8 Dating/Sex Questions Women Really Want to Know from Men

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Hey Fellas,

Are you up for answering some sex/dating questions about men that a great many women have been asking me lately? If so, please know that there is no need to answer all of them, just the ones that pertain to you. Ready? OK, here goes…

DATING:

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?

2. What can she do to let you know she is romantically interested in you? Is there anything she should never do?

3. What are your expectations of a romantic partner?

4. How much does it matter if she is not a virgin?

SEX:

1. What do men really think about during sex?

2. What should women really stop worrying about during sex?

3. What is the one thing men wish women did in bed that they never do?

4. What is the sexiest thing a woman can do during sexual play?

D1: Loving, Loyal, Honest, being straight forward, I know those are four, but the last one is really important, I hate beating around the bushes.

D2: Just say it, be sincere and I'll feel it. And don't be self-conscious.

D3: I like simple stuff, mostly at home or a nice secluded place, just her presence and warmth of love are all I want.

D4: Doesn't matter at all, why would it! (Do they really worry about that)

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S1: Her reactions and responses, how good we feel, her breath, her eyes, her warmth, the whole experience.

S2: Ladies should really stop worrying. Just let go and enjoy.

S3: Self-consciousness.

S4: Look me in the eye, communication, being lax, in the moment, herself, unreserved and uninhibited.

[bumble Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bumble]

Firstly, I'd like to state that I haven't "dated" as much as some, probably. I don't get into a relationship unless I see long term potential. This means talking with the woman for a month, two, three maybe, and then "dating" but really, this means I am in a relationship with her because that's what I decided, we both seem to like one another and no one else is holding my attention, I am solely focused on her.

I've never really understood the, I want to see 4-5-10 women at a time and choose. I don't have enough energy for one woman, let alone two or three. Not to mention, if I'm seeing a bunch at a time, how do I really know what my emotions tell me?

So, take my answers coming from a guy that doesn't "date" really. But instead finds someone he's attracted to, let's it be known, then gets into a relationship.

DATING:

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?

1. Honesty and Openness. I think this is the most important attribute to a successful relationship. As many men have said here already, games, head games, stupid teenage idiocy is for the birds. I hate games. I think they are pointless. And for some reason society and media have really put a strain on the "date" "sex" "relationship" thing. When really if you like one another, you like one another. I also very much so like dedication to a partner, I am a big fan of Monogamy.

2. Empathy and Passion. I need a woman who inspires me. I'm an artist, a thinker, an entertainer. If my woman is a dead beat, no passion, no drive, no real purpose in life, it's a big downer to me. Having discussions about passion and love for life is really important to me. And when I say that, it doesn't mean you are really excited to go to the club on Friday with the girls. I mean, passion about making a difference in this life, for those around you and yourself. Always wanting to understand and search for better.

I see so many people just complacent with being a big pile of dirt in life. Getting happy through self gratification instead of something they work hard at, strive for and can be proud of themselves for.

When I ask women what they are most proud of, from ages 22-32, they say graduating school, mostly. My answer would be saving someone's life, helping my family through a rough time, caring for my mother when my dad passed away, dressing as Santa for Sick Kids Hospital, being a "big brother" to a younger kid less fortunate than me. To think that all people have to be proud of these days is a stupid piece of paper they read a bunch of books for, is idiocy at it's finest.

3. Physical/Emotional Affection and Sociable. If a woman can have nice conversations with strangers, that's important. If she can take an entire Sunday and cuddle, be silly in bed and goof around, that's important. A woman must like to be touched, touch and enjoy exploring one another, giving massages and receiving, enjoy kissing, enjoy holding hands and hugs and random shows of affection. They must also be comfortable telling me they miss me, they enjoy my company, they think about me, they wish I was with them, etc. These expressions of affection are quite important. Because if I don't get them, what's the point in giving them?

2. What can she do to let you know she is romantically interested in you? Is there anything she should never do?

She should flirt and ask me out.

Never be sexually aggressive. Sex feels good, but I can fuck any pussy and enjoy it. I can fuck any mouth and enjoy it. Make me enjoy the person before I enjoy the pussy.

3. What are your expectations of a romantic partner?

This is a hard question. I want to be her one and only, and me hers. That sums it up. I keep an open mind to every relationship I get involved in. All love is different and there are different things you might not have thought about that are special and key to being happy, why close yourself off with expectations?

But at the same time, I think women are filled with expectations. In fact, that's all they think about when getting into a new relationship. At least, younger women. All the ones I've dealt with. They have this idea of what they want. There has been one woman in my life who hit on me and asked me out because I surprised her and fill her with curiosity. She was curious about me. But I was in a relationship at the time and had to turn it away.

4. How much does it matter if she is not a virgin?

Not at all. It just matters she gives herself for emotional reasons and not "maybe he'll like me" or "I wanna just get laid".

SEX:

1. What do men really think about during sex?

I think a lot of things. Primarily about trying to get hard and stay hard. I also think very much about making her happy and if my penis is good enough. I have a few hangups when it comes to sex, and I really need to let them go. I think a lot of my ED comes from hangups during intercourse.

2. What should women really stop worrying about during sex?

The same thing all of us should, stop worrying about anything and enjoy yourself.

3. What is the one thing men wish women did in bed that they never do?

I've never really had this problem, I'm a good coach.

4. What is the sexiest thing a woman can do during sexual play?

Be vocal.

[jcarrier Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jcarrier]

DATING:

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?
Looks, charm and sense of honesty

2. What can she do to let you know she is romantically interested in you? Is there anything she should never do?
She needs to send direct signs, make compliments, let her know she is interested. What she shouldn't do is play little games.

3. What are your expectations of a romantic partner?
Good in bed, companion and one who know how to respect my space

4. How much does it matter if she is not a virgin?
Doesn't matter; but she can't be a person that has gotten around a lot

SEX:

1. What do men really think about during sex?
Is she liking it? Is she faking? I can't cum right now, hold on!

2. What should women really stop worrying about during sex?
Stop worrying if she is acting like a whore in bed

3. What is the one thing men wish women did in bed that they never do?
Truly release themselves

4. What is the sexiest thing a woman can do during sexual play?
Touch herself, passionate kisses

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

DATING:

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?
-Must be attracted physically
-Is she a happy fun person does she seem like someone I want to be with
-Must have some level of common sense

2. What can she do to let you know she is romantically interested in you? Is there anything she should never do?
-smiles always help
-introduce herself

3. What are your expectations of a romantic partner?
- no expectations just let it go where it goes
- be willing to listen to anything I can come up with and try anything she feels comfortable with

4. How much does it matter if she is not a virgin?
-I always prefered she wasnt a virgin and me personally I wouldnt sleep with a virgin unless I really thought I was gonna be with her for life

SEX:

1. What do men really think about during sex?
-Wow this feels amazing!!!!!
-Damn im lucky!!!!!
-Hope she is feeling as good as I am?
-Wonder if Im doing this right?
-Oh yeah thats the spot Im gonna make her scream!!!
-shit I thiink im gonna cum slow down for a second
-damn I hope I can get it back up I wasnt ready to finish

2. What should women really stop worrying about during sex?
-a woman has no need to worry about anything literally

3. What is the one thing men wish women did in bed that they never do?
-anything they really want dont hold back I dont care how crazy it is lets do it!!

4. What is the sexiest thing a woman can do during sexual play?
-compliment my penis
-tease by limiting my ability to touch or taste her
-go real slow and moan like it feels sooo good
-touch her own nipples
-go real slow moan and bite my nipples
-tease mke in public

[bumble Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bumble]

I have to jump in and agree with NCGUY here, a woman that knows to touch and please herself while I am pleasing her, is a huge turn on.

Forgot to mention that.

[Bigdaddy55 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Bigdaddy55]

DATING:

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?

Her personality and her tits. J/K. A Woman who is confident. Nothing sexier than that.It's hard to say because while I have certain "criteria" I look for I've dated a wide range of women. Some didn't have the attributes but there was something that attracted me to them.

2. What can she do to let you know she is romantically interested in you? Is there anything she should never do?

I don't mind a woman that goes after the things she likes, but at the least be flirtatious. Don't play hard to get. I understand playing the game a little and keeping something a mystery, but we're not kids, playing hard to get is annoying.

3. What are your expectations of a romantic partner?

Depends on the level of romanticism. If it's just a sexual partner, not much. Just be available. If it's someone that I am serious with I expect honesty, put some thought into the things you do and the little things.

4. How much does it matter if she is not a virgin?

What happened before isn't that important, but honestly I prefer it. I don't want to be a teacher. I want someone who has some idea of what they are doing and if it doesn't work out, I'm not the jerk that popped her and left.

SEX

1. What do men really think about during sex?

The first time, we think: "I can't believe she's having sex with me" along with "I hope I don't do anything that will turn her off or gross her out" don't cum too fast and I hope she'll want to do it again.

2. What should women really stop worrying about during sex?

The lights. If we thought you didn't look good, we wouldn't be in bed with you.

3. What is the one thing men wish women did in bed that they never do?

Stop being so self conscious. Confidence and a woman not afraid to try different things is so hot.

4. What is the sexiest thing a woman can do during sexual play?

Just initiate sometimes. It lets us know you want us as much as we want you.

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

Thanks so very much for all your answers gentlemen; insightful as usual. Let's keep them coming!

[HammerTime89 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HammerTime89]

Dating
1. Loyalty, honestly, and knows how to cut loose and have fun.

2. Seduction is all in the eyes for for me. The only thing they shouldn't do is bring up other guysor show interest in others.

3. The only expectation I would have is lust. Lust in my opinion is the biggest factor in any relationship.

4. Being a virgin wouldn't matter to me it would make it more special than anything else.

Sex
1. I think about how sexy she is and what I can do to put her on cloud nine.

2. Stop worrying about their bodies. If were with them then we think there attractive.

3. Being fondled in public is super hot to me. I love spontaneity and adventure.

4. When a women says you can do anything you want to me I go crazy. Being dominant and very open sexually being able to do anything and know she comfortable means its gonna be a crazy night.

[mcpecker Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mcpecker]

DATING:

I'm happily married, but will answer these for fun. Feel free to discard.

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?

Authenticity. Confidence. Compassion.

2. What can she do to let you know she is romantically interested in you? Is there anything she should never do?

Be honest and say "I'm interested in you." Maybe not so dryly. She should never play hard to get, or play games in general. I'm too old for that shit. Easiest way to make me walk away and not come back.

3. What are your expectations of a romantic partner?

Honesty. To take interest in the things that are interesting to me, and to expect no less of me. To keep me honest. To be my equal. To be loyal. To only have eyes for me. To respect herself and to respect me.

4. How much does it matter if she is not a virgin?

I would never expect that, and I wouldn't care. As long as she doesn't have a history of using / abusing men. I believe sex is intimate and only belongs in intimate relationships. It's the standard I set for myself in my personal life, so I haven no problem setting the bar there for someone else. I'm not interested in someone who views sex as anything less special.

SEX:

I have this regularly.

1. What do men really think about during sex?

OMG I'M HAVING SEX RIGHT NOW. BOOBS. BUTT. LEGS. TOES. TONGUE. BOOBS AGAIN. OMG A VAGINA. I'M SO EXCITED RIGHT NOW. I'M GONNA CUM. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. THAT WAS FANTASTIC. I'm so tired, and kind of hungry. I wonder if she wants Thai food.

2. What should women really stop worrying about during sex?

That they are in any way not perfect. When a man is having sex with a woman, we don't see ANY FLAWS. Feeling self-conscious can hurt the mood, or even ruin it. Trust me, we're very happy to be having sex with you. Just do what you do and we'll be happy. Nothing is sexier than a woman who feels sexy.

3. What is the one thing men wish women did in bed that they never do?

This is probably different for each person, and probably specific to each relationship. I guess if I had to pick one thing personally, it would be switching from sex to oral in a fluid fashion. It turns me on to see her lick her juices off of me. It's not that she never does it, she just has to be in a wild mood. But perhaps I wouldn't want her to fake it, so never mind.

4. What is the sexiest thing a woman can do during sexual play?

Read above, I think that's pretty sexy. And just to let go. Get what you want from me and do it passionately. That is very sexy to me.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Dating
1. A sense of humor (has fun, laughs a lot, witty, and gets my humor too)
A big heart (kind, considerate, and compassionate)
Confidence (okay with who she is, but not full of herself)

2. Besides just telling me straight out, obvious flirting, wanting to be around me, giving me her attention, engage in "get to know you" conversations.
A little chasing is fun, but never come off as disinterested, or play mind games. I don't care for that.

3. Trust, loyalty, honesty, passion, and an open mind and ear. To be as dedicated to the relationship as I am.

4. Doesn't matter at all. Experience or no experience is fine. A willingness and interest to explore sexually is a definite plus though, either way.

Sex
1. Her, her enjoyment, and responses. The feeling for me. The feel of her skin against mine. How sexy she is right now.

2. How they look, sound, or are doing. Being self-conscious in the bedroom.

3. Just let loose, go for it, do it, ask for it if they want it. Don't hold back. Everything else will follow.

4. If I had to sum it up in one idea...enthusiasm. If they're doing it because they're really enjoying it, most likely it will be sexy, whatever it is.

[BTBrian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BTBrian]

Hey Fellas,

Are you up for answering some sex/dating questions about men that a great many women have been asking me lately? If so, please know that there is no need to answer all of them, just the ones that pertain to you. Ready? OK, here goes…

DATING:

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?

Honesty, confidence, ambition

2. What can she do to let you know she is romantically interested in you? Is there anything she should never do?

Flirt, ask to hang out, start up conversations and engage me in conversations

3. What are your expectations of a romantic partner?

Depends on the relationship type, but assuming you mean monogamous partners.. Honesty, loyalty, and genuine interest in my life.

4. How much does it matter if she is not a virgin?

No!

SEX:

1. What do men really think about during sex?

Usually trying to please my partner, but i try to not think and just enjoy everything if possible!

2. What should women really stop worrying about during sex?

No idea, I'd need to know what they worry about first!

3. What is the one thing men wish women did in bed that they never do?

I don't really have an answer, every woman I've been with does different things. In general I'd like women to be more aggressive/playful/helpful during sex instead of having the man do the work! I am still in my early 20s so maybe they women will get more open as I get older.

4. What is the sexiest thing a woman can do during sexual play?

Take control and be aggressive!

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Are you up for answering some sex/dating questions about men that a great many women have been asking me lately? If so, please know that there is no need to answer all of them, just the ones that pertain to you. Ready? OK, here goes…

DATING:

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?
Sweet natured ,considerate,affecionate.

2. What can she do to let you know she is romantically interested in you? Is there anything she should never do?
A flashing sign would be good, I can be slow on the uptake with this.
3. What are your expectations of a romantic partner?
Sweet natured,considerate ,affectionate ,sexual.

4. How much does it matter if she is not a virgin?
I prefer a non virgin even from early on at my age it would be a great shock if a potential partner was.

[ThinJohnny Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThinJohnny]

Great questions Passionate Wife. I'm just going to answer the three easiest ones for now, because I'm tired, but I'll come back to the others later.

DATING:

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?

Intelligence, kindness, open-mindedness, and honesty. Sorry, couldn't stop.



SEX:


3. What is the one thing men wish women did in bed that they never do?


I can't think of anything they never do that I would want them to do, but I can think of two things I can't get enough of - enthusiastic blowjobs and caressing my body and face while I'm falling asleep, preferrably after an enthusiastic blowjob:-) I sound like a selfish pig, but you asked:-) I always return the favor, though. After I wake up. Just kidding:-)


4. What is the sexiest thing a woman can do during sexual play?


Did I mention blowjobs? We can tell if your heart isn't in it, though. We'll take it either way, actually, but it's much
sexier if we can tell you're really enjoying it, and not just waiting for it to be over.

Hey that was pretty easy. I think that's because it's always easier to give your opinion about things that you really know about, and blowjobs:-)

[PanBird Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close PanBird]

Yes I'm ready TPW! I waited too long to answer.

1. What 3 attributes are most important to you when looking for a potential love interest?

2. What can she do to let you know she is romantically interested in you? Is there anything she should never do?

3. What are your expectations of a romantic partner?

4. How much does it matter if she is not a virgin?

SEX:

1. What do men really think about during sex?

2. What should women really stop worrying about during sex?

3. What is the one thing men wish women did in bed that they never do?

4. What is the sexiest thing a woman can do during sexual play?

1. I don't look anymore, when I did this saying is quite true: "The outside gives the inside a chance, the inside gives the outside its glance". This means a decent looking woman can be absolutely ridonkulously hot if she has the right personality (this case is my faincé yeee). Humour is important, great connection is important, caring and loving.

2. This one is quite hard. To be active interested and to take time over to be alone with you, but this requires interest in both. Never try to impress (at least me) another with talents etc. If they're interested, they've seen it. "You don't know you're beautiful, but that's what makes you beautiful"-well that was gay, wuating One Direction. Well.

3. Lots of sex. Yayyy! Also very glad to have long romantic nights when you do nothing except being with one another.

4. None. It kinda bothers me that she isn't, but I've forgiven her and there's nothing you can do about her past.

SEX:

1. How would I know? Anyways, when we're playing, I have no idea. I'm in a mode where I think about everything to make her pleasure the best-everything I've read. And then I enjoy the moment.

2. Jep, how would I know. Worrying about not being able to climax maybe.

3. Sound. But at least my woman does, so...Role playing. Talk dirty, I don't know.

4. Climax (in cases female ejaculation). When they climax hard. Oh man that is hothothot. Also I enjoy when she talks about how big my wangidywangwang is. Yes, that's about it.

Have a great day TPW! See ya

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

Thanks so much Panbird! Have a great day yourself!