes for it and others she go into the bedroom and rings the SEX Service Bell I bought her!

Ding Ding Ding Ding....

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

I am going to get the bad wife great sex and blowjobs and anal deepthroat guide to a happy husband book for my wife, thanks Bolkonsky, she likes these dirty books and she always tries to pass an exam or something. Not a written one, the practical exams but she keeps getting a C-, make her think she needs to work harder!

[MedPsy Member Find all posts View Profile Close MedPsy]

....I don't think they make an "initiate pill" yet ....

In The Year 2525 - Zager & Evans - ZagerEZPlayGuitars - YouTube

Doesn't look like it.

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

The 50 Shades of Gray CD worked yet again tonight, even after spending a week in Vegas.

[Obsidian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Obsidian]

she read and listened to all 50 shades of what not and for some time she was a little bit more active in insinuating sex part, also i have been more active in sexting with her but sometimes i would feel unwanted until I started the action, i don't know maybe I'm weird LOL.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

I'm so grateful I already have a good girl in the streets and a freak in the sheets :-) and she initiates all the time :-)

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

Hey Obsidian,

I think part of the challenge is that most women really don't know how to initiate sex or even if it is proper to do so. Men are usually much more adept at it if for no other reason than they usually have been doing it for much longer. I would therefore recommend letting her know what a turn on it would be for you if she initiated occasionally. I would also suggest that you give her a few "pointers" about HOW to take the initiative in order to help her feel more comfortable doing it.

[Obsidian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Obsidian]

maybe i was too subtle when i was sexting her because in the messages I was quite clear on what would turn me on and what i like, it may be that she didn't get it from there, I'm not really complaining about my sex life because it is great and it's better than it has ever been but sometime i fell like i don't know neglected ? don't really know hot to express myself

On more occasion I have pointed out that I would like her to be more initiative when it comes to sex which she actually kind of agreed that she is to passive as it comes to the question of sex but nothing moves from that point, i don't know maybe i should leave it as ? don't know maybe i shgould be more direct as to how to take initiative ?

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

Hey Obsidian,

We all want to feel desirable and desired so it is understandable for anyone to feel a bit neglected if that is not forthcoming.

Your sexting may have been quite clear (to you at least) and it was simply that she doesn't know how to tap into her inner seductress. You can help her with that since you already know what to do. You may both want to consider starting off by choosing a fun and sexy code word that you can use to let her know you are open to any and all advances. You can then text it to her, write it on a post-it note a stick it on the bathroom mirror or stick it on the fridge door. Just be willing to find some fun and creative way for her to take the initiative.

Good Luck!

[Obsidian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Obsidian]

fun and sexy code word

Oh this is good, never thought of that, thank you and will surely try this one a go

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Aren't you the guy who just had a threesome? How much more initiative does one need?