my life at 8x6

[MrsLooking4more Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrsLooking4more]

I'm a firm believer in the fact that, how you say it is just about as important as what you say. Not only women, but most people nowadays blurt out words phrases and feelings without thinking. Most men I think are conditioned nowadays, to have to be defensive of their penis size. This is because of our own insecurities as well as our lack of confidence. Once again this is conditioning in society, whether it be something we've read about, something said directly to our face, something we've seen in a movie. For those of us who watch porn, hopping on into that vagina, stroking away while we watch the female writhing in some type of pleasurable pain,, from a porn point of view it seems to be the way to go, hence the conditioning that we've been experiencing........

Personally I try to treat a woman with love kindness and respect, and I try to be gentle beyond all else. Sometimes I don't know whether or not to believe what my woman asks of me. The females are conditioned also. From a logical standpoint, I do believe that size is not the deciding factor in lovemaking and a good relationship..... I also believe that you can be the greatest man in the world, best lover, properly endowed for the situation,,, but if your partner does not interlock with you and your ways and feelings,, there's another mismatch for you!

Getting back to my original thought here, mrslooking4more definitely has a way with words and certainly makes me feel comfortable and confident reading her posts. Just my honest 2 cents here.

Your point about our society's conditioning us is right on. Hollywood paints a picture of how sensual things are and we buy it. When in reality as you said love, kindness and respect goes a long way into cementing a relationship that becomes deeply sensual. I love your words interlocking is just the best without there is no PERMANENT sensual fireworks! Last but not least I am honored you feel my posts are of value, it is humbling to me.

Holy shit there's a lot to respond to........I do a lot of foreplay and really enjoy her myself before I even get it in .......

I most commend you for starting this awesome thread and for clearly explaining the work you have to do as a responsible male with a larger unit to make sure your lady is ready to receive it.

No matter how much lube is used the soreness comes from the micro vaginal tears that occur just due to the woman's vaginal walls adjusting to the size (this can happen with any size). Vaginal tears feel like internal papercuts they can't not be avoided at one point or another (such as first time having sexual intercourse, adjusting to a new sexual position, vaginal dryness due to hormonal changes after birth, aging, etc) So stimulating her a head of time and lubing her if she stills needs more IS the best a male can do. Eventually if the female stays with the same partner the tears will heal and the soreness will go away due to the body's adjustment to whatever caused the tear to begin with.

If you are worried about pleasing a woman, work on other things besides your penis. You already know how to treat a lady well so most of the battle is over. Work on oral skills. That is what will drive a woman wild! Check out a book called "She Comes First". It is all about oral sex. I read it and got a lot of great ideas from it. Now I can get her off in no time at all without using my penis. The whole idea is to get your lady off first before you do. Because face it, women can go forever while we have that awful thing called a refractory period. Work on the total package and she won't know what hit her!

Great advice, take care of your lady and she will take care of you. Get the book it is amazing, includes drawings and all kinds of suggestions.

...... I must say every girl I've been with had loved my genuine personality and my forward confident way of approaching sex. they complain that all of the men before me were racing to the finish line, trying to just selfishly get theirs, and not passionate at all. so to everyone reading this who has no confidence and is ashamed of their size and thinks their size is the secret to gaining their confidence then I must say that you are like a hamster running on a wheel. your partner can sense your self disapproval from a mile away and the sex is bad before it has even started. these penis size issues run deeper then just that. after you gain some confidence and accept yourself for who you are you'll actually have something to offer your lover. then you should educate yourself on some different techniques and become a skilled lover.but none of your skills will ever make up for a lack of emotional connection with your lover or for your lack of confidence...

I am in complete agreement of this. To summarize is not about the size big or small have their own issues. It IS about the connection and that should be what gives males the confidence.

[Ccuum Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ccuum]

This was good thread to read! Thx qwertyuiop and others!

[deleteduser Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close deleteduser]

Great post! Thanks for sharing.

[Samurai Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Samurai]

Holy shit there's a lot to respond to. um no I never got the hardcore. and it sounds like I should comment a little more on the sex stuff. there's a guy named Jason julius who has a great sex help program that has been helpful in helping me make my partners gocompletely bananas. I do a lot of foreplay and really enjoy her myself before I even get it in and I am usually having so much fun eating pussy that she has to beg me to get in. so let's start there.... gettin it in.... somegirls have naturally been dripping wet especially because they had just orgasmed. but usually I use a lot of spit or lube if they'd like. at first I'm very slow and gentle but not apologetic. I get in the tip and then usually stop for a minutewhile kissing and whatever. this let's get acclimate. usually she gasps andwhispers "be careful" acouple times.... all this while the breathing has gotten heavier and heavier. soon ive worked myself in though and the sex progresses. on to depth... yes!! it hurts when you bottom out and hit the cervix. I have yet to meet a girl who liked it but apparently some do. but let's talk about last night... last night I went down on her making her orgasm very hard. Iwoke up at430 am and she was tugging on my dick and that's how I ended up going down on her. next she begged me to get inher. soI did and rolled her over on her belly. I went in deep and found the cervix. so I pulled back and aimed my dick down like I was trying to stick it in the mattress. this drove her nuts and I was careful to not slam into her cervix. whenI say this drove her nuts I mean she was moaning and very loud and breathing heavy and just extremely loud. she gets lost in it.
so here it is. she has grown and stretched to accommodate me meaningthat 8" probably wasn't necessary to hit her spots. she has also stretched to receive my girth. every timewe've had sex she has been sore inside and also her lips. but she loves it . they have all told me that they were sore the next day... but it's a good sore. but some don't like the timeit takes for them to stretch and grow because they love getting slammed hard... it feels good on their clit. oh and they all love my mouth. I believe if you got really good at oral your girl would be extremely satisfied. and you gotta be passionate. be a fucking man andcare for her and lead her. lend her your strength. she wants to be loved and fucked.... gotta get back to work

She didn't stretch in length really, but the position you are describling is the A spot. You actually went past the cervix and apparently you can get past it on both sides with enough length and the right angles. It is supposed to drive women crazy and is a big goal of mine. Congrats on being able to reach it

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She didn't stretch in length really, but the position you are describling is the A spot. You actually went past the cervix and apparently you can get past it on both sides with enough length and the right angles. It is supposed to drive women crazy and is a big goal of mine. Congrats on being able to reach it

I hit the CulDeSac the other day.. within 25 seconds of fast thrusting into it, she had the most intense orgasm Id ever seen her have. Her whole body kept spasming and it lasted for about a minute.

[ThomasJohnThomas Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThomasJohnThomas]

ThomasjThomas.... can you go balls deep and hard?

No, but I don`t mind, we just have to be careful. If we go at it hard, I have to be very careful not to go too far in. With my ex, we had to stop if that happened and couldn`t have sex for a day or so because she felt sick in her stomach for hours. With my current gf, it`s not as bad, but she often tells me not to go too far in, and we have to take a little break when I accidentally go too deep it hurts. My current ex had a little trouble with my width to start with, she got sore and had to go to her doctor and get an ointment. She said it was because I was too big, but I don`t know. She has no trouble with my girth now, but she still feel just as tight.
My ex couldn`t care less about size, it wasn`t something she liked or that turned her on, but when it came to sex, I believe she wished I was shorter, she often complained I was too big.
My current gf was fascinated with my size to start with, she still like it and think it`s sexy, but the exightment has worn off I guess. and when she says I`m too big, it is more in a playful way. But she is impatient when we have sex, skipping the warm up or foreplay, so sometimes she kind of has herself to blame if it hurts a bit Btw. my gf told her friend the other day that a big penis isn`t always a good thing, so I guess she has mixed feelings about it I don`t mind.

All people are different! Some like it big, some don`t, most may like all sizes, some even seem to be sizeblind amd some just don`t care. It`s all good!

[Girth5 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Girth5]

No, but I don`t mind, we just have to be careful. If we go at it hard, I have to be very careful not to go too far in. With my ex, we had to stop if that happened and couldn`t have sex for a day or so because she felt sick in her stomach for hours. With my current gf, it`s not as bad, but she often tells me not to go too far in, and we have to take a little break when I accidentally go too deep it hurts. My current ex had a little trouble with my width to start with, she got sore and had to go to her doctor and get an ointment. She said it was because I was too big, but I don`t know. She has no trouble with my girth now, but she still feel just as tight.
My ex couldn`t care less about size, it wasn`t something she liked or that turned her on, but when it came to sex, I believe she wished I was shorter, she often complained I was too big.
My current gf was fascinated with my size to start with, she still like it and think it`s sexy, but the exightment has worn off I guess. and when she says I`m too big, it us more in a playful way. But she is impatient when we have sex, skipping the warm up or foreplay, so sometimes she kind of has herself to blame if it hurts a bit Btw. my gf told her friend the other day that a big penis isn`t always a good thing, so I guess she has mixed feelings about it I don`t mind.

All people are different! Some like it big, some don`t, most may like all sizes, some even seem to be sizeblind amd some just don`t care. It`s all good!

Why does it seem like the Big guys who gets the girl that doesn't like Big cock and the guys with cock size that aren't big get the girl who likes huge cocks.

[ThomasJohnThomas Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThomasJohnThomas]

Why does it seem like the Big guys who gets the girl that doesn't like Big cock and the guys with cock size that aren't big get the girl who likes huge cocks.

The one I`m with now likes it That doesn`t mean she only likes one size. I think most girls can find dicks of more than one size sexy or appealing, it seems to be mostly guys who obsess with size. Some girls like it big, and there is nothing wrong with that, just like it`s nothing wrong with a guy finding large breasts attractive! I think tits of many sizes can be very sexy, small or big- I think that is what we can compare it to, if anything, to put it into perspective, if you consider the visual aspect. when it comes to the sexual side of it, the intercourse, dick size and vagina size vary just as much, and I have never cared much or any about vagina size and I never hear much talk about that. Some guys care I guess, but I am willing to bet that most really don`t care much. If she is really wide and he is really small, I guess it can be a problem...
I know guys who openly joke and almost brag that they have a small dick, full of confidence, they are still very popular with the ladies. I think size only matters if you want it to, and to be honest, some times I want it to

Btw, I allmost missed the JK in your signature and thought you were serious!

[MrsLooking4more Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrsLooking4more]

Thank you, qwertyuiop. Although I`m pretty sure women do not grow in depth, and being widened out is likely to be a myth. I has been with my gf for 2 years, I still hit her cervix if we don`t warm up really good or take it very slow if we don`t. I was with my ex for 5 years, she had even a bigger problem with length, her stomach hurting for a day if I hit her cervix.

Women cervix can adjust in length and size but only to a degree. Otherwise we will all still be virgins with nothing bigger than a tampon getting a chance to breech us. Our units are not as flexible as yours we can't not grow them as some of you can. LOL The most that a woman can adjust is during the birthing process and that requires a lot of prep by the body as I indicated on post #18 of this thread. Believe me, I thank God we can adjust at that time. Most other times as I previously alluded will require some vaginal tearing that no amount of lube will soothe, such as first time having intercourse, labor delivery, adjusting to hormonal changes such as right after birthing or due to age (this causes vaginal dryness and prohibits the smoother adjustment). No, most women can not adjust to a Mandingo balls deep but some girls can take a big size and it has noting to do with their body size only with their internal elasticity.

That is why I am grateful that all of you with bigger units that have posted here, have made it a point to say that the girl has to be prepared before penetration and that even with that sometimes is not enough. You are absolutely right TJT, we girls sometimes are impatient I like to ravish our partners and when we do, we have no one to blame but ourselves, when we get sore.

[CompensatingForMuscleMass Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CompensatingForMuscleMass]

The problem is more that what is considered "big" on this forum is completely messed up. 8x6 is not big. 8x6 is retardedly massive.

7x5.5 is already frigging huge, most research done in a good manner (no selection bias, no unclear measuring methods) show average sizes that are just tiny. I've found tons of studies with average length 5" BP and girth 4.7". Only crappy ones like the cancun/kinsey seem to be given any attention, and all the other research just proves that the result there is far from the actual average.

[Rakas Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rakas]

Thank you, qwertyuiop. Although I`m pretty sure women do not grow in depth, and being widened out is likely to be a myth. I has been with my gf for 2 years, I still hit her cervix if we don`t warm up really good or take it very slow if we don`t. I was with my ex for 5 years, she had even a bigger problem with length, her stomach hurting for a day if I hit her cervix.

The actual vagina has a set length (supposedly 7-8 inches) however by expanding i think that most people mean it will open up to accommodate whatever length you put in it upto that point.

Think of a penis as a mole burrowing through soft soil, it opens easily but if you don't push forward it won't be open all the way.

[roccone84 Member Find all posts View Profile Close roccone84]

Very interesting story. I'm almost the same size but i have not complain from my partner, though a girl i met a couple of months ago said me "ma quanto cazzo ce l'hai grosso" trad. "how fuckin' big is that tool"? Lol, i laughin for 20 minutes...

[penisesunite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close penisesunite]

The actual vagina has a set length (supposedly 7-8 inches) however by expanding i think that most people mean it will open up to accommodate whatever length you put in it upto that point.

Think of a penis as a mole burrowing through soft soil, it opens easily but if you don't push forward it won't be open all the way.

The average vagina elongates to 4 inches when aroused. Wikipedia is your friend.

The problem is more that what is considered "big" on this forum is completely messed up. 8x6 is not big. 8x6 is retardedly massive.

7x5.5 is already frigging huge, most research done in a good manner (no selection bias, no unclear measuring methods) show average sizes that are just tiny. I've found tons of studies with average length 5" BP and girth 4.7". Only crappy ones like the cancun/kinsey seem to be given any attention, and all the other research just proves that the result there is far from the actual average.

The average is not 5" BP. It's about 5.5 - 6" BP. I used the poll over at Thunder's Place. It's a bell curve with a peak at 6-6.2" BP.

[pudim17 Member Find all posts View Profile Close pudim17]

The average is not 5" BP. It's about 5.5 - 6" BP. I used the poll over at Thunder's Place. It's a bell curve with a peak at 6-6.2" BP.

Have in mind that this is the average for sexually active men,
most men with less then 5.5" have a low confidence and not a good sexual life, not because of their size but because of psychological factors,
so the overall average may be smaller

[Rakas Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rakas]

The average vagina elongates to 4 inches when aroused. Wikipedia is your friend.

The average is not 5" BP. It's about 5.5 - 6" BP. I used the poll over at Thunder's Place. It's a bell curve with a peak at 6-6.2" BP.

If it were only 4 inches then most people would have a tonne of dick hanging out.