anxiety, bruised and now cant do exercises, advice please

[julian1963 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close julian1963]

So I've been doing the exercises for about a month with pretty nifty visual gains. Yep it works. Now however I've got a problem.

I've always been anxiety prone, and I met a new gal about a month ago. Per the course performance anxiety prevents me from maintain an erection for sex, but when I'm alone I can get it up to do the work. However I've found that the only way to get hard anymore is to furiosly masturbate, dunno maybe I've decreased sensitivity due to a lot of edging, etc, or maybe its all in my mind. Now the problem, a few days ago while trying to have sex I jerked off so hard and fast I bruised something (and actually ejaculated soft). Woke up with a slight pain at the base which quickly turned to aching inside the shaft and a limp dwindling dick.

Fast forward a few days and when alone I can't even do stretches. So my PE routines are shot. It feels like my stomach muscles are pulling my dick inward, it's a tight feeling, usually associated I think with fear. Forget jelqing there's nothing there to jelg. I did wake up with semi wood, and no ache ir pain so all I guess is not lost.

My question is, I really enjoyed the PE, and now I'm on hiatus trying to figure out what the hell is going on. I'm afraid to even try and fail, yea it's self fulfilling I know but it's not all psychological since the aches are there. I'm probably afraid I damaged something and lost inches or have a dead dick altogether.

So I'm posting this for advice, maybe someone is or has gone through this and can offer hope, how long the aches or inner bruising lasts, or if I should just shoot myself. I have no physical signs of bruising btw, just inner aches and a weird pulling or tightening feeling and little blood flow.

Having anxiety doesn't help too. Is this all mental? Or a combination of both? The reason why I jerked so hard is because I can't remain hard in front of a woman, so it could take 2 hours to do anything at all, is it possible to overjerk yourself? Where you desensitize?

If someone 'gets' this post, please help out, I want to get back to the PE which ironically was going great, free from injury. Unless it was overtrained a bit and the furious jerk put it over the edge.

Thanks for listening, guys. I'm 52 yo btw.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

So why not give it time to heal, you know like 3-4 weeks. Don't you think that would be wise?

[julian1963 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close julian1963]

So why not give it time to heal, you know like 3-4 weeks. Don't you think that would be wise?

The voice of reason

I'm just pissed. My whole equilibrium is thrown off, constipated and feeling lousy overall. I was really enjoying PE. Are gains easily lost? Can gains actually turn to atrophy, you know I've got this fear of never getting it up again, or decreasing size for some reason.

These are the thoughts of a wandering anxious mind unfortunately.

And a turtled limp member.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

You'd feel the same way if I punched you in the stomach. Just give it time and no you won't lose everything. Okay go have some breakfast. Bacon is very good for healing!

[Dangler Senior Administrator☼ Wizard ☼ White Tiger Award 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Dangler]

In the future, one trap to avoid is ' more is better '. It can be trying for results faster or sooner.

Here is a tip for anxiety.
Create balanced thinking.
You notice you are thinking of 'never getting it up again', create an opposing positive thought to balance your negative. (I'll heal, improve, be able to get erect).

This will keep you in control, balanced, and prevent you from descending into a pool of your own Snot.

[julian1963 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close julian1963]

Thanks guys.

Let me ask a quick question.

Can all this pulling and tugging from either PE or masturbation (or both) cause symptoms that resemble a hernia or more specifically pulled muscle. Because I can't figure out what this constricted pulling or tightening feeling is from. I can't even do stetches because it's not elastic, It's hard to put to words but I'm sure others have had this issue.

Thanks again

I look forward to getting back to 'work'

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Never had the issues you describe, but the ED coupled with the constipation & abdominal aching indicates an imbalance in your pelvic muscles (PC & BC), IMO. Try channeling all that anxiety into a good workout routine at the gym. Do deep flat-footed squats, yoga poses (Dog/Cat) and give yourself a good physical workout. It will relieve the anxiety and help balance your pelvic floor, plus you'll be improving your health in other ways too! Just a suggestion while you take a break from PE to benefit from the negatives you're suffering.