Am I really that small?

[small25 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close small25]

I'm a 29 year old male from the USA, and I lost my virginity about 5 years ago when I was 24. In total I've had 11 female partners, and out of the 11, 6 have said I am smaller than most men they have been with. They said I am overall below average. The other 5 said I am just about average, or close to average (if that). With all this feedback I've received (from 11 females), I'm starting to think that I indeed am small, or at least below average overall.

Using the different measuring methods, when erect, I am:

NBPEL: 5.5

BPEL: 6

Mid shaft girth: 4.5

Base shaft girth: 4.5

I've been on other forums, and people always try to make me feel better by saying I am average overall, but from all the real life feedback I've received from 11 different females, overall I see myself as small to below average now.

I just want to know, am I really that small/below average? I mean, what is the exact average, and how do I compare to it?

[mulkey Banned Find all posts View Profile Close mulkey]

Stop worrying about how you rate as compared to other men they have been with and stop asking them how you compare.

[Zman007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zman007]

Median, ie the 50th percentile is 5.7" BPEL x 4.7" Girth. You are slightly above average in length and slightly below average in girth meaning you are "average" overall, but your penis is going to appear longer and thinner.

Girth is going to be your major limiter and likely the focal point of your past partners comments. Girth is also rated as more important than length as far as women are concerned so your feedback at first glance seems appropriate. Also, we are dealing with a relatively small sample size and women are notoriously bad and gauging size.

Now, I'd be more concerned with the fact you are insecure and have polled all eleven of your past partners, that insecurity alone will color and change their reactions and feedback introducing bias.

Fact is you are "average" and not far off the Median penis, believing you are much smaller than average is incorrect and simply not true. Good thing you've found the gym where you can make significant improvements. It only would taking gaining ~.5x.5" for you to reach ~70thx70th percentile.

[mulkey Banned Find all posts View Profile Close mulkey]

It's never healthy to ask someone that your in a relationship with how you compare to others. Not for you or her. Even if it's just casual sex. Don't put yourself in a vulnerable position and don't put her in a position of having to answer.

[Dangler Senior Administrator☼ Wizard ☼ White Tiger Award 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Dangler]

Read this all too often, don't ask. It is a sign of an insecure ego.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

to the Gym!


No you are not small, your size is average, and you should not be worried about your size at all, it is not your penis size that makes you a good lover, on the other hand, your confidence and technique do matter. Confidence attracts confidence and allows/encourages having fun, if you are comfortable with yourself, others will be comfortable being around you.


Sex or relationships was never about size, nor does size matter in lovemaking, the persons matter, that is you and your partner, and your penis is just a part of you, like your hands and your torso, you can use all your body during sex, do not just bring it all down to penis size, look at the whole picture, there are two human beings intimate together.

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[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

This is a favourite female head game ,ignore it.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Asked 11 out of 11? Never asked a partner how I compared to others.

[Hopeful&dedicated Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hopeful&dedicated]

You asked every single one of them? Damn dude, don't think that was necessary. My suggestion for number 12 is to leave it alone and just enjoy the experience. Keep working if you want to get bigger and in the mean time make em' beg for more lovin.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Same advice. Dont ask, and even more important love yourself enough not to wonder.

[downthere Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close downthere]

I'm a 29 year old male from the USA, and I lost my virginity about 5 years ago when I was 24. In total I've had 11 female partners, and out of the 11, 6 have said I am smaller than most men they have been with. They said I am overall below average. The other 5 said I am just about average, or close to average (if that). With all this feedback I've received (from 11 females), I'm starting to think that I indeed am small, or at least below average overall.

Using the different measuring methods, when erect, I am:

NBPEL: 5.5

BPEL: 6

Mid shaft girth: 4.5

Base shaft girth: 4.5

I've been on other forums, and people always try to make me feel better by saying I am average overall, but from all the real life feedback I've received from 11 different females, overall I see myself as small to below average now.

I just want to know, am I really that small/below average? I mean, what is the exact average, and how do I compare to it?

Small25,

I'm not discounting your post and I find it intriguing, actually. Seriously...I'd love to know more about these 11 women you've been with. Personality, age, looks, body build, etc. Honestly, not poking fun at all.

I'm trying to figure out stuff too.

[downthere Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close downthere]

Same advice. Dont ask, and even more important love yourself enough not to wonder.

Agree...Never ask. But he did...

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

True he did ask. Still OP you have the chance to just love yourself as you are, and to grow your penis. Give yourself the gift of acceptance while also giving yourself the gift of penis enhancement. The first enhancement is to believe your penis is wonderful. From there you will make great things happen. Enjoy your journey. I asked to, now I know better.
You asked, now you know better. Love yourself enough to accept yourself. Then it won't matter if anyone thinks you are not sufficient, because you will know you are sufficient for you.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

Like others have said, around to just over average length, and slightly below average girth. Unfortunately girth is what seems to matter most to the opposite sex, which might be why you got some less than stellar comments regarding size.

That said, if you want to do PE read up and give it a go and see what happens. As I like to say...what do you have to lose besides time if it doesn't work for you?

Also I will say this -- I'm slightly envious of your count of 11. My number is much, much lower, so don't think size is everything.

[small25 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close small25]

The only reason I asked all 11 of them is because the first one called me small. Out of curiosity I asked the first one, and she said kind of small/below average. That made me want to ask more and more, and it built up from there. If the first had said I was average, then I would probably not ask any others. Since she called me small, that made me more curious, and so I asked the others. I want to accept that I am average, but since the majority of them called me below average, I now have a hard time believing I am even average.