Thanks you two. Its frustrating. Got blood work back and it wasn't what we expected.. So another colonoscopy for this girl! I'll best this beasty yet again, just gotta go through the process. All in good time we'll figure it out.
People may not remember what you did or what you said but they'll always remeber how you made them feel. 😉
So there I am trying to offer my help to my brother in helping him move and helping him clean and get organized after he moves and yet a-fucking-gain I get chewed out by his wife telling me to shut the fuck up and that "they can clean for free". A bit of context my brother and his wife are slobs, neither of them are known for their cleaning ability, plenty of times going to their apartment there wasn't a place to sit it was so dirty.
I've tried as much as possible to help him while he's been living with his wife. When he didn't have a job I tried to get him into my shitty cleaning job, and he could come and help, but at the last moment renegged and said he was tired. Yes, that job was shit, but at least it could give him a little cash. I constantly say I can help by cleaning or spending time with him, to help his depression, and he constantly rejects my offers, even though recently he said he wants to spend time with people and is depressed that he doesn't. I've always tried to help him at every turn, didn't move out so he could and he wouldn't have to take care of our mother. During the years he was gone he could only help with her a handful of times over the years, even though I was forced to miss school or work to do so. While he's been depressed these past months and quit his job I've tried my best to get together and do stuff, but that doesn't work, and nine out of ten times when I call to talk he can't be bothered to pick up the phone or return my call. I take all these damn bullets for him and stick my neck out and all I get is bitched at from his wife and ignored by him.
We used to be inseparable and yet even though we only live four miles apart I've only seen him once in two years. This kills me to do so, but I'm done with him. I'm sure later this will hit me like a freight train, but I can't stand it anymore. Considering how close we were it hurts every time and at least now I won't be ignored further.
Donnie he's sick; his mind is broken. The only thing you can do is call once a week whether he talks to you or not and just love him. I am so proud of what you're doing.
The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!
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Jay1983
Senior Member Member of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016
I’ll tell ya after having so much trouble getting to orgasm. When ya final do, it really lightens your attitude. What a relief.
Jay, Don, that means you!
A prayer, is kinda the same as a "Like". If there are enough likes, God will take notice. So "Like" away please. My daughter needs your prayers. Thank You.
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Jay1983
Senior Member Member of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016
Donnie he's sick; his mind is broken. The only thing you can do is call once a week whether he talks to you or not and just love him. I am so proud of what you're doing.
I'd like to, but even calling him he barely picks up or calls back, if ever. Even when he's not super depressed he seems to avoid me for whatever his reasons may be. Honestly, I'm just tired of his wife constantly giving me shit when I try to do something. Yes, I do it for longer than I probably should, but I can't see why trying to help is such a bad thing.
There is often one sibling who cares and the other doesn’t. Be proud of the fact that you are the caring one.
is it possible for you to meet your brother without his wife and explain how you feel and assure him you want to help him?
The chance of that happening is close to nonexistent. Him and her do almost everything together, unless she does stuff, and since he doesn't drive he can only really go where she goes.
At this point I'm just tired. I've kept my mouth shut for too long about it and today gave a good excuse to finally say something. If he doesn't call or try to explain or apologize then I have my answer, and right now it's looking like he doesn't really care anyways as his only response was an angry emoji.
I’ll tell ya after having so much trouble getting to orgasm. When ya final do, it really lightens your attitude. What a relief.
Jay, Don, that means you!
I do that 2-3 times a day. It's really just to stave off boredom or to curb the feeling of being horny. Plus, if I did it right now, just before bed, I'd end up dehydrated and probably with a minor UTI.
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