I want to have a great connection with women but should i use my penis to get it?

[BobbyDigital Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BobbyDigital]

I make over 100k, I have zero debt, I dress very nice and I very responsible BUT it doesn't matter if you keep getting turned down for dates. Not just a date but multiple dates... too many to count. This has been my problem for over 3 years

Sadly, many people around me think i am in the closet or living a secret "gay" life but I am not. It makes me depressed that people question my sexuality. I am straight as a straight man can be. I just can't get any dates.

I know my height plays a major role. I am 5'4 and women look right over my head, lol. I know there are other 5'4 guys out there but even I notice a difference between them and me. Most short men have a "build" to them or are big boned.

The crazy thing is, I recently learned my mini me isn't so mini. Im a thin framed and short( 5'4 ) but I am a bit over 7 inches down there. On a non cold day, lol ... my flaccid hangs about 4-5 inches.

Should I go on app like tinder and brag about myself just to get a date? I want my confidence with women to increase but I never wanted it in that way that I would have to be somewhat a perve but this seems like my only way.

I don't know... I guess I actually want to talk to a lady about dinosaur bones (if she is a archaeologist) over dinner before I bone her... is that odd?

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

How old are you, have you ever been in a serious relationship.

What have you tried? I know guys of every shape and size that have had success and some of them made minimum wage.

There has to be a way, we just have to find it.

[BobbyDigital Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BobbyDigital]

How old are you, have you ever been in a serious relationship.

What have you tried? I know guys of every shape and size that have had success and some of them made minimum wage.

There has to be a way, we just have to find it.

In my 30's now. The only relationship i was in lasted almost 10 years (most of my 20's).

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

I think it matters how you carry yourself, also where you hang out, maybe you are not spending time where ladies who share common interests with you are.

Keep looking, you will find your match one day. Also, do not concern yourself with what others think, especially if it is something so personal.

Your confidence can be restored by having faith in yourself and your abilities, do not seek a relationship for such reasons, this will only lead to problems, look for the right person for you, and you will find her.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

I do not think it is wrong to want a special connection. Before trolling with your big penis why not try some dating sites that match you according to life experiences? There are some ways to meet ladies and develop a meaningful connection.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

Should I go on app like tinder and brag about myself just to get a date?

LMAO, God no. Your penis should is the last thing you should ever talk about with a woman. You would have better luck with the worlds worst poem from the heart than whatever you've got in your pants.

If you're having this much trouble with women check your personality. Talk with some neutral women that know you well and see what constructive criticism that have for you. It also wouldn't be a bad idea to take some groups or classes with other women to help your social skills.

One final piece of advice, keep it in your pants. Acting like a perv while trying to get into a woman's bed as fast as possibly only works on a handful of drunk and gullible women. The majority of women will see through your act and run the other way. On the other hand, if you can have fun with women without trying to get anywhere you won't have any shortage of women chasing you.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Now where's that guy that was talking all that crap about a big dick and a big wallet at.......

Or was that so last week???


Welcome to the gym BobbyD!

[BobbyDigital Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BobbyDigital]

My friends have said that my lack of confidence shows around women. I have been told to apply how I approach everything else but it doesn't work. Being told "not interested" after "not interested" takes it toll so what makes you feel confident quickly fades. In a way, it takes a toll where I even go through a depressed state where I don't approach any women at all for months.

I think in a few posts, I have shared to much. Like I mentioned before on a previous post/thread, this is something I want to fix. Having a women's perspective I guess I thought would help.

On the other hand, I started PE exercises and its going great! lol. Thanks for the words everyone.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

Why are you approaching them in the first place? If you're hoping that they'll like you enough to want to talk to you or have sex with you then you're approaching them for the wrong reason. Neediness like that is a woman repellant.

[Mr.Swolls Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr.Swolls]

Check it out bro, its your birthright to have a beautiful lady. So you need take the advice the guys above me said pronto. You need to visualize your already with the girl if your approaching them. Be yourself so you don't come off as not confident because if your NOT being yourself that's going to make you look unsure and weak and get rejected. If your gonna talk, make HER do all the talking. Your the man here so you lead the conversation.and Always try to be funny because if she's attracted she will laugh anyway and she'll be attracted if you are yourself. Stay confident and sure of what you want with THE women. And if things fail Learn from it

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Having a bit of a stressful day here, have started this reply at least 6 times already so hopefully this is coherent enough to make some sense...

I had a couple of thoughts when reading through your posting:
- Your height is obviously a big deal to you, you mentioned it 3 times in the first post in this thread. If you keep making it such a big deal to you, then it's going to be a big deal because the fact that you're uncomfortable/uncertain about it is going to make other people uncomfortable.
- Just because you're thin framed doesn't mean you can't have a good build. If you feel like it's an issue then the good new is that's one area that you can do something about. Go to the gym and/or hire a personal trainer. As you start making changes to your body you'll feel stronger and more self-confident.
- WHY are you approaching these women that have turned you down? I don't mean why are you asking them out on dates, I mean take a moment to think about why you decided to approach those particular women. If you're approaching them solely based on appearance and superficial reasons then don't be surprised if they reject you based solely on appearance and superficial reasons.

I'm 5'7". I have been with guys in a wide range of heights, from shorter than you to one of my current FWB who's 6'6". The only difference it's made is logistically when trying to figure out some positions (for example shower sex with someone who's almost a foot taller than you can be very challenging). The only time I've ever had an issue with a guy that was shorter than me has been when it came to wearing heels - I like wearing heels, I like particularly stilettos because I think they complete an outfit nicely and are very sexy. One guy did not like to go out with me wearing them and being that much taller than him, it made him very unhappy and actually somewhat angry so that association did not last long.

[pleiades Member Find all posts View Profile Close pleiades]

You should go through to height enhancement surgery, you are making 100k a year, just committed this surgery.

[Park Lib Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Park Lib]

OP, you have opened with your bank balance and hefty penis size. This might be the problem if you aren't getting across your personality or are choosing on the basis of superficial characteristics. I know everyone says that those matter too and I'm no different but to keep my interest someone needs to have some depth and a bit of interesting life experience. I'm sure you don't lack these things so get that across to your dates. I'm sure you'll have more success than merely slapping your dick on the table (although I would probably love to see her expression at that).

You can't do anything about your height and quite frankly it shouldn't matter a great deal unless she's really tall (say close to 6'). Stand tall and confident around other people and make sure to make eye contact when you speak to women and you'll keep their attention as long as you say something worth listening to. You shouldn't really feel bad about factors out of your control as you'll want to find something to blame for your lack of success. You should be finding qualities about yourself that are worth loving and showing them off.

You should go through to height enhancement surgery, you are making 100k a year, just committed this surgery.

Worst suggestion ever. Depending on his flexibility, he may not gain more than an inch. Hardly worth months of convalescence and physiotherapy.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Look I know a guy your height makes good money has some assests . He is a bit chubby an outgoing guy with he tells me a very small penis, not good looking either ,middleaged. Look he is beating them off with a stick Why? Money status and reasonably outgoing/confident.