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Originally posted by Vixen65 View Post@jay1993, I read somewhere on this forum that in a normal state the vagina is 4 inches deep - sure it adjusts up/down too. When I "pleasure myself" my middle finger reaches the cervix.Start July 2012: 6.3 BPEL, 5.125 MSEG
Current : 7.375 BPEL, 5.3-5.4 MSEG, 7.125 NBPEL
Short Term Goal:7.5 BPEL, 5.5 MSEG
Goal: 8.5 BPEL, 6 MSEG, 8.25 NBPEL
I am on a fucking Girth Mission right now. No sleep till 5.75 MSEG!
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Originally posted by jay1993 View PostWhenever I am fingering a chick, I can feel the cervix initially but then it rises up. Every woman is different though!Mrs. L4M
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Originally posted by MrsLooking4more View PostExactly when we are not turned on is back to normal size which it's small and then it expands as we get aroused.Last edited by jay1993; 03-09-2013, 10:37 PM.Start July 2012: 6.3 BPEL, 5.125 MSEG
Current : 7.375 BPEL, 5.3-5.4 MSEG, 7.125 NBPEL
Short Term Goal:7.5 BPEL, 5.5 MSEG
Goal: 8.5 BPEL, 6 MSEG, 8.25 NBPEL
I am on a fucking Girth Mission right now. No sleep till 5.75 MSEG!
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Jay,
I know that after I've been with a guy 2-3 times I've adjusted to his size, and on all scores (up/down as well as tightness). And it works both ways. First time with a big guy I'm too tight, and once in he'll often hit my cervix in a painful way (man, that is painful!). 2-3 time, and he fits all ways. But a big guy I can never do the "spread legs" full penetration. Guys in normal range (my def) can usually do deep penetration first time and later through the spread legs position. My most recent guy is abt 4 inches and hit bottom as we were shifting positions. Know my insides pull "up" a lot when I come - several guys have commented on that, as they like the "suck" it gives them. Maybe my body is just slow / lazy and waits with pulling up until I orgasm. The arousal starts waaay before that though.
Apparently the sequence is: I get worked up and my muscles start vibrating, get more excited and my muscles lock around the penis, orgasm and "suck", then muscles pulsate as I have my waves afterwards, then the muscles twitch/vibrate and all of me comes snug against him again. That's what my latest tells me (ah, love guys who can talk about the sexual experience).Don't know if that makes more sense.
I'm not claiming to know what "most" women experience or how much "most" vaginas adjust, but know what mine does, and know virtually all guys can do the cul-de-sac with me and give me A-point orgasm.
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Originally posted by Vixen65 View PostJay,
I know that after I've been with a guy 2-3 times I've adjusted to his size, and on all scores (up/down as well as tightness). And it works both ways. First time with a big guy I'm too tight, and once in he'll often hit my cervix in a painful way (man, that is painful!). 2-3 time, and he fits all ways. But a big guy I can never do the "spread legs" full penetration. Guys in normal range (my def) can usually do deep penetration first time and later through the spread legs position. My most recent guy is abt 4 inches and hit bottom as we were shifting positions. Know my insides pull "up" a lot when I come - several guys have commented on that, as they like the "suck" it gives them. Maybe my body is just slow / lazy and waits with pulling up until I orgasm. The arousal starts waaay before that though.
Apparently the sequence is: I get worked up and my muscles start vibrating, get more excited and my muscles lock around the penis, orgasm and "suck", then muscles pulsate as I have my waves afterwards, then the muscles twitch/vibrate and all of me comes snug against him again. That's what my latest tells me (ah, love guys who can talk about the sexual experience).Don't know if that makes more sense.
I'm not claiming to know what "most" women experience or how much "most" vaginas adjust, but know what mine does, and know virtually all guys can do the cul-de-sac with me and give me A-point orgasm.Last edited by jay1993; 03-10-2013, 01:28 AM.Start July 2012: 6.3 BPEL, 5.125 MSEG
Current : 7.375 BPEL, 5.3-5.4 MSEG, 7.125 NBPEL
Short Term Goal:7.5 BPEL, 5.5 MSEG
Goal: 8.5 BPEL, 6 MSEG, 8.25 NBPEL
I am on a fucking Girth Mission right now. No sleep till 5.75 MSEG!
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During sexual arousal, and particularly the stimulation of the clitoris, the walls of the vagina lubricate. This reduces friction that can be caused by various sexual activities.[10] With arousal, the vagina lengthens rapidly,[10][8] to an average of about 4 in.(10 cm), but can continue to lengthen in response to pressure.[21] As the woman becomes fully aroused, the vagina tents (last ²⁄₃) expands in length and width, while the cervix retracts.[22]
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Originally posted by Vixen65 View Post- Stop focusing on technique and how I can please the guy. "Be 100% selfish in bed. Do what will bring you pleasure, and gently guide him to do what will please you. This will turn the guy on enormously". This one really surprised me, and I was skeptical.Originally posted by popol5169 View PostThere is something I don't get though, it seems we men have to seek the pleasure of the women while they must be selfish and seek their own (that is, in intercourse), F***k that lol.
I wonder if one of the main reasons could be that girls experience far more pleasure during sex, and far more intense orgasms.
Really, if a couple are genuinely into each other then the idea of being 'selfish' in the strict sense becomes kind of meaningless. Your pleasure is her pleasure, and vice-versa. To give an example, I'll often spend ages, like a good half-hour or more, doing *exactly* what it takes to get my girlfriend to come. She's lying on her back using a small vibrator on her clit, I'm alternately fucking her, licking her, using my fingers on her G-spot or tickling her arse, doing whatever it takes for her to get there, holding back from having an orgasm of my own while I'm fucking her - being a textbook 'generous lover', in other words. Then once she's come, I'm so fired up and ready to go I only have to fuck her for a minute or two - fucking her *just* for my own pleasure - until I come. And she loves it, she loves that I'm so into it and into her and getting so much pleasure from just fucking her like a mad thing that she often has a completely unexpected extra orgasm just as I have mine. So as long as you're not actually inconsiderate to the point of causing (too much/the wrong kind of) pain, being a selfish lover now and then can be a big turn-on for your partner. Just as long as it's not *every* time, of course.
Popol, it's interesting that you talk about women having "far more pleasure" during sex. This is a common idea because (some) women can have multiple orgasms, or at least several orgasms over the course of a session while a man might only have one or two - since sex of course has to stop at least for a while after the guy comes. On the other hand, most women find it impossible to reach orgasm through intercourse alone, and quite a lot of women actually never have an orgasm with a partner, or only achieve it for the first time in their 30s or even later. Some women go their whole lives without having one, either from masturbation or sex. Whereas the vast majority of guys, even if they can't have 10/20/30... orgasms in a session like a small minority of women can, can generally rely on being able to have an orgasm most times they have sex. So I think the range of female sexual experiences is huge, from earth-shatteringly incredible to what (from a man's POV) would seem very frustrating, while most guys are somewhere kind of in the middle.
One big asymmetry between men and women is that there's not really a female equivalent to premature ejaculation*. Men who suffer from this find it bad because sex then has to stop for a bit, so their partner - who (in most cases) takes longer to reach orgasm than they do - will in all likelihood not be able to have an orgasm during sex, and men feel bad about this because it's still seen as the 'gold standard' of female orgasms, despite the fact that lots of women are only too happy to have orgasms from oral sex, fingering or from masturbating with a partner. Whereas a woman who orgasms very quickly can in many cases have another orgasm almost straight away, or if she gets too sensitive to carry on immediately, only has to wait a minute or so and then can carry on, which doesn't usually bother guys because they can typically have an orgasm more or less whenever.
*well there's vaginismus, but that just makes penetration impossible, so it's probably more like the female equivalent of ED rather than PELast edited by Ivor; 03-10-2013, 02:31 PM.
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When I said far more pleasure, I didn't especially mean more orgasms, I was mainly suggesting that their orgasm and the build up to the orgasm may be much more intense. But you're right in the sense that women are very unequal from one an other when it comes to this pleasure, also who knows if it's due to the men they encountered, mental blockage or if it's plain physical (how they were born) .
And when I talked about men having to please women, I just meant that apart from orgasm and the utmost pleasure to please , we don't really have physical pleasure.
But then I don't have any personnal experience on the matter (but very soon will)Last edited by popol5169; 03-11-2013, 10:35 AM.https://www.pegym.com/forums/penis-e...a-jelqing.html
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Originally posted by popol5169 View PostWhen I said far more pleasure, I didn't especially mean more orgasms, I was mainly suggesting that their orgasm and the build up to the orgasm may be much more intense.
Originally posted by popol5169 View PostAnd when I talked about men having to please women, I just meant that apart from orgasm and the utmost pleasure to please , we don't really have physical pleasure.
Originally posted by popol5169 View PostBut then I don't have any personnal experience on the matter (but very soon will)
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Ivor,
I think you're right on your analysis of the advice given in many ways. In addition is the starting point for his advice : "If you really want to please a guy".
- I think you're right that it was particularly important because I was uptight / nervous.
- His main point was to stop focus on technique and more on pleasure - which I think holds true both ways. Certainly is a negative distraction for me when the guys are too focused on the technique of sex rather than responding to what is quite obviously creating pleasure. And I too get really turned on by the guy being turned on.
- think my guy was right that by making sure I orgasm often and well the guy will be turned on - and probably more so than almost any technique
- also maintain there is a gender difference here. For many/most guys once the climax is reached the show is over. While I'll come many times.
- and he didn't mean "selfish" as in "ignore the guy", but more "selfish" in that I should let myself go and ensure I got a lot of pleasure out of the act. Perhaps also given as advice to me because I by nature focus more on pleasing than being pleased - so he knew I wouldn't go overboard.
- and you're absolutely right that I do focus on the guy. Still now I'll make sure I get plenty of pleasure first - which then usually gets him worked up. But when the time is there that he wants to come I get focused on bringing that about. As I get older, and the guys I'm with get older (and more challenged with performance), I often find I have to focus more on him in the beginning than I used to, and more at the end too - especially holding back when he is working up to a climax. Often they get a kick out of that too (if phrased right - "I'm basically ready, but I'm gonna wait so we can do it together").
- now often also see that more insecure guys get more secure because I am so focused on pleasuring myself. They get a kick out me doing oral mainly to pleasure me rather than to pleasure them. Or me fondling their parts for my enjoyment rather than theirs. Makes them more relaxed.
Agree strongly that full selfishness is not good in sex, but think that a woman who ensures she gets great pleasure from sex is then also increasing his pleasure.
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Penisunite,
During sexual arousal, and particularly the stimulation of the clitoris, the walls of the vagina lubricate. This reduces friction that can be caused by various sexual activities.[10] With arousal, the vagina lengthens rapidly,[10][8] to an average of about 4 in.(10 cm), but can continue to lengthen in response to pressure.[21] As the woman becomes fully aroused, the vagina tents (last ²⁄₃) expands in length and width, while the cervix retracts.[22]
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Originally posted by Vixen65 View PostIvor,
- think my guy was right that by making sure I orgasm often and well the guy will be turned on - and probably more so than almost any technique
Originally posted by Vixen65 View Post- also maintain there is a gender difference here. For many/most guys once the climax is reached the show is over. While I'll come many times.
Originally posted by Vixen65 View Post(if phrased right - "I'm basically ready, but I'm gonna wait so we can do it together")
Originally posted by Vixen65 View PostAgree strongly that full selfishness is not good in sex, but think that a woman who ensures she gets great pleasure from sex is then also increasing his pleasure.Last edited by Ivor; 03-16-2013, 06:34 AM.
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Still not much mention of girth - especially from the ladies here. I had wanted to post a much longer response personally addressing individuals as there have been so many interesting and well articulated responses. But essentially I am still curious about the girth issue in relation to my initial post... Vixen - got anything further to add to this?
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