A Question For Men With ED

[peachykeen Member Find all posts View Profile Close peachykeen]

If his ego is deflated for limping it again, I think that should be addressed. This can be done in the talking part outside the bedroom. When emotions are stable/neutral. You need to get across that you understand - for the time being.

You also remarked that you accept him with ED. Not to be rude, but it would so not work for me if my wife told me that. There must be a sense of hope, and a joint effort to improve the situation. Acceptance would be like a last lifeline for me, timing would be like a 30 years off.

There must be hope for him, it must feel like a temporary situation. As the ED appears to be between his ears. and more important, there is a solution. Really. The problem that you share can be turned around with the right information and effort.

I strongly advise not to accept his ED until you know a lot more about it.

Goku

Goku,
How do I not accept his ED? I mean, I am here, trying to figure out the exercises, vitamins, and treatments for improving it. Currently, I do not feel comfortable talking with him about everything. I have told him that I am fine with his ED and it doesn't matter. So what now? Do I demand that he maintains an erection and gives it to me hard? How exactly do I not accept him with his ED?
Peaches~

[7by72b Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 7by72b]

He probably wants to please you more than anything else, which makes him nervous , which makes the problem worse.
I work so much I stay nearly exhausted. The few times that my body seemed slow to cooperate ; I just dropped the idea and gave oral pleasure to my wife. After a little while , the rock hard opportunity presented itself. Magically!
If its tiredness or lack of focus ; the attention you have to give your lady while giving oral pleasure seems to get my mind in gear. Then it will get the rest of my body in gear.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

One of my favorite pastimes to assure me that I still got it despite the occasional Ed is to take mutual showers with my wife. It is pure foreplay to the 10th degree with nothing but soap and exploring each others bodies. While I must admit that certain parts get cleaned more than others, it is a joyous experience. Have run out of hot water a couple of times, which spoiled the mood. But on average its 35 to 40 minutes of pure raw excitement which I defy any unresponsive dick to not respond to. After the long tease, we retire to finish in the bedroom still wet from the shower - hot as can be.....psst...guess what we did this morning. Here is a hint - you suds up your hands and clean just one area on him - constantly staring at him with a smirk that goes right through him. He on the other hand should give you a pretty much complete wash exploring all parts. I also love washing my wife's hair as well. Lots and Lots of hot open mouth kissing as well. So you, non-stop on his member and he has a task to perform to wash you (note the distraction so he doesn't think about ED) Again, I defy any limp dick to not rise to the occasion with that level of stimulation. It reminds me that I am a man and my wife loves how hard I get - probably the best erections of any act we do.

[Airton5user Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Airton5user]

What goes through my mind?

#1 - ok I've taken a pill, I am sexually excited by this woman, I have an erection right now, there should be no way I should not stay up at least 5 minutes, please in the name of everything just give me at least 5 minutes PLEASE!

#2 - ok so far so good, must be at least a minute now, she feels good, feeling starting to change a little when I'm inside her, but I will keep thrusting.

#3 - OH BOY, it's feeling ....loose...a little in there, that can't be right, OH SHIT, ITS HAPPENING AGAIN!

#4 - either her telling me or my seeing that it's out - "must think of something to say, usually like can we take a break for a minute,"

#5 - 20 minutes later - SHIT I can not even get it back up now, oh no no no no no no no no no! "hey honey, did I mention I've been really depressed and stressed out ever since the Warriors lost the NBA title, it's been difficult for me to get it up, but I am sure that will pass. her - "oh I understand next time :-)"

#6 - about 2 days of feeling like the worse most useless male on the planet. Hours of WHY ME! Hours of thinking I have a great relationship with a wonderful woman who I am sexually attracted to, so much that I have fantasies of her even driving me to the point of wanting to jack off to thoughts of her when we're apart but when we're about to actually do it, I can't for some odd inexplicable reason.

#7 try something else, go back online find some remedy, Cayenne pepper, green tea, hmm it says on this article that holding your breath helps you maintain erection, OK I WILL TRY THAT.

#8 Armed with this new information and the pill I am ready for action. REPEAT AT STEP #1

Peachykeen wrote-
Personally, I do not mind when my boyfriend becomes soft or stays soft. There are always plenty of ways for us to make each other feel good.

This is good, I truly believe if you feel this way and let him know that you are ok with it, not pressure him into having sex (penetration), if it's not something physically wrong with him then he will eventually be able to get full erection and keep them with you, sooner than later. I am not saying you should be content with a soft penis, but rather it's about giving him a comfort level, when the pressure to perform is lifted he will most likely be able to perform.

Peachykeen wrote-
Sometimes he seems to get upset when he is unable to do what he wants. I would like to respond in the appropriate manner.

Yes for a guy it's a pretty big deal. Just accept it at that, not being able to perform in that area is something that really eats at a guy's core being so try to let him know that you care for him and want to be with him in spite of that and as you said that you can be happy with other ways, let him know you two can try and if it doesn't stay hard then you can move on to trying other things. It's tempting to say it is not important, that he's making too much of it and it's not a big deal but that will fall on deaf ears because to a guy...well...it is.

[peachykeen Member Find all posts View Profile Close peachykeen]

He probably wants to please you more than anything else, which makes him nervous , which makes the problem worse.
I work so much I stay nearly exhausted. The few times that my body seemed slow to cooperate ; I just dropped the idea and gave oral pleasure to my wife. After a little while , the rock hard opportunity presented itself. Magically!
If its tiredness or lack of focus ; the attention you have to give your lady while giving oral pleasure seems to get my mind in gear. Then it will get the rest of my body in gear.

7by72b,
Thanks for your honesty. His giving me oral does tend to keep his mind in the moment and gets him hard or hardish. I am so easy to please, it's ridiculous. He has been an amazing lover. His focus is most likely on the stress of his job.
Peaches~

[peachykeen Member Find all posts View Profile Close peachykeen]

One of my favorite pastimes to assure me that I still got it despite the occasional Ed is to take mutual showers with my wife. It is pure foreplay to the 10th degree with nothing but soap and exploring each others bodies. While I must admit that certain parts get cleaned more than others, it is a joyous experience. Have run out of hot water a couple of times, which spoiled the mood. But on average its 35 to 40 minutes of pure raw excitement which I defy any unresponsive dick to not respond to. After the long tease, we retire to finish in the bedroom still wet from the shower - hot as can be.....psst...guess what we did this morning. Here is a hint - you suds up your hands and clean just one area on him - constantly staring at him with a smirk that goes right through him. He on the other hand should give you a pretty much complete wash exploring all parts. I also love washing my wife's hair as well. Lots and Lots of hot open mouth kissing as well. So you, non-stop on his member and he has a task to perform to wash you (note the distraction so he doesn't think about ED) Again, I defy any limp dick to not rise to the occasion with that level of stimulation. It reminds me that I am a man and my wife loves how hard I get - probably the best erections of any act we do.

TheZZMan,
I love showering with my love. I miss having my hair washed. There is something about it that is so nurturing, I adore it We have not been taking them together because our schedules have changed since the start of the year. I'll work on getting that back. Basically, I need to mix everything up.
Peaches~

[peachykeen Member Find all posts View Profile Close peachykeen]

Airton5user,
Thank you for your response. Forgive me for being brief. What I am think in the head about is, why do you feel like a worthless man when it happens? Especially, if your wife is fine when it happens. Is it because you wanted a type of intercourse, oral, or anal that you could not have in the moment? Or is it because you think your wife is wanting a certain type of anal, oral, or intercourse which she did not get? Why is it such a ego crusher if you are with someone who loves to .... you hard or not? I AM trying to understand. Sorry if I am catching on too slowly.
Peaches~

[Notbeginner Member Find all posts View Profile Close Notbeginner]

A lot of guess but anyway no clear answer. That seems if you have ED, then its for all your life

[peachykeen Member Find all posts View Profile Close peachykeen]

A lot of guess but anyway no clear answer. That seems if you have ED, then its for all your life

Notbeginner,
Many men find solutions for their ED. There is no clear answer. It is okay if it is for life...although, I have been told it might be better for my boyfriend if I am not so okay with his ED. Since it is a guess, I am trying to get advice and research from many people in hopes that a combination of things will help
Peaches~

[Notbeginner Member Find all posts View Profile Close Notbeginner]

I am ready to do anything to fully resolve my ED problems but i dont see any succesfull example

[peachykeen Member Find all posts View Profile Close peachykeen]

I am ready to do anything to fully resolve my ED problems but i dont see any succesfull example

I only have a couple of examples...but, I never ask people about their personal sex lives. What is your situation?
Peaches~

[Notbeginner Member Find all posts View Profile Close Notbeginner]

I only have a couple of examples...but, I never ask people about their personal sex lives. What is your situation?
Peaches~

In teen years i had good erection, no problem for that, even 2 years ago in school sometimes were with boner, unexpected but when i had girl, it was hard to maintain erection. Always during penetration lost it, all is ok until i get stimulated. In that time when i had girl i watched porn also every day because i was angry on myself,depression and i didnt PE in that time... when i started PE i had hard to get any erection for jelqing, almost always watched porn to get it.

Now after almost year in PE my erection is better, size increased but i still feel something is not like that. Now its 3 days when i am of porn, in mornings get wood, but not always so hard and long... example today got about 60% but today i feel overtraining, had PE 4 days in a row, so now will 2 days rest.

I hope my ED is caused do to porn addiction and bad habbits. Now will try quit porn forever, will do regular PE and then after few months see for results. Its hard to break bad habbits for 10 years, nothing changes fast, but i hope i can do it.

If after this i will continue problems, then i dont know what to do
Your BF has morning wood, unexpected erections, can he get hard while stimulated?

[Notbeginner Member Find all posts View Profile Close Notbeginner]

Also yesterday was in beach, saw few hot pussies and got boner

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

In teen years i had good erection, no problem for that, even 2 years ago in school sometimes were with boner, unexpected but when i had girl, it was hard to maintain erection. Always during penetration lost it, all is ok until i get stimulated. In that time when i had girl i watched porn also every day because i was angry on myself,depression and i didnt PE in that time... when i started PE i had hard to get any erection for jelqing, almost always watched porn to get it.

Now after almost year in PE my erection is better, size increased but i still feel something is not like that. Now its 3 days when i am of porn, in mornings get wood, but not always so hard and long... example today got about 60% but today i feel overtraining, had PE 4 days in a row, so now will 2 days rest.

I hope my ED is caused do to porn addiction and bad habbits. Now will try quit porn forever, will do regular PE and then after few months see for results. Its hard to break bad habbits for 10 years, nothing changes fast, but i hope i can do it.

If after this i will continue problems, then i dont know what to do
Your BF has morning wood, unexpected erections, can he get hard while stimulated?

Notbeginner - Please do not hijack another members thread - You are welcome to open up your own thread about your issues in the Erectile Dysfunction forum. Your answer is: inexperience, performance anxiety and Porn induced Erectile Dysfunction.

[Notbeginner Member Find all posts View Profile Close Notbeginner]

Notbeginner - Please do not hijack another members thread - You are welcome to open up your own thread about your issues in the Erectile Dysfunction forum. Your answer is: inexperience, performance anxiety and Porn induced Erectile Dysfunction.

Me asked, i gave answer. I think its not bad at all, share each other expierence,situation and search for solution. Anyway, i have read these topics for 2 days already and in some moments i get positive, in some i get depressive.

I hope now my 90day race will give some answers and good results