Problem with girlfriend!!!!! Please help ....

[EQKing Banned Find all posts View Profile Close EQKing]

EQKing... Come on! I've a hard time calling this love, so let's drop that. As I see it you should be honest and straight - take all these things with her, spill your guts and tell her everything (even that you cheated), if she means that much to you (even if not).

You need to take a step back and get some perspective, let what happens happen (it will anyways) and get a grip on yourself... so you can feel better!!!

Cheating on her... that is just bad man; why would you expect her to behave any different towards you? Are you projecting your bad conscious on to her? Even though you might be right about her cheating - takes one to know one right?!

The way your describing the situation now it's just heading for disaster... if you don't act on it!!!

Do what it takes to get a hold of it and make yourself feel better!

I know cheating on her is bad but she does not know i am cheating on her .... she thinks i am faithful .... she does not have a reason to cheat in that sense ....

[rayz Member Find all posts View Profile Close rayz]

You are too serious with her. That is why you are confused. To be honest, do you see yourself in the future with her? Being needy and clingy kill attractiveness. Well, just never play in their "GAME". Don't always call but call only if you feel like doing it. If you give her more power and when she sense it, she will keep on pushing the button. If a girl make me feel jealous (this is my favourite part) I will not fall for her game. What I will do is do her the feel more and more jealous. This shows her that I can live without her. When she feels that she will stop doing all this things and try to win your attention. Remember, with confidence we're the prize not the girls. If you can adapt this mindset, you will succeed not only with her but with other girls too.

[EQKing Banned Find all posts View Profile Close EQKing]

You are too serious with her. That is why you are confused. To be honest, do you see yourself in the future with her? Being needy and clingy kill attractiveness. Well, just never play in their "GAME". Don't always call but call only if you feel like doing it. If you give her more power and when she sense it, she will keep on pushing the button. If a girl make me feel jealous (this is my favourite part) I will not fall for her game. What I will do is do her the feel more and more jealous. This shows her that I can live without her. When she feels that she will stop doing all this things and try to win your attention. Remember, with confidence we're the prize not the girls. If you can adapt this mindset, you will succeed not only with her but with other girls too.

Thanks for the advice there ....

[EQKing Banned Find all posts View Profile Close EQKing]

You are too serious with her. That is why you are confused. To be honest, do you see yourself in the future with her? Being needy and clingy kill attractiveness. Well, just never play in their "GAME". Don't always call but call only if you feel like doing it. If you give her more power and when she sense it, she will keep on pushing the button. If a girl make me feel jealous (this is my favourite part) I will not fall for her game. What I will do is do her the feel more and more jealous. This shows her that I can live without her. When she feels that she will stop doing all this things and try to win your attention. Remember, with confidence we're the prize not the girls. If you can adapt this mindset, you will succeed not only with her but with other girls too.

I agree with you that i am kinda being too serious about her .... I think i need to take a step back and analyze this relationship ....

[larrypinball Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close larrypinball]

I know cheating on her is bad but she does not know i am cheating on her .... she thinks i am faithful .... she does not have a reason to cheat in that sense ....

Not true, she has as good a reason to cheat on you as you have to cheat on her.

[rayz Member Find all posts View Profile Close rayz]

there are still a lot of girls out there.

[larrypinball Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close larrypinball]

You are too serious with her. That is why you are confused. To be honest, do you see yourself in the future with her? Being needy and clingy kill attractiveness. Well, just never play in their "GAME". Don't always call but call only if you feel like doing it. If you give her more power and when she sense it, she will keep on pushing the button. If a girl make me feel jealous (this is my favourite part) I will not fall for her game. What I will do is do her the feel more and more jealous. This shows her that I can live without her. When she feels that she will stop doing all this things and try to win your attention. Remember, with confidence we're the prize not the girls. If you can adapt this mindset, you will succeed not only with her but with other girls too.

rayz, what you're basically saying is that he should play his own game instead of hers. Come on, he comes and asks for advice on what he describes as a serious relationship. It turns out that he THINKS that she's cheating on him, but he's the one DOING IT himself. He's already playing her big time and at the same time feels insecure and bad about their relationship.

I say stop playing games and just admit that it's not a serious relationship. Even if it's not serious, there's no need to play games - that is just immature and stupid... It's obvious what happens when you do, just look at this thread.

[Elias Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Elias]

Fuck fuck fuck!

What do you want with her EQKing?

Larrry and I have been giving you some good advice in how to fix the situation because it seems that you are a good guy (turns out you cheated on her so maybe you are not such a good guy). And you let us believe that you want something serious with her. We have been telling you to be honest and not see the relationship as a game.

But now we have Rayz here, giving the opposite advice of how to play the game and how to be the winner in the relationship. Okay, no offence Rayz, that's one way of looking at it. But for you EQKing, listen to me now! Make up your mind! Don't agree with Rayz just because he might be saying something you want to hear! I know you don't want to be clingy and you want to be the Alpha Male but seriously, make up your mind what you want with her!

If you want to be a player and have her on the side while screwing other girls, then do it! But get rid of the ideas of having something serious with her. It will never happen! But if you do want something more with her, then read again what Larry has been writing. It's not that difficult mate.

[rayz Member Find all posts View Profile Close rayz]

It's just my opinion. Of cause, he is the one who should decide what he wants. moreover, what he said here doesn't make this sound like a serious relationship.

[Elias Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Elias]

It's just my opinion. Of cause, he is the one who should decide what he wants. moreover, what he said here doesn't make this sound like a serious relationship.

It sounded first that he is serious with her. But during these 7 pages of posts in this thread, it seems that he is not so much serious after all. That's why I also said that he should make up his mind.

[larrypinball Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close larrypinball]

Elias, it's been my pleasure getting to know you through this thread. I also believe that EQKing is, or at least wants to be, a good guy - but this is getting somewhat ridiculous and I think the time has come for me to leave it at that.

EQKing, you came on here with honest intentions and you sometimes seem like a great guy.
If you want something real, listen to Elias.
If you want to be a player and have something fake, listen to rayz (no offense, just calling it like it is).

Hope you make up your mind in a way that makes you feel better. Good luck man!

[EQKing Banned Find all posts View Profile Close EQKing]

rayz, what you're basically saying is that he should play his own game instead of hers. Come on, he comes and asks for advice on what he describes as a serious relationship. It turns out that he THINKS that she's cheating on him, but he's the one DOING IT himself. He's already playing her big time and at the same time feels insecure and bad about their relationship.

I say stop playing games and just admit that it's not a serious relationship. Even if it's not serious, there's no need to play games - that is just immature and stupid... It's obvious what happens when you do, just look at this thread.

I agree a lot with what you have said in this post especially the last two lines in the first paragraph .... It's just that incase she's cheating i just don't want to be made a fool of .... i lent her 20,000 bahts to solve her financial issues and if she's bonking some other guy,that's not fair .... it just makes me feel better to have the upper hand in this relationship ....

[EQKing Banned Find all posts View Profile Close EQKing]

there are still a lot of girls out there.

I agree with that though .... don't want to put all my eggs in one basket ....

[EQKing Banned Find all posts View Profile Close EQKing]

Fuck fuck fuck!

What do you want with her EQKing?

Larrry and I have been giving you some good advice in how to fix the situation because it seems that you are a good guy (turns out you cheated on her so maybe you are not such a good guy). And you let us believe that you want something serious with her. We have been telling you to be honest and not see the relationship as a game.

But now we have Rayz here, giving the opposite advice of how to play the game and how to be the winner in the relationship. Okay, no offence Rayz, that's one way of looking at it. But for you EQKing, listen to me now! Make up your mind! Don't agree with Rayz just because he might be saying something you want to hear! I know you don't want to be clingy and you want to be the Alpha Male but seriously, make up your mind what you want with her!

If you want to be a player and have her on the side while screwing other girls, then do it! But get rid of the ideas of having something serious with her. It will never happen! But if you do want something more with her, then read again what Larry has been writing. It's not that difficult mate.

I used to be so obsessed about her in the first 2-3 months .... not as much now .... i still do miss her when i don't meet her but not as much as in the past .... I remember the first time after i had sex with her i waited a week to call her and make a date because i wanted to sleep with her again .... I told myself i'll screw her one more time and then i'll never see her again .... this trend didn't stop and we got really attracted to each other and things went on from there to my obsession .... During my obsession i'd wish that i'd soon get bored of her sex and not so dependant on it which will make me want to leave her automatically because i couldn't control my craving for her when i was not with her .... my desperation to see her is slowly fading away which is a good sign to keep things balanced ....

[EQKing Banned Find all posts View Profile Close EQKing]

I am still not completely bored of her sex .... I used to try and see the negative things in her physical appearances to motivate myself from getting bored of her and her sex .... i think it helped a bit .... not much though ....