"the lady doth protest too much, methinks?" or am I just paranoid

[chipchip Member Find all posts View Profile Close chipchip]

Hey guys, do you think this qualifies as a case of "the lady doth protest too much, methinks" aka she is trying to convince me/herself that she doesn't like something that she does?

-I am walking with my girlfriend in the supermarket, and randomly she says "I don't like big penises, they scare me"

-I am in the sex store "I don't like big penises, they scare me"

-After sex "I don't like big penises, they scare me"

I am 6.1 NBPEL and 5.25 EG....

I also saw in her phone one day a porno picture of a guy with a huge one and she said

"those things are HUGE! That is scary, and amazing (that it is that big), and a challenge"


what gives here man....

[seanyboy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close seanyboy]

You're not small so your premise is faulty. Maybe she likes freakish huge.

[chipchip Member Find all posts View Profile Close chipchip]

I've heard from a respected dating guru that women often will "speak their thoughts" to hear what they sound like in real life, not necessarily that they have any views whatsoever on the subject, as they come to their own conclusions. He has said this is indicative in this situation

and freakish huge? what makes you think that?

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

I don't know on this one, although she's tripping red flag alerts for me. How is she while having sex? Does it take a lot of effort to get it in and build up speed, or does she seem to want more?

[seanyboy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close seanyboy]

I've heard from a respected dating guru that women often will "speak their thoughts" to hear what they sound like in real life, not necessarily that they have any views whatsoever on the subject, as they come to their own conclusions. He has said this is indicative in this situation

and freakish huge? what makes you think that?

You are big (above average in both areas), so maybe she prefers huge. I'm just going along with your thought process.

[popol5169 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close popol5169]

It sounds like she could be playing with you .
Or the thought could be revolving in her mind .
Or both.
I wouldn't like it either way..
How old is she, does she look at porn a lot?
You're well above average by the way.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

On a similar note, I knew a girl once and although we were friends we were always flirty friends (so to speak). She on numerous occasions would hint at things, ask me how big my feet/shoes are, comment on hand size, ask me if my ring finger is larger, etc, etc. Fast forward a year or so and she commented on a 'world penis size' article on fb, so I jokingly told her I must be from the congo (was 7.1"). She made a joke back and told me I'd be too big for her, but when she clued inI wasn't kidding size-wise she pulled away saying I'd hurt her for sure.

So long story short, talk is cheap imo, so I wouldn't base too much off of it.

Also, given your current size, maybe she wants to see if she can take bigger, maybe she thinks you are big and is goating you into admitting you are above average, who knows.

[CLOSEDDennyA Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CLOSEDDennyA]

I think a big penis create some curiosity as to what the fuss is all about...I also know a girl.that doth protest too much in my neighborhood...the subject of penis size has come up at some parties and she always says how much she hates big ones in front of her husband and they scare her too. However she has also said on different occasions joking around that we should "swing" and she knows my rep so, whatever...

[chipchip Member Find all posts View Profile Close chipchip]

I don't know on this one, although she's tripping red flag alerts for me. How is she while having sex? Does it take a lot of effort to get it in and build up speed, or does she seem to want more?

the sex is constant, with her initiating it. she says I am the only one who fulfills her needs every time, her best ever, and her actions do prove this

She has to spread a bit to get it in, and once we do get it in we go at it slow, fast, ect. She has said she dated a guy with a short stubby but very wide dick in the past and she hated it because she couldn't fit it, it was terrible disgusting chode were her words

[chipchip Member Find all posts View Profile Close chipchip]

Words to women are often tools they use to better understand a situation. They "talk through" their thought processes, including the pros and cons.

Maybe she is doing this?

[popol5169 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close popol5169]

OK so maybe she is just trying to bring the beast out of you


Maybe all is great and she wants to make sure she has more power over you because you're so hot and big she is afraid you might look elsewhere?

[seanyboy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close seanyboy]

the sex is constant, with her initiating it. she says I am the only one who fulfills her needs every time, her best ever, and her actions do prove this

She has to spread a bit to get it in, and once we do get it in we go at it slow, fast, ect. She has said she dated a guy with a short stubby but very wide dick in the past and she hated it because she couldn't fit it, it was terrible disgusting chode were her words

So why wouldn't this be all the indication you need? Why would you need to ask us to read her mind lol?

[chipchip Member Find all posts View Profile Close chipchip]

So why wouldn't this be all the indication you need? Why would you need to ask a bunch of dudes to read her mind lol?

Because I don't want her to settling and thinking "well the sex with him is great, wish he was a bit bigger visually, but whatever, I'll tell him I don't like big ones (I dont really? do I?) and his is perfect"

she says some weird stuff....

"There is a mold inside me of your dick and each time you push a little deeper...your the only one who can do this"

[CLOSEDDennyA Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CLOSEDDennyA]

Because I don't want her to settling and thinking "well the sex with him is great, wish he was a bit bigger visually, but whatever, I'll tell him I don't like big ones (I dont really? do I?) and his is perfect"

Two words: Dil Do...try it out.

(Just joking, I know it's 3 words)

[chipchip Member Find all posts View Profile Close chipchip]

she actually hates the idea of a dildo...and so do I. Frankly if I use a big dildo and she has had a bigger one than mine in the past (no clue), in my head I am admitting to her that my length wasn't as good as his was....hell no