Uh oh! Wife complained about new girth for first tme

[jstane45 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jstane45]

My wife doesn't know I've been PE'ing, but since I've started I've gained about .3 in girth and .6 in length. We've always had to go slow due to discomfort, but it was always something we could work with. But a quick romp on lunch break was thwarted because it caused her too much pain. Hmmm...that's a problem, because she would always adapt in the past. She's a small girl, so that's part of the problem I suppose. I doubt now whether I should maintain commitment to growing. I'm about 9.1 x 5.8 now, and want to at least get my girth past 6, but I didn't anticipate this problem. Anyone else have this problem? What do you think might happen, will she adjust?

[Black Amethyst Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Black Amethyst]

She won't adjust...you are so F***ed

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

Dude, stop PEing immediately. I can only speak for myself, but I would be incredibly sexually frustrated all day every day if I couldn't mash my cock into my wife because it hurts her. Take a step back and assess this situation ... you are 9.1x5.8?!? really? And you want more than that?!?! I think you might be watching too much porn (hope not).

[5lbPackage Member Find all posts View Profile Close 5lbPackage]

I've gone from 5.75 to 6" girth and the best advice I can give is more foreplay and plenty of lube. Lube up several times throughout too not just at the start. My wife accomodated the girth increase and yours probably will too.

[jstane45 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jstane45]

Thanks for the input, guys. I think you're right Draggin, and I'll stop at least for now. I'll see how things go with her over the next couple weeks and reassess then. But you're probably right also, 5lb, that it was the quicky scenario that caused the problem and we need more foreplay. Since it didn't happen this afternoon, we'll probably try again tonight, so I sure hope it goes better. Thanks guys, you calmed me down a bit. I was kind of very worried there for a while.

[Going2Grow Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going2Grow]

What is the point of doing all of this if it is not pleasurable for our wives / partners? I guess it could be for the ego factor but I would think that at that length that's not an issue in the locker room. Wouldn't be unless MAYBE it's at a PE convention.

I dunno what the question is. Your WIFE (who is the receiver) says it's not pleasurable.

Another point of view: What feels better, stopping PE and fucking her with what you have (if it's not already too much) -- or getting a super-sized cock and jerking it off remembering "the good old days"...?

[growingslow Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close growingslow]

I have had the same problem lately. I started PEing about a month ago and my girlfriend of 4 years was in some discomfort for the first time. I am at 7.25 EL and right at 6 in base girth (close to 6 everywhere else). I have been doing more stretching lately and less jelqing. I have been watching too much porn and still want to hit 8 inches.

[MrsLooking4more Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrsLooking4more]

From a female perspective my husband is almost at HIS goal of 8 x 6 and I can tell you we now HAVE TO use more lube. I have asked him to cement or there are certain restrictions that will happen. I do not enjoy vaginal tears, I am sure your wife doesn't either. With the lube she might be able to accommodate you in time but maybe you need to reassess you goals as you say if she already stretch to limit. All of us ladies only stretch so much, some more than others. Good luck!

P.S. We use Aura Cacia Organic sweet almond oil for lube which also soothes the skin in or out. Great for intercourse and to repair micro tears (vaginal or PE related).

[MovingUp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MovingUp]

add some pics man i want some visual motivation to grow longer lol

[GoingForGold Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GoingForGold]

There are exercises she can do to more comfortably take your new girth. Why don't you tell her you are making it bigger? If you really are 9.1x5.8 you have to be very careful with every increase in size.

[jstane45 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jstane45]

There are exercises she can do to more comfortably take your new girth. Why don't you tell her you are making it bigger? If you really are 9.1x5.8 you have to be very careful with every increase in size.

I've never told her because my size was already causing her discomfort, so she wouldn't be on board with making it larger. And now that it's caused additional pain she would really be angry. But you're right, I need to be careful with additional increase, and as of now I'm pausing my routine. The people on this thread gave some really good advice, which I really appreciate, and I need to think about why I even wanted more size in the first place. I started a thread previously asking others why they PE, because I started questioning why I would be doing this if it didn't lead to increased pleasure for my wife, and in fact caused less pleasure. And then this happened, which really brings it to the forefront that much more. I think you people on this forum are wiser than you know, because what some of you have said really slapped me in the face and made me wake up and be reasonable about this. I think I've realized that wanting to be larger is not a problem with my size, but in my mind. Why, I have no idea. But for now, I think I'm okay with discontinuing. I should always remember that if I get larger it would only lead to less and less sex, and that's not an acceptable compromise. I still would have liked to hit the 6 inch girth mark, and I see lots of guys on here that have and don't report any problems with their girls, but I need to remember that it's not just about the number, or some ego thing, and it's ultimately about pleasure for both me and my wife. Anyways, please don't let my discontinuation blunt any of your motivation or think this is an unworthy goal, because I'm stopping for very specific and personal reasons that may or may not apply to anyone else. You all have a really great community here and I was excited to become a part of it, because I only just joined recently. I had planned on posting logs and such, but I'll probably still stop in now and then to see what people are saying. Thanks everyone.

[Black Amethyst Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Black Amethyst]

wow...i thought this guy was just fishing for compliments...I feel like a douche for my first post.

[jay1993 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jay1993]

Fuck, my girlfriend has been complaining that my dick is too long at 7.375 BPEL, and it's limited most positions. Doesn't stop me from working towards 8.5 BPEL. Im doing this for me, me and my girl can work around and adapt to size increases.

[jstane45 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jstane45]

Here's a quick update for any of you that read this thread. Basically it worked out better than I expected, because as you can probably tell from my posts, I was super worried I had sabotaged my sex life. But first of all, the primary problem was solved with the use of a better lube (Thanks Mrslooking4more!!) and more foreplay. Still rules out the quickies, but I can handle that.

It also turns out that when the girth was too much on that occasion, it was actually a turn on for her, as she later told me. She was extra horny later that night, and now I know why. That same discussion led me to tell her my girth had increased, but I told her it was due to improved EQ from a test and nitric oxide booster I'm using (Universal N1T and L-Citrulline). I still didn't tell her about the PE exercising.

So that's about it. PE still on hold, because I guess I've reached the optimal size for her. Apparently a little too much is just right, so it all worked out fine. Thanks again to all of you that provided great advice and comments.

[Jm123 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jm123]

Honestly my wife never adjusted until after having children. It was always slow and easy for the first five minutes, and it was uncomfortable to painful for both of us for those five minutes (neither of us could get enough even with the pain, so meh). I never measured back then but I would estimate I was around 7x6.