Wake up call

[KFH Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close KFH]

I'm hoping this might be of some benefit to some people here.

In the early hours of Sunday morning I was woken up by a call from my sister. I was told that my Dad had had a major heart attack. After several attempts he was successfully resuscitated but had suffered severe and permanent brain damage. Severals hours later at the hospital with no improvement we decided to turn the life support off after everyone had said their goodbyes. He was in his early 50s.

It all happened so quickly. I haven't done any PE since. I can't help but think of all the time I had spent on PE when I could've been spending it with my Dad. But I guess hindsight is always 20x20. I'm not 100% sure what I'm trying to say here. I'm not grieving too well. I'm not criticising PE, I love PE. I guess what I'm trying to say is to make sure you've properly prioritised your goals in life. Living your life to the full is important. Family and friends are important. Usually more than we know until they've gone.

Rest in peace Dad

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Peace to you .

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

Please accept my sincere condolences KFH.

My old man died of a heart attack at the young age of 61. I received a call from his partner while I was at work and arrived at his house about 20 minutes later after a mad dash through the traffic. When I rushed into the room the paramedics were clearing up their gear and he was lying dead on the floor. That image will stay with me forever.

I often had the same thoughts as you back then about the fact that I should have made more of an effort to see more of him even though I had a young family at the time and was working all the hours God sends. However, now I have reached the age of 55 and have my own son who is 23 that I see once a week for a few hours at a time, I realise that he has his own life to lead and am very proud of the fine young man he has become. I am consoled by the fact that if ever I was in a time of need that he would be there for me. That's what matters the most to me, not the fact that maybe we should spend more time together but that he is always with me in spirit wherever I go and whatever I do.

I am sure your father was and is very proud of you no-matter where you are and I do believe having thoughts of regret are part of the grieving process. Allow yourself to have those feelings and try not to be too hard on yourself. Your father knew that you loved him, that's all that matters.

Amen.

[Dangler Senior Administrator☼ Wizard ☼ White Tiger Award 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Dangler]

I am sorry for the loss of your father KFH. May your memories of the good times with him, help you along this path you are traveling.

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I am sure you were a good son to him.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

I am sorry for your loss KFH. Something like that is never easy. What you say is so true and should be a wake up call for everyone. Thank you for that.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Sorry to hear of your loss, KFH. May your memories of all the good times spent with your Father dispel any feelings of regret in the past. As his son, try to live your life fulfilling the legacy he wanted for you. THAT is the greatest tribute you can offer to him and your family.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

My condolences, KFH. Just remember nothing you did or didn't do contributed to your father's situation. It's your thoughts that count.

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

My sincerest condolences on your loss.

[7by72b Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 7by72b]

I pray that the Spirit of God will comfort you and make you strong to go forward and honor his love.
Peace to you.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

[Marlon LGHanger Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Marlon LGHanger]

May the peace of God which passes all understanding comfort you in this time of loss. I pray you will find tremendous joy while reflecting on all the good times you and your dad had together. Thank you for reminding us about the brevity of life and re-focusing on the most important things.

[KFH Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close KFH]

Thanks for all the really kind words everyone. I'm taking it one day at a time. I will startup with PE again when the time feels right. Much love for this community.