UPDATE: Please check page 3 for my 2019 update.
Hello there,
I am a 22 year male, slightly overweight, average looks, virgin.
I am experiencing something that is shutting down my whole sexual life. I cannot feel any pleasure on ejaculation anymore, no orgasms, no pleasure. This condition might have the name of anorgasmia.
The curious thing is that I that I don't have ED, my erections are good, I have lots of libido, I ejaculate normally, during masturbation I feel some pleasure and after ejaculation I have that peace of mind feeling. Everything looks normal from the physiological point of view, except that when I get after the PONR and start ejaculating I don't feel anything. It doesn't matter for how long I was masturbating, if it is with porn or not, if it is after days of not masturbating, I cannot feel an orgasm anymore.
So, now I will give some background of what might have happened. I watch porn regularly since I was 12 and got hardcore over time. In 2011 I met my first girlfriend. She would call her self nymphomaniac and talk about sex with me daily, but somehow, she stalled me during this whole time and we did not had sex. She had a really problematic personalty. Anyway, on December 2011 she broke up with me. Like most first loves a man has, she broke me apart and I missed her like hell and felt deeply depressed. And one thing that I've found out that could keep her out of my mind was masturbating.
I started masturbating about 6~8 times a day, with no purpose of feeling pleasure whatsoever, just to get it done and feel the anxiolytic properties masturbation gives you. I remember occasions I would ejaculate after ten seconds without even getting hard, it was a weird shit. I kept doing this for about a couple weeks. Then I started to feel better and moved on without her. But after this I started feeling less and less pleasure, and on about late 2012 I've totally lost any feeling of pleasure upon ejaculation.
My hypothesis are:
What I think might help:
I started seeing a therapist for other problems among this one, thought it might help to overcome this.
Although this is probably just on my head, I will go to a urologist to just to make sure I don't have a physiological problem.
I am getting pretty desperate with this and I am feeling terrible of not feeling one of the greatest things a man can feel.
What are you guys thoughts on this? What do you think this might be and how to overcome it?
I'd like to thank you in advance, your answers will be really appreciated!
Thank you very much for reading so far and helping me out!
Regards,
Blackmesa
TL;DR: Got depressed after first GF broke up with me. Masturbated compulsively 6~8 times a day for two weeks to get her out of my head. After this started feeling less and less pleasure. Started watching even hardcore porn to overcome it. After half an year couldn't feel pleasure from ejaculation anymore.
Hello there,
I am a 22 year male, slightly overweight, average looks, virgin.
I am experiencing something that is shutting down my whole sexual life. I cannot feel any pleasure on ejaculation anymore, no orgasms, no pleasure. This condition might have the name of anorgasmia.
The curious thing is that I that I don't have ED, my erections are good, I have lots of libido, I ejaculate normally, during masturbation I feel some pleasure and after ejaculation I have that peace of mind feeling. Everything looks normal from the physiological point of view, except that when I get after the PONR and start ejaculating I don't feel anything. It doesn't matter for how long I was masturbating, if it is with porn or not, if it is after days of not masturbating, I cannot feel an orgasm anymore.
So, now I will give some background of what might have happened. I watch porn regularly since I was 12 and got hardcore over time. In 2011 I met my first girlfriend. She would call her self nymphomaniac and talk about sex with me daily, but somehow, she stalled me during this whole time and we did not had sex. She had a really problematic personalty. Anyway, on December 2011 she broke up with me. Like most first loves a man has, she broke me apart and I missed her like hell and felt deeply depressed. And one thing that I've found out that could keep her out of my mind was masturbating.
I started masturbating about 6~8 times a day, with no purpose of feeling pleasure whatsoever, just to get it done and feel the anxiolytic properties masturbation gives you. I remember occasions I would ejaculate after ten seconds without even getting hard, it was a weird shit. I kept doing this for about a couple weeks. Then I started to feel better and moved on without her. But after this I started feeling less and less pleasure, and on about late 2012 I've totally lost any feeling of pleasure upon ejaculation.
My hypothesis are:
- This experience made my brain start to interpret the orgasm as a way to relieve anxiety instead of giving pleasure
- As I went more and more hardcore seeking pleasure I've become more addict to porn and thus developed a compulsion in masturbation even without pleasure and this got me into a negative feedback loop where I would get less and less pleasure
What I think might help:
- Stop looking at porn to detoxify from porn addiction
- Don't masturbate or masturbate less to "reset" how the mind perceives pleasure
- Go back in doing PE exercises (I started doing a year ago https://www.pegym.com/forums/progres...gress-log.html)
- Seek psychological help
I started seeing a therapist for other problems among this one, thought it might help to overcome this.
Although this is probably just on my head, I will go to a urologist to just to make sure I don't have a physiological problem.
I am getting pretty desperate with this and I am feeling terrible of not feeling one of the greatest things a man can feel.
What are you guys thoughts on this? What do you think this might be and how to overcome it?
I'd like to thank you in advance, your answers will be really appreciated!
Thank you very much for reading so far and helping me out!
Regards,
Blackmesa
TL;DR: Got depressed after first GF broke up with me. Masturbated compulsively 6~8 times a day for two weeks to get her out of my head. After this started feeling less and less pleasure. Started watching even hardcore porn to overcome it. After half an year couldn't feel pleasure from ejaculation anymore.
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