Girlfriends previous partner was larger

[DrBoom Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DrBoom]

Hey everyone,

The reason Im here trying to get bigger is because of the following story. I would appreciate both men and womens perspective.

I have been dating my gf for 10 months. She is 6 yrs younger than me in her early 20's with about 10 partnes. I have had over 130 partners, very sexual and sensual. To me its important to please and its my biggest turn on to seem my woman happy. I have always been satisfied with my size. Im 7.25inch on a good day and 5.5inch girth sometimes more. Anyways she tells me things like your the best I had, and I would not care if you were the last guy I had. So one day I asked her if I was the biggest. She said No. She said she dated a guy who was massive. She felt uncomfortable talking about it and said she doesnt want to think of him, he was not good. I asked her once how big he was and she said 9inch but that was her guess. she did make an estimate with her hands. I felt terrible after this. Sex sucked, I couldnt get it up and I would be in a bad mood. Despite her reassurances that Im good I couldnt get the thought of her having a massive guy in her. She says Im the perfect size but now she says perfect big and thick, but I feel like she is trying to make me feel good, which she says shes not. She tells me Im the second biggest guys shes been with and that Im bigger than her ex bf. This is still driving me nuts.

I want you guys to chime in and help me figure out a way to forget this. I know theres someone always bigger but when Im doing it and she says oh it fills me up so good, I lose my hard cuz I think well if I fill her up imagine how she felt with that guy. I know shes with me and shes mine and I know all this looks insecure, which I am generally not. Im just really bothered and dont know what to do. Im trying to get to 9in and I know its a long road ahead but pretty much thats the reason Im doing PE.

Any thoughts?

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

You want me to get on here and figure out why you have such a childish response to a stupid question that you asked? Sorry but I'm a bit hung over this morning so the only thing I can say is get over it. Well you don't have to get over it.You could always continue to whine like a child in which case you'll lose her but hey what do I know.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

You are the best she's had and your size is already big.

Bigger does not always mean better, she was trying to make you feel good, but you had to bring in the Ex's.

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Read the study in this thread, ladies tend to overestimate the size of a penis they've seen.

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

Anyways she tells me things like....
your the best I had
and I would not care if you were the last guy I had
and said she doesnt want to think of him
he was not good.
She says Im the perfect size

Im trying to get to 9in and I know its a long road ahead but pretty much thats the reason Im doing PE.

Any thoughts?

Boy howdy, you men and your egos Re read the above stuff I quoted from you. All positives that your girlfriend has said about you. She is with you because she wants to be with you.

I don't know what to tell you on forgetting about her ex or his size, other than just saying, "Forget about it!" It's not like you can't unlearn that info. But, I do know that if you don't suppress it/deal with it, you'll more than likely ruin this relationship.

You've also stated you're doing PE to get to 9in. That's great that you've started your PE journey, but all these guys will tell you, it takes time,patience, and dedication. Do not overdo it and please read over all the sticky threads and safety info.

I don't know your girlfriend, but I can 100% tell you, as a female myself, we want a nice hard dick over a nonfunctional overworked dick any day. Take things slow, read over the threads, and go make some friends here.

Good luck to ya.

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

Ever hear the story of Goldilocks and the three bears??? Your the porridge that is just right bro, well maybe not porridge, that's a little boring, what else is nice? Oh yeah Rum! Mr CUSP likes rum, hence his sore head and grumpy post, buy him rum for Christmas and he'll love you forever!

There comes a point where too much of something is no longer pleasurable (sweets, chocolate, rum, penis, money, Etc). Take comfort in the fact that she would rather be with you than some painful penis with some guy attached to it who she didn't like either! Everyone has a past!

I hope you resolve this and start enjoying your time together again, don't waste anymore time dwelling on this, life is short and the only important time is now!

[Reallyshortblackguy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Reallyshortblackguy]

Maybe she lying to yo FACE!!!!! u know not to hurt your feelings or ego or whatnot

[Dick Whammy Retired Moderator Member of the month Jan 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Dick Whammy]

Hey everyone,

The reason Im here trying to get bigger is because of the following story. I would appreciate both men and womens perspective.

I have been dating my gf for 10 months. She is 6 yrs younger than me in her early 20's with about 10 partnes. I have had over 130 partners, very sexual and sensual. To me its important to please and its my biggest turn on to seem my woman happy. I have always been satisfied with my size. Im 7.25inch on a good day and 5.5inch girth sometimes more. Anyways she tells me things like your the best I had, and I would not care if you were the last guy I had. So one day I asked her if I was the biggest. She said No. She said she dated a guy who was massive. She felt uncomfortable talking about it and said she doesnt want to think of him, he was not good. I asked her once how big he was and she said 9inch but that was her guess. she did make an estimate with her hands. I felt terrible after this. Sex sucked, I couldnt get it up and I would be in a bad mood. Despite her reassurances that Im good I couldnt get the thought of her having a massive guy in her. She says Im the perfect size but now she says perfect big and thick, but I feel like she is trying to make me feel good, which she says shes not. She tells me Im the second biggest guys shes been with and that Im bigger than her ex bf. This is still driving me nuts.

I want you guys to chime in and help me figure out a way to forget this. I know theres someone always bigger but when Im doing it and she says oh it fills me up so good, I lose my hard cuz I think well if I fill her up imagine how she felt with that guy. I know shes with me and shes mine and I know all this looks insecure, which I am generally not. Im just really bothered and dont know what to do. Im trying to get to 9in and I know its a long road ahead but pretty much thats the reason Im doing PE.

Any thoughts?

Well, on a contrasting note,,,,,maybe she is NOT the prettiest or the most fit or the smartest or the cleanest or the wealthiest or the nicest (etc.) of all the girls you had. But that isn't gonna stop you from falling in love with her or marrying her or having kids with her,,,right??? Well, I guess women can feel the same,,,,,us guys got messed up ego's and it sucks to have ego in my opinion. I would love to wake up and NOT think about my dick and NOT worry about who thinks what about me and NOT feel like less than any of my peers and NOT need to change myself to match what I want others to think of me. I would like to be appreciated for ME ME ME ME!!!!

So, slip this information into a place in your mind,,,,,right between her COCK comment and your WORRYING about it. Your first mistake was asking her,,,,don't seek answers to things that you don't wanna know or can't handle. It hurts to feel less than adequate, so don't set yourself up for it to begin with!! :-) Merry Christmas!

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

You've been with over 130 girls and your upset about your gf being with someone larger than. Out of 130 girls I bet there are a few more that have been with someone larger than you. Don't worry yourself about it. You are well above average may be the perfect size for a lot of women. Really big can be uncomfortable and sometimes painful for women. That takes away from the pleasure of sex for them. I know my wife likes for me to be able to go balls deep as that adds to the physical and emotional connection. If I had to leave an inch or two out in the air to keep from hurting her she would not be happy. Your gf is probably telling you your the perfect size because you fill her up to the point where any thing larger starts to become uncomfortable. Be careful about becoming larger, it might start to take away the pleasure of sex for her. Talk to her first.

This is the most important part. There is more to totally satisfying a woman than having a large penis, it's about being a good lover. Learn what a woman really wants. Her past bf may have been bigger, but poor at making love and painful.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

You've had tighter. Who cares.

[popol5169 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close popol5169]

Maybe she lying to yo FACE!!!!! u know not to hurt your feelings or ego or whatnot

And maybe if you type two short sentences in a post you can use proper English.

To the original poster, well you asked and had your response .
Tell us one thing she could do to get these thoughts out of your head. Perhaps she could be even kinder and praise your qualities? But no she is obviously lying and hiding the truth.
So, what else?
You created the problem, the positive news is you're also the one who can erase it!

[Dick Whammy Retired Moderator Member of the month Jan 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Dick Whammy]

Honestly everyone. We really need a "mental health" section. I don't recall seeing one, but it might be well traveled. Seems that the world the way it is today (that's all I can comment on- today that is) is producing terrible issues for the (excuse the way I phrase this) weak minded. We are all weak minded now and again,,,,but not about the same issues.

I always believed that to correct something,,,,you have to travel to "square one" and then take it from there. When you try to put a band-aid on an issue, you don't always address the root cause of a problem.

In this case (post related),,,,,I wasn't brought up with confidence issues nor insecurities. I did experience them later on in life. The fact that I had about 45 relatively good years doesn't eliminate the fact that the pain of insecurity and lack of confidence can rear it's ugly head at any time and do damage that can only be healed over time with good thinking habits and understanding as well as GOOD FRIENDS HERE AT THE GYM. :-)

[Park Lib Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Park Lib]

Tell her about the best of your 130 partners (my goodness, that's a lot).

Or better yet tell her that her tits aren't the biggest you've had, her figure isn't the best you've had, etc.

In fact, don't do any of this. I'm being sarcastic. The best thing you can do is evaluate why you love this girl and I'm sure the sex is only a small part of it. I have a lot of insecurities at times and penis size can be one of them sometimes. What a lot of women don't understand is that men can have (even at the best of times) very crumbly egos, for lack of a better term. If a guy approaches a girl and gets not even a word in reply, that can suck the life out of someone. Learning to deal with rejection or inadequacy (which you clearly don't have since your girl loves you) takes a long time sometimes. This is important not just in relationships but in life. You have to take the knocks and roll on. Occasionally easier said than done, I'm fully aware of that, but you will get past it with a positive approach and mindset.

I would say do PE but not for her, for you. Once you reach the point where it's hurting her, maybe you'll feel good about yourself, like her biggest lover. By the way, is she still with her biggest lover? Oh right, she's with someone who has a smaller one but makes her climax like nothing else. Just tell her to ditch the "you're filling me up" since that kills your hard-on.

[Closed035 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed035]

i can understand your pain. that'd be like winning silver in the olympics and having people expect you to be happy just b/c u placed. even though honestly, you'd be happier winning bronze b/c at least you were still a couple places away from being THE ONE and only. instead you're the guy who was ohhh soooo close, yet so far at the same time, from knowing the riches of being numero uno.

if i were you, for the sake of the relationship, i'd learn to move on and move one fast. because nothing makes you feel more beta than having to stand right next to and directly in the shadow of the guy, whose pumping his fist's in the air (or i guess in your case pumping his dick in your gf's vag) knowing you'll never be seen under the same light as him due to your lack of size.

[JurassicBone Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JurassicBone]

What a dumb question -_-'

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

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