4.5 inch girth? Should I forget about women?

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Man if you want to get thicker , you could go run with BM . you could gain 1 inch in 12 months if you are newbie to PE and commited . ADD some jelqing and gains can come a lot quicker . Its like you are hitting the gym but dont eat properly . IF you combine these two you can get pretty solid results , but you have to be consistent . Its a marathon not a sprint . Whats your lenght NBP?

By BM, I assume you mean the Bathmate?

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I am 21 year old virgin guy who has 6.5 inches bone pressed which to my understanding is average. but I have 4.5 inches girth. I feel doomed and destoryed.


I did the newbie excercise for 3 months. I felt great and had amazing erections but I can’t do them constantly because I have tight schedule. I gained probably 0.1 inch length but nothing in girth


Looks like that at the moment I have to just accept that I ll have 4.5 girth penis. Again my question.. Does anyone on earth have a similar girth and was able to please women or should I forget about women at the moment? please if anyone has or ever had similar girth can you tell me what was your experience?

I also have a 4.5 inch erect girth. Regular condoms (US) are loose on me. Highly, HIGHLY, embarrassing when I think about what a woman will think of my penis when they see a loose, baggy condom covering it. I buy tighter fitting condoms and have to hide the packaging from the women I sleep with because I don't want them to see that I have to resort to smaller condoms that actually fit. It's humiliating and emasculating.

In fact, I haven't been laid in probably almost a decade now because I've been consumed by this shame. It is literally the only thing holding me back from sex and relationships. I feel EXTREMELY inadequate and hopeless.

When I look at my dick entering a woman, it looks small and pathetic because I've been brainwashed by porn, by women getting railed by huge penises or even just average penises, most all of which are thicker than mine. And to back this idea up further, my penis size has been the point of discussion by women several different times in my life, twice outrightly, twice more subtly (some woman grabbed my crotch at a club and said something along the lines of "That's it?" Another ex-gf said she preferred getting head from me to penetrative sex). I've also been mocked for my hand size multiple times. One woman even told me "That's sad" when comparing the size of our hands, which of course, popularly implies penis size. In popular culture, it's also perfectly fine to mock a man for his penis size. We see it all the time in movies and tv, which has had a further negative effect on my psyche.

And when I was actually having sex, this perception, this horrible perception caused by these life experiences, actually made me lose wood mid-sex. Sex at some point became a chore, became an effort, became a stressful, panic-encapsulated event, all because of my girth.

To top it off, I've injured myself multiple times doing PE in the past, which has scared me off from PE altogether. Yet, there seems to be a glimmer of hope as I keep coming back to this forum time after time after long layoffs. I am borderline suicidal because of this and extremely lonely. I wonder if it's simply my fate to never be confident again.

Maybe the worst part of it all is that I know I can get laid. I am athletic, relatively intelligent, had a decent personality at some point before I let this insecurity overtake me, good-looking (at least this is what experience has taught me), and pussy has been dangled in front of me time after time. But I can't even commit... I can't even approach women now because I know when it comes down to it, I won't be able to perform. I am really fucking insecure about this.

Reading the other responses in this thread has made me feel a bit better, but now I'm wanting to hop back on the PE train again. Knowing that there is someone else like me with the same girth is at least somewhat comforting, to know that I am not suffering alone. I am sorry you are suffering man. Apologies for the whiny rant. It's probably not helping you feel any better. It's been a while (maybe ever) since I've talked about this.

[TeoDeles Senior Member Member of the Month July 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TeoDeles]

I was having sex with 40 women with your girth and I had less length than you.
They were all more than happy because I had great stamina and way of making sex.
That doesn t mean you should stay with the same stats... work your way to gain

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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29110808
might wanna read this also

[DickerSchwanz Senior Member Member of the Month Sept 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close DickerSchwanz]

Knowing that there is someone else like me with the same girth is at least somewhat comforting, to know that I am not suffering alone.

In a population of 1 billion people 400 million people are not thicker than 4.5in(statistically)
So it's true that a lot of people are bigger but a lot of people are the same or smaller too.
Not sure if they all suffer but you sure are not alone with a 4.5 in girth dick.
Hundreds of millions of woman will never encounter a dick with more girth than you.

I think almost everyone can gain 0.5 in girth with dedicated PE within some years.

[Sticke Senior Member Member of the Month March 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Sticke]

I gave my gf her first vaginal orgasm with my girth. Also I know some positions that make my unit feel girthier so I use them. It gets the job done, that's for sure

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Wow man dope gains! That's super inspiring

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In a population of 1 billion people 400 million people are not thicker than 4.5in(statistically)
So it's true that a lot of people are bigger but a lot of people are the same or smaller too.
Not sure if they all suffer but you sure are not alone with a 4.5 in girth dick.
Hundreds of millions of woman will never encounter a dick with more girth than you.

I think almost everyone can gain 0.5 in girth with dedicated PE within some years.

Thanks for your words man.

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BoneBulk, you are right, I also had a 4,5 girth below my glans, and I could see regular condoms being loose at that end, and it really is disappointing for girls and for myself of course, why wouldn't it be? I've been hanging and jelqing for 4-5 months now, I have a 6"and over sometimes base girth, 5,2-5,5" mseg and 5" below the glans. I was 7,5nbpel before PE but that didn't cound for women I guess at that girth....now condoms are strangling my base penis.
Don't lose hope in PE, it's gonna do the trick eventually. Now about that 4,5 girth being average....how is that average if it's smaller than regular condoms??
Please, we should be more realistic some of us maybe and just do PE for women if not for ourselves...5" is a must for most women imo if you're an amature in sex especially.
You've brought up a bad memory for me when a condom actually slipped as I was losing erection and probably because of my curvature and turkey neck too..that's when I made the decision that sex is not for me and I should use my energy differently as sex shouldn't be for everyone i guess...I still have this state of mind after 6 months of PE, and I will have it for the rest of my life. I don't have a problem with paying a woman to see her naked and have a form of sex with her if she desires, but I have been refused by prostitutes in the past as well, no doggy or no getting on top, etc. And it wasn't because of size or anything, they are prostitutes after all and a 7,5nbpel shouldn't be a problem, It just wasn't appealing I guess because of the curve and I have a huge left ball that goes up my shaft as well, since I've been hanging it goes even further up my shaft). Also, I read a lot about Buddhism and Hinduism and I found it really interesting reading about non attachment theory which is what people are doing when in love etc...Not having sex or not being a sexually active male doesn't mean you're a bad person, just keep it to yourself and it'll be ok(that's what I do because people judge people who don't have sex with women because of the social stigma and will disregard them as not being men etc...it can be dangerous in some places claiming you're not sexually active so I prefer even to lie about it and having a longer penis can help me in some cases...)
needed to get this off my chest, thank you

To clarify, you went from 4.5" to 5.2-5.5" erect girth mid-shaft after 4-5 months of PE?

[hopeoneday Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hopeoneday]

I was basically the same size as above and had quite a few partners. When my wife asked how many women I've slept with, her response was "Eew". The point of this post is to show you there are more people than you think who do just fine with that size. Fix the head upstairs and they'll enjoy the one downstairs.

did you have any problems with regular condoms?

[hopeoneday Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hopeoneday]

I kept my wife perfectly satisfied for over 40 years with a 5.5 X 4.4”erection. Concern over My size kept me a virgin until I was 26. Boy was that a waste of a perfectly good dick. Thanks to several years of pumping she now experiencing a 5.5” girth, but has yet to mention the change in size.

Nice girth gains. Thanks for sharing your experience

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I also have a 4.5 inch erect girth. Regular condoms (US) are loose on me. Highly, HIGHLY, embarrassing when I think about what a woman will think of my penis when they see a loose, baggy condom covering it. I buy tighter fitting condoms and have to hide the packaging from the women I sleep with because I don't want them to see that I have to resort to smaller condoms that actually fit. It's humiliating and emasculating.

In fact, I haven't been laid in probably almost a decade now because I've been consumed by this shame. It is literally the only thing holding me back from sex and relationships. I feel EXTREMELY inadequate and hopeless.

When I look at my dick entering a woman, it looks small and pathetic because I've been brainwashed by porn, by women getting railed by huge penises or even just average penises, most all of which are thicker than mine. And to back this idea up further, my penis size has been the point of discussion by women several different times in my life, twice outrightly, twice more subtly (some woman grabbed my crotch at a club and said something along the lines of "That's it?" Another ex-gf said she preferred getting head from me to penetrative sex). I've also been mocked for my hand size multiple times. One woman even told me "That's sad" when comparing the size of our hands, which of course, popularly implies penis size. In popular culture, it's also perfectly fine to mock a man for his penis size. We see it all the time in movies and tv, which has had a further negative effect on my psyche.

And when I was actually having sex, this perception, this horrible perception caused by these life experiences, actually made me lose wood mid-sex. Sex at some point became a chore, became an effort, became a stressful, panic-encapsulated event, all because of my girth.

To top it off, I've injured myself multiple times doing PE in the past, which has scared me off from PE altogether. Yet, there seems to be a glimmer of hope as I keep coming back to this forum time after time after long layoffs. I am borderline suicidal because of this and extremely lonely. I wonder if it's simply my fate to never be confident again.

Maybe the worst part of it all is that I know I can get laid. I am athletic, relatively intelligent, had a decent personality at some point before I let this insecurity overtake me, good-looking (at least this is what experience has taught me), and pussy has been dangled in front of me time after time. But I can't even commit... I can't even approach women now because I know when it comes down to it, I won't be able to perform. I am really fucking insecure about this.

Reading the other responses in this thread has made me feel a bit better, but now I'm wanting to hop back on the PE train again. Knowing that there is someone else like me with the same girth is at least somewhat comforting, to know that I am not suffering alone. I am sorry you are suffering man. Apologies for the whiny rant. It's probably not helping you feel any better. It's been a while (maybe ever) since I've talked about this.

aaand after all the post from the previous members that made me optimistic, now I feel doomed again.Never thought about requiring smaller condoms. lol thanks .

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Since 4.5" girth is a very average and normal girth standard condoms fit it fine .

[hopeoneday Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hopeoneday]

I was having sex with 40 women with your girth and I had less length than you.
They were all more than happy because I had great stamina and way of making sex.
That doesn t mean you should stay with the same stats... work your way to gain

amazing girth gains !

[hopeoneday Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hopeoneday]

I gave my gf her first vaginal orgasm with my girth. Also I know some positions that make my unit feel girthier so I use them. It gets the job done, that's for sure

Nice. Did you have any problems with regular condoms as other fellow members said?