IK When Putting It In Causing Pre E

[Anthony Gerio N Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anthony Gerio N]

I agree with what you say except the part:

Problem is that our pelvic floors overwork at doing everything, they're even engaged while just chilling on the sofa because the muscles are just dysfunctional

There is always reason or reasons for why PF doesn't function well.

[andrewvi7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close andrewvi7]

I agree with what you say except the part:


There is always reason or reasons for why PF doesn't function well.

Yes of course, i wasn't saying that they are dysfunctional for no reason. Just that the whole lack of performance is DUE to dysfunctional pelvic floor, and while there are many reasons for it, RKs just seem like the only way to directly counteract those dysfunctional tendencies. Of course you have to fix the root problem too, i just wanted to highlight a distinction which took years of wasting my own time to figure out. I see a lot of people discussing their sensitivity down there, hormones etc, and while they may impact performance, they are usually the outliers in that with so many people struggling with this, the problem is a lot more fundamental than hormones or the extra sensitivity some people experience.

The way to describe the problem is to use PONR as a bucket of water being filled. Once the bucket is full, PONR happens. The reason why the OP can last only a single pump is because he enters the bedroom with the bucket already almost full (very tight pelvic floor), so mix in a bit of arousal, a bit of excitement, the little extra stimulation he gets from foreplay and penetration, and it's more than enough to fill the remainder of the bucket and bust (I've been there), hence why they seem to think they are overly sensitive. Learn how to release the pelvic floor as described in the last post outside of the bedroom, learn how to release it on command, and the better you release it the emptier the bucket will be. The same excitement, arousal and penetration won't be enough to fill the bucket anymore, you'll have to pump away and work at it to get it to fill.

I cannot describe the feeling of being able to maintain an RK while having penetration sex. IK's become non existent for as long as you maintain an RK. However it gets progressively harder as your body fights to build up tension for the climax, this is why i suggest learning RKs outside of arousing situations as you're not only trying to learn how to RK, but also trying to condition the muscle that it's OK to actually release/relax (the hardest part). But if you mix in arousal before the muscles are reconditioned, and haven't grasped how to RK properly, the extra arousal and excitement will tense the muscle even more and you won't be able to relax it no matter how hard you try.

It takes time to learn this, invest you time, it's worth it.

[Anthony Gerio N Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anthony Gerio N]

I know what you mean and felt it thoroughly and that's why my emphasize is that not until you fix issues with hips and PF, nothing else works. As much as anxiety control etc. you do, there is no result (for people with PF issues which I think is more than 95% of the people with PreE problem).

My point was that there is no reason for PF to be in the problematic form until eternity. By time, your reliance on the right before sex expansion of PF is going to reduce.

3/4 months ago I had a routine before sex, like players who warm up before a match I used to do the same; hip warm up, PF relaxation, sometimes deep squats RKs (And you cannot do that in front of the girl so you have to go to a kitchen corner for 5 mins pretending to trying fix the microwave, 5 mins then in the toilet, then 5 mins pretending to talk with phone in weird position … it was funny). But as I progressed nowadays it is just a simple 5 10 secs of an RK, if necessary. This is good to be said to give the readers the clue that there's a progression and it is not very far away.

[Gratis Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gratis]

Had a test done, hormonal problem: HYPOthyroidism. It is weird tho because after a quick web search it says that hyperthyroidism usually have PreE and hypo have DelayedE. But both may have ED, which I think is the cause of my pre e. I will start treatment and keep this thread updated.

Also, last sexual encounter: used a condom (with a numbing agent i think) and had sex for around a minute, say what you want but we were in a rush and it is better than what I’ve been having during my last sexual encounters, I also felt more confident.