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Overcoming anxiety isn't that easy, I'm telling you from experience. If we're talking about "performance" anxiety, this comes from your desire of pleasuring your girlfriend, wife, whoever you're having sex with and this is even worse when you've had past experiences of not being able to last long or get it up, because the next time things escalate you're probably thinking about your failure/s and then the anxiety kicks in, which doesn't help you at all and only makes you worse. ( exactly what nevergivein said)
What you can do is, stop thinking about pleasuring them but enjoying the experience and pleasuring yourself too while lasting long, don't beat yourself up about the failures, I know guys who are good in bed and even they have bad experiences, there's plenty of things to consider. The only cure is to approach sex with a confident, positive outlook on how you're gonna perform. I know, this isn't easy, it's not like you're gonna think "oh shit, I'll last so long!" and just last long, no, you gotta still do your RKs/Kegels, stretches, edging and once you have all this settled down, that thinking WILL work.
Also, approaching sex with confidence can be easy if you talk with your partner. If you aren't that close, you can tell her something like "look, I'm a little rusty and I don't know how much I'm gonna last but I do want to last long and I'll try my best" or whatever you come up with, if you don't wan to be this direct just come up with a way of telling her you ain't sure how much you'll last so she knows this from the jump, she'll probably understand you and you'll do your job just fine, knowing she understood you! There's always round 2,3, etc. If you're close, just straight up tell her that you know you've been slacking in bed and you want to improve yourself, if you had sex in the past and she knows about it.
She’ll think higher of you for wanting to improve your sex life together, and want to work on it with you. It’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, and you’ll find that just being open about it will solve half the problem on its own.
What you can do is, stop thinking about pleasuring them but enjoying the experience and pleasuring yourself too while lasting long, don't beat yourself up about the failures, I know guys who are good in bed and even they have bad experiences, there's plenty of things to consider. The only cure is to approach sex with a confident, positive outlook on how you're gonna perform. I know, this isn't easy, it's not like you're gonna think "oh shit, I'll last so long!" and just last long, no, you gotta still do your RKs/Kegels, stretches, edging and once you have all this settled down, that thinking WILL work.
Also, approaching sex with confidence can be easy if you talk with your partner. If you aren't that close, you can tell her something like "look, I'm a little rusty and I don't know how much I'm gonna last but I do want to last long and I'll try my best" or whatever you come up with, if you don't wan to be this direct just come up with a way of telling her you ain't sure how much you'll last so she knows this from the jump, she'll probably understand you and you'll do your job just fine, knowing she understood you! There's always round 2,3, etc. If you're close, just straight up tell her that you know you've been slacking in bed and you want to improve yourself, if you had sex in the past and she knows about it.
She’ll think higher of you for wanting to improve your sex life together, and want to work on it with you. It’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, and you’ll find that just being open about it will solve half the problem on its own.
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