Average.

[spanky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spanky]

I think I would know if somebody used a "tactful" word or phrase - and that would feel MORE like an insult or a problem.

If someone says I'm normal, I think ok, there's room to improve if I want, but if I don't make the effort, it's normal. It's fine.

If someone says I'm "acceptably endowed" or something, it's going to feel like you're avoiding saying something you think would hurt my feelings. That is MORE likely to set me off and make me wonder what you're avoiding saying.

Just tell it like it is, and work on guys' SELF CONFIDENCE to ACCEPT THE TRUTH instead of playing these ego games. The best thing you can do for a guy is teach him to be proud of who and what he is, not to pretend HE'S AWESUM!!111 and play tact games. It's like saying a fat girl has a "great personality". Anyone with an ounce of intelligence will notice, whether they realise or admit it or not.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

Have you ever heard of the 'euphemism treadmill'? It's where people come up with a new word for something that's meant to avoid the negative connotations of the old word, but just ends up acquiring those connotations anyway because it simply refers to the same thing.

Example: in the UK there used to be a charity for people with cerebral palsy called The Spastics Society. But 'spastic' became a favourite playground insult, so in an attempt to avoid the stigma of the word, the charity changed its name to the rather meaningless SCOPE. Overnight, 'scoper' became the new 'spastic'. Similarly, terms like 'retarded', 'handicapped' and 'disabled' were seen as perpetuating stigma and negative feelings about certain people, so then we had 'special schools' for pupils with 'special needs'. Predictably, 'special' has since come to mean 'retarded'.

Another example is 'toilet'. Originally this word had nothing to do with bodily functions, it just meant the place where you do personal stuff like wash, dress and apply cosmetics. Hence 'eau de toilette'. But it came to be used as a euphemism for, well, pissing and shitting (excuse my Anglo-Saxon), to the point where delicate-souled Americans decided that even the word 'toilet' was too crude, and started saying 'bathroom', 'washroom' or 'restroom' instead.

Sorry if this is all totally obvious, I'm not trying to talk down to anyone here. My point is this: that whatever word you choose to replace 'average' will fairly quickly acquire all the negative connotations that 'average' has and will itself come to be seen as a negative word. Then we'll need a new word to replace that, and so on and so on. There is no way around this - until men start to come round to the idea that an average-sized penis is perfectly adequate for being a great lover as long as you're in good general health, find your partner attractive and pay attention to her pleasure.

I should point out that I'm as guilty as anyone of having a totally irrational 'thing' about dick size. I mean, to be quite honest, mine was pretty big to start with and I still wanted to make it bigger. Ironically, it was perhaps the fact that I was naturally lucky in this respect that made me want even more, because of the response it got from some girls - since not all women go for really big dicks but, well, obviously some do - that made me think "if 'some' is good, 'more' is better". Exposure to porn probably played its part too - I'm straight but for whatever reason, it really turns me on to see women getting fucked by really hung guys. Well go figure, no-one ever said human sexuality is straightforward. And of course the general assumption that "bigger is better" that completely pervades our culture, and that forums like this one are both a response to and a cause of.

I appreciate this post and totally agree with it.......

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

I also think this is being WAY over analyzed.......

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Tink. If you personally are looking for a new word I think just telling him he makes you feel good is the best. I mean if a guy asks you to rate his penis that's a red flag. Not only in him but why would he fish like that. I don't think he has the right to know what size has been inside us Nor do we have the right to know the size of the vjjj he has been in. Sorry I didn't get the question initially

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Tink. If you personally are looking for a new word I think just telling him he makes you feel good is the best. I mean if a guy asks you to rate his penis that's a red flag. Not only in him but why would he fish like that. I don't think he has the right to know what size has been inside us Nor do we have the right to know the size of the vjjj he has been in. Sorry I didn't get the question initially

I totally agree with you on the first part, as for the red flag thing, I don't know why it should be perceived that way, personally I would never ask that question, and if I really really want to, it wouldn't be about her previous relationships or a comparison , I'd just be concerned if I'm not endowed enough for her liking (no prejudice implied) so a comment like I've had bigger/thicker/longer would not bother me IF she is sexually satisfied with my penis or even better prefers it (I know, the latter is just a fantasy).

[spanky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spanky]

A number of girls I've been with have told me that their ex was smaller, or otherwise not as good in some way...

I wonder how true any of it was?

Not that it matters, since I know an orgasm when I see one.. or five...

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

No I am not personally looking for a word to use. I do just fine in that area of dick talk.

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

Wow, 16 pages.

I wouldn't like the term average, or any synonym of the word, no one likes to be just average. I personally prefer it when my girlfriend just says that my dick is hard, or something similar, as it sounds kind of ridiculous whenever she says that i'm big.

If you aren't big I think it's best to avoid it really, it will only lead to inadvertently hurt feelings.

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

I agree Wow 16 pages..
its been interesting what it has stirred for responses.
My making of the thread was really with this place in mind. its where size talk happens.

[Going411x7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going411x7]

yes but as a male would you want to hear those words.
looking for something that doesn't attach negative feelings.

How about "median," Tink? This means that half are lower than this figure, half are higher.

[Ivor Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ivor]

How about "median," Tink? This means that half are lower than this figure, half are higher.

Despite everything I said earlier, this isn't a bad suggestion. 'Average' has connotations of mediocrity, whereas 'median' is more statistical.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Despite everything I said earlier, this isn't a bad suggestion. 'Average' has connotations of mediocrity, whereas 'median' is more statistical.

Unfortunately, median means in the middle such as right at 5.534. If you are below 5.534 you are below median whereas you are still in the average range.

How about "capable of satisfying" in size

[Closed039 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed039]

How about "capable of satisfying" in size

Problem is that "capable of satisfying" is probably an accurate description of 99% of the cocks on this planet, and doesn't distinguish between big dicks or small. It is also too subjectively based on the woman.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Problem is that "capable of satisfying" is probably an accurate description of 99% of the cocks on this planet, and doesn't distinguish between big dicks or small. It is also too subjectively based on the woman.

But wouldn't this allow 99% of the guys on the planet to be comfortable with their size. It also implys that their cocks are CAPABLE of satisfying not necessarily will be satisfying.

[TheSperminator Member of the Month Oct 12 Find all posts View Profile Close TheSperminator]

But wouldn't this allow 99% of the guys on the planet to be comfortable with their size. It also implys that their cocks are CAPABLE of satisfying not necessarily will be satisfying.

Good point.