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[TheR Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheR]

Hey WillGetBetter. Don't get too disheartened by your most recent blip. You certainly don't need to go back to the drawing board. We all know you've got this and you've made huge strides in such a short space of time. There will be ups and there will be downs. We've had PreE so long theres no magical cure and I don't think we will ever fully cure ourselves to a point where we can forget about it and have great, long lasting sex. We all need to keep working at it, but you don't need me to tell you that you know that already!

Just keep doing the things you've been doing. No doubt you'll be back here in a week or two saying how you've felt like your in control.

Whilst I've seen gains in edging etc. I've not had any real control in sex yet but the important thing is we don't give up!

[WillGetBetter Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close WillGetBetter]

Thanks man. I’m going to keep pushing on.

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Good Point Johnny D.

But Will i must say i like how you things analyze if something is not going well.

His is a good analogy. The penis doesn't need any intellectual input from us in order to function properly. Ironically, it's when we start worrying about our sexual abilities that problems begin.

[medusa Member Find all posts View Profile Close medusa]

Hey WillGetBetter, sorry to hear about your blip, but the progress you've made is inspirational to people like me still early on in my routine so I'm sure it will turn around!
Im sure you have answered these questions in this thread already but I just had a few thing I wanted to ask.
- I read briefly you use a tennis ball to try and massage your pf, I've never tried this but heard about it on other forums, could you tell me a bit more and how it went for you? Did it help and make a difference?
-I also saw you have used ballooning in your routine at times, this is another thing Im yet to fully try. When I read up about ballooning on a different thread I think it involved kegals and as my routine is 100% rk I was wondering if theres a way to balloon with rks.
Thanks!

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Also one more thing, I typically ejaculate after every session now, or maybe go one without ejaculating then ejaculate on the next one. Would you recommend not ejaculating for longer? I always thought maybe this practice of ejaculating less will condition my brain to stop focusing on the ejaculation but rather the enjoyment and act of sex.
Thanks

[WillGetBetter Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close WillGetBetter]

Also one more thing, I typically ejaculate after every session now, or maybe go one without ejaculating then ejaculate on the next one. Would you recommend not ejaculating for longer? I always thought maybe this practice of ejaculating less will condition my brain to stop focusing on the ejaculation but rather the enjoyment and act of sex.
Thanks

Yes, I would recommend ejaculating every 3rd day. So, two edging sessions with no ejaculation, and then one with. I felt it was really beneficial to do some brain rewiring and for showing yourself that you only ejaculate when you decide to.

[WillGetBetter Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close WillGetBetter]

Hey WillGetBetter, sorry to hear about your blip, but the progress you've made is inspirational to people like me still early on in my routine so I'm sure it will turn around!
Im sure you have answered these questions in this thread already but I just had a few thing I wanted to ask.
- I read briefly you use a tennis ball to try and massage your pf, I've never tried this but heard about it on other forums, could you tell me a bit more and how it went for you? Did it help and make a difference?
-I also saw you have used ballooning in your routine at times, this is another thing Im yet to fully try. When I read up about ballooning on a different thread I think it involved kegals and as my routine is 100% rk I was wondering if theres a way to balloon with rks.
Thanks!

1) It’s a little difficult to know how much the tennis ball stretch contributed to my pelvic floor loosening. I was doing a bunch of stretches at the same time. It felt like it was working, and I did it at times I when I was just sitting around anyway (at work and in the car driving) - so it wasn’t a time sink.
2) My understanding of ballooning is that your lightly rub the areas of your erect penis that are sensitive. For most people, the frenulum and glans are the most sensitive, but it could be different for you. Use lube. This technique helps your body and brain get more used to the intense feeling of those sentive areas. You can add it to your edging routine. I found it helpful.

[medusa Member Find all posts View Profile Close medusa]

Yes, I would recommend ejaculating every 3rd day. So, two edging sessions with no ejaculation, and then one with. I felt it was really beneficial to do some brain rewiring and for showing yourself that you only ejaculate when you decide to.

Okay great will do this from now on!

[medusa Member Find all posts View Profile Close medusa]

Thanks for answering those questions, big help!

[WillGetBetter Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close WillGetBetter]

Quick update on sex last night. Because I went quick last time, I went back to the fundamentals (get breathing under control from the beginning, RKs even during foreplay, etc). I got a hard erection while I was giving oral, so I did three hard long RKs and it went completely away.

When we started having sex, I lost my erection. So, I went from going in 30 seconds last time to losing my erection this time. We took some time to get me going again, and had sex which went well.

I’ve been getting suggestions from many different people that getting up in your head, over thinking, having negative thoughts, trying to control things too much, etc can really get you off track and take away from the joy of sex. I think last night was a good example of that. I am trying to battle this thing, and I am losing sight of the important pieces of sex (fun, joy, being in the moment, connection, etc).

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

Yes, I have experienced that.The right mindset is ''I will fuck your lights out and me and you are gonna enjoy it fully''.This kind of mindset helps me to relax a lot and this gives me a better stamina.

[WillGetBetter Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close WillGetBetter]

Yes, I have experienced that.The right mindset is ''I will fuck your lights out and me and you are gonna enjoy it fully''.This kind of mindset helps me to relax a lot and this gives me a better stamina.

Thanks for the tip. I do need to work on my confidence now.

[WillGetBetter Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close WillGetBetter]

After reading about the HANS protocol, I realize there are a lot of similarities with the pelvic floor training I did. This may be helpful for those working on PreE.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/penile-...-protocol.html

[TheR Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheR]

Yes, I have experienced that.The right mindset is ''I will fuck your lights out and me and you are gonna enjoy it fully''.This kind of mindset helps me to relax a lot and this gives me a better stamina.

This is something I've not tried, but struggle with the concept of. Although I've read many people say go in there with the right mindset helps you alot. I think I've had PreE for so long and currently still fully expect it during sex I'd know I was lying to myself going in with that mindset. Might try it though! I think this would only help if you had some degree of confidence to begin with.

[WillGetBetter Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close WillGetBetter]

This is something I've not tried, but struggle with the concept of. Although I've read many people say go in there with the right mindset helps you alot. I think I've had PreE for so long and currently still fully expect it during sex I'd know I was lying to myself going in with that mindset. Might try it though! I think this would only help if you had some degree of confidence to begin with.

Yeah, it’s hard to feel confident when it never goes how you want. I only gained some confidence once I had some success. But, both my confidence and my success has been up and down a bit. I do think that letting go of the expectation as much as possible would be something to work on. That helps me reduce my anxiety.