BDSM, anybody else into it?

[Black Amethyst Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Black Amethyst]

I will be planning on purchasing a fucking machine this coming up year with ropes, cuffs and bars. We are also planning on decorating the master bedroom with sex furniture or furniture with the plans of being ideal for sex

[Looking4more Retired Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Looking4more]

As far as sex furniture is concerned, I HIGHLY recommend the Tantra chair. It is phenomenal! Leather cuffs we get from independent dealers on Etsy.com. The dealer's name is Bearthings. Very reasonable and good quality.

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My girl and I are into it. We cuffs and leg irons, and a couple of swings, she has an array of outfits ( I rarely wear much more than a cockring, guys fetish clothes seem a bit gay for us). It's a lot of fun.

Ravenously,
I am with you on that one. I myself can't get into most of the male fetish clothing either. I also usually wear just a cock ring if anything at all. Might look into some leather pants (Mrs. likes them).

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trust me..everyone that knows me now knows what BDSM is.

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My girl and I are into it. We cuffs and leg irons, and a couple of swings, she has an array of outfits ( I rarely wear much more than a cockring, guys fetish clothes seem a bit gay for us). It's a lot of fun.

Yes, there is not a lot of nice fetish clothes for you all but some lace up front (no zipper) leather pants looks hot as hell, just saying. Open laces for play and play on. Also them cockrings are beautiful and the metal ones come in all kinds of designs. I love the look of them on (the ones around the penis and testes), it makes the cock stand out and looks gorgeous!

[mrmark Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mrmark]

I enjoy a bit of light bdsm,not really into big pain but some can be highly erotic i like c.b.t and loved to be hand and leg cuffed while it is performed on me a blindfold is always welcome as well because you never know whats coming next and finally a ball gag can be useful if you have a loud partner!.

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We have a ball gag but still haven't used it yet. Just keep forgetting we have it. I love the blindfold myself. Just like you mentioned, I like the not knowing what's next. I really love putting it on the Mrs. and keep her guessing and watching her expressions,SO GOOD!!!

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I enjoy a bit of light bdsm,not really into big pain but some can be highly erotic i like c.b.t and loved to be hand and leg cuffed while it is performed on me a blindfold is always welcome as well because you never know whats coming next and finally a ball gag can be useful if you have a loud partner!.

I love the blindfold too! It is highly erotic, specially when combined with sensation play.

[Paramount Member Find all posts View Profile Close Paramount]

Just wanted to see how many other people in the Gym are into BDSM

It's no secret here, my guy and I are very much into BDSM, both B & D, S & M. As far as the S & M goes--I do consider myself a masochist (someone who enjoys pain, and recieves pleasure from it) however my guy only takes on a sadist role when we are in a specific scene, and gains pleasure from the pain, and pleasure inflicted on me. I have a very high pain threshold, and I like to act out our scenes in more than a mild way. We've been together for years, and have spent alot of time working on it, and exploring. The MR and MRS did an excellent job of explaining B & D. I'd like to talk about the S & D aspect---which is often the side which people are afraid of, and consider highly taboo. There is nothing to fear, because the scene is controlled at all times, both parties are consenting adults, and the submissive (me) is really calling all the shots. I'm choosing to give him my power, and he know's my hard and soft limits. We always talk about this--and we have safe words which are used to stop everything, slow down, say I'm near my limit, or that I'm perfectly fine, even if I'm pleading no. (No and stop are not one of our safe words, and my guy knows that I say it all the time.)



Why do we do this? Because it's FUN, and enjoyable. It's not about him punishing me literally--although I do like to be "punished"-- or domestic violence. We would never lay a hand on each other out of anger, and we never have. It's about having such a strong connection as soul mates, that we're able to freely explore our deepest erotic desires, in a safe and loving way.

So what do we do exactly? Aside from rough sex, being blind folded, tied up, tossed around, or pinned down, I enjoy:

Spankings: Over his lap, with an open hand, where I count outloud--sometime's I don't, on purpose, so he'll "punish" me more-- Or with a small paddle, or wooden spoon. I ask for spankings quite often in and outside of the bedroom. He knows my limit, and he usually goes just enough to make my cheeks pink. In our daily lives, sometime's I'll do something that would warrent a spanking in a scene and he'll smile and tell me, "You deserve a spanking for that." It's entirely up to me if he does it or not, but I usually always want one.

As MRS mentioned, a pussy spanking is always nice too.

Flogging: Using a flogger to "slap" various areas of my body. The trick is all in the wrist action--and it can be mild to very painful, depending on the scene. This usually comes into play for pussy spankings-- and I appreciate it very much.

Clamps, and Clothes pins: I love having nipple clamps on my breasts. I like when he tugs on them, and causes pleasure, and pain--it sends tingles down my body. Clothes pins are also used, in various ways on the body, and work well for clitoral stimulation--they don't dig into your skin like clamps do. (I do like when he uses clamps on me too--depends on my mood.)

Gag ties and Choking: This is more just part of bondage, but it can be very serious. Wearing a ball gag for hours, takes practice, and discipline. I love to be choked during sex, and my guy knows me well enough to know what my limit is, and what he can and can not do. Alot of people judge choking, but there is a certain pain and pleasure that comes from not being able to breathe---it produces a euphoric rush. He does not choke me out, and it is a hard limit. I wouldn't recomend this for beginners, as there must be an incredible amount of trust and communication, in order to be safe and have fun.

Rope: I enjoy rope bondage, immensly. There are many different techniques and styles to this, as well as precautions. Breast bondage and crotch rope, are some that I like alot. I would never try being fully suspended, as I feel that it is too dangerous, and must be done in the right setting, other than the bedroom.

Waxing & Wax tourture: Wax tourture is the act of being laid out, restrained, and having hot wax poured onto various parts of your body. This isnt House of Wax, it's not burning my skin off, just hot enough to make me flinch for a second, while he slowly teases and tortues me into submission. Usually this is in addition to the clamps, ties, blindfolds, and floggers. Usually it's about a punishment/ reward sytem.

Waxing--yes, part of our play involves him waxing the hair off my body--legs, bikini etc. Don't look so shocked. As all women who wax know--hard wax is painful, and I love the sensation. It's not something we do all the time, but something I enjoy him doing to and for me.

Overall, these are the things I can think of off the top of my head. We don't do caining, and he would never want too. I like to be tourtured, but I don't want to be scared, or injured. With all things, it's just about finding your niche--what your both comfortable with, and always putting saftey ahead of pleasure.

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Great post Paramount! I am also a masochist and love all of the above except chocking. I also have a pretty high tolerance for pain and I love it when we have impact play. We always make sure to have great aftercare specially after flogging or spanking, whipping. I can honestly say I am totally a kinkster even for quickies some element will pop.

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Haha, awesome! We have such simular interests AND your a masochist---were we seperated at birth?

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Haha, awesome! We have such simular interests AND your a masochist---were we seperated at birth?

LOL Did you check out the Hot Guys Threads. I have some boys tied up in it. Yummy! Feel free to add if you have any.

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I'll go check it out---

[rollingthunder Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close rollingthunder]

I can't believe how many years of sex and relationships it took me to figure out why I get bored with some women.

I always naturally gravitate towards light domination. Hair grabbing, light spanking, restraining hands. If the woman didn't respond, no big deal, but this was always an indicator of very vanilla sex in my future.
I only realized recently that domination is just to big a part of who I am to be ignored.
I like strong, independent women. I like it when a woman who is a force of nature in her own right feels drawn to give herself to me in a way she may never have in her life. Deep in a core of her that she didn't even know was there.
If I had realized this sooner, well...who knows.
If a woman already knows that she craves domination that might be even better. I wouldn't know..

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I'm with you Rollingthunder.
My Mrs is a force to be reckoned with but has put such faith and trust in me to dominate her in the bedroom. It still blows my mind sometimes when I think about it. We truly are meant for each other and we have always "clicked" in the bedroom and out. I pray you too find a woman that fulfills all your dreams and fantasies.