Can handle an 1 hour blowjob, but cant handle 30 seconds of penetration.

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Folks!
I tried everything here before signing up. Edging, reverse kegels, cut porn out if my life, balooning... but nothing, NOTHING works.

I have something with VAGINAS. If I imagine myself penetrating my girlfriend, my heart almost goes out my chest. It starts beating so hard. I can feel my cocks head kinda tickling, I feel my stomach like if I were in a rollercoaster. LOL

What is funny is that (with some start-stop techniques) I could hold my ejaculation in a 1 hour blowjob, of course it was moderated, kinda CALM blowjob, but.. I could hold myself for 1 hour.

Another thing that makes me cum fast is the "FUCKING MOTION". If I tell my GF to stay still, completely stopped, while I penetrate her mouth like if I was fucking her, I cum almost as fast as if I was penetrating her vagina.

Kegeling as hard as possible almost at the PONR doesnt work... While edging no problems, sometimes I ejaculate inside my bladder but most of the time it works. BUT, while fucking, its IMPOSSIBLE. Im able to hold the ejaculation but the arousal doesnt goes away. The feeling kinda get even more stronger.

Now Ive been taking Fluoxetine without prescription for 5 days (the good n ol prozac) because it retards the ejaculation BUT im feeling SO SO SO sleepy that I cant work neither study properly (as Ive just started college, this is a HUGE problem. And the ejaculation retardation side effect starts only 15 20 days after taking this medicine, and only stays while I take this medicine. I just cant LIVE, im all sleepy all the time... I decided to stop taking this, but i really need alternatives. Could somebody help me? Im young, I dont want to take viagra or levitra or even SRSIs to TEMPORARILY solve some shit that is in my MIND.

Please, please, please, I BEG you guys to help me. And sorry for the wall of text..

PS: Im uncut, my glans are VERY sensitive.

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

My suggestion:
1) Lay off the medication.
2) Check out the Fleshlight STU.

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The pills are already on the trashcan, but I dont know where I could hide this Fleshlight because I still live with my parents, and sister, and they are messing up on my stuff all the time... :/

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I can't help you much there.
I'm a pirate, so most of my treasure is buried in a really cool looking chest.
YARRR!

[mechanicJT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mechanicJT]

I have almost the same symptoms. In fact I can not achieve an orgasm from oral sex at all. Even when kegeling which during masturbation makes me come quickly. At least 5 have tried. Either I have to finish with my hand or they have to use their hand. At least two of these women were "professionals", or should I say well practiced, at giving head.

Are you able to hold back when your woman rides your cock and does all the work herself? I can last almost indefinitely in this position. Also if your woman enjoys it it is a great way for her to reach orgasm. I can also last much better in a fleshlight STU if I move it with my hand, if I thrust into it I last about the same as in intercourse.

So my conclusions about what causes this for me are;
1. Involuntary PC contractions during thrusting, or tense PC muscles during thrusting.
2. Over excitement about intercourse, which it sounds like you have as well.

What has worked moderately for me.
I use a kegel routine, which you have tried. I focus very hard on what the contracted PC feels like and am trying to train my brain to relax this muscle. Reverse should help with this as well.
I talk to my partner during intercourse. This was fairly effective although I have only tried it once.
Try different positions. Missionary is a 30 second game for me. Dogie is better and girl on top positions are best.
Don't let other members completely turn you off about medications. I had limited sucess with zoloft several years ago. I did not have bad side effects.

Obviously taking anti depressants is not the ideal answer. Some are very addictive and have potentially debilitating side effects. But you must ask yourself if the possibility of side effects is worth a normal sexual relationship. For me it is. I am first going to exhaust my options over the next year or so as to natural solutions. But I will not discount medications that are shown to help with PreE.
Paxil is said to be the most effective with a tenfold increase in lasting power. Someone else posted today that they had good success with levitra a ED drug.

Good luck and please post any successes you may have so others can learn from your progress. Sorry I added so much about drugs. I did not fully read your post before I responded.

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Yes, with my girl on top I last a LITTLE longer... but I haven't discarded the drugs at all. I've just stopped because of fluoxetine's side effects, but I haven't tried paroxetine (or Paxil) as youve said. I'll try some natural solutions first as well before starting taking drugs to deal with me PreE. The treatment here in my country for PreE is BASICALLY ran by the use of SSRI's (antidepressives) like Fluoxetine, Paroxetine, Sertraline (these ones aren't addictive like tricyclic antidepressives)... but if not enough, those tricyclic antid. are prescripted like clomipramine (anafranil)... And you have to take them for at least a year, until your body gets used with your "new" sexual performance. Then you can get rid of the medicine (slowly) and you kinda "keep" the ejaculation control.

BUUUUT, it's expensive, and the side effects are harsh in some cases.

BTW I have lots of involuntary PC contractions... I really don't know what to do anymore. Why can I just fuck like everyone else?

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I'm also considering taking levitra for some time, just to get some confidence in myself. Bang my girl like an animal. That guy solved his problem with levitra. Too bad I don't have an stable sex routine with her.. dunno, just considering this option. And levitra here is VERY expensive.. like 20 dollars a single motherf****in pill.

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Do you mind if I ask how old you are? I am 26. I have had relatively few sexual partners. It seems to me my PreE has gotten worse as I have aged. Although I don't drink or use the white stuff like I used to so that probably makes a large difference. I wish you lots of luck. With such similar symptoms I would really like for us to try different things to see if we can solve this. It also sounds like in Pegaus and other experienced advisers opinions guys like us have the hardest time curing our PE.
The key is going to be separating the involuntary kegels and heightened sexual interest from intercourse.

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To try everything on this site would take many years, so you have not done that.
I suggest you start at the begining ,read this in full, follow the links . https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...lications.html
When you have read my works, you can read spanky , Minuteman and Pe zen . At this point you may have some idea what this site contains.

[NakedMan Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NakedMan]

Yes, with my girl on top I last a LITTLE longer

That is a big sign that you're tensing up with every thrust, so this position helps you, but you're still tensing up!
Try this: Feel your BC muscle under your ballsack while getting a blowjob and again during penetration. You should notice a big difference. I suppose it's going bananas when you're thrusting.

I know you're already aware that this might be the problem. But I encourage you to actually feel yourself up there, because it will make it crystal clear.

[yewqa Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close yewqa]

I have a similar problem, I believe it's to do with arousal level? As in, you're thinking about how good it's going to feel as you put it in. Your level jumps straight to the top and you're gone. However, you can relax more if they're on top. I'm trying to counter this too, I'm thinking need to top thinking about it before hand so you become aroused? I'm also unsure as to how kegels would help, will they help you relax if you're tensing up?

[ManWithPlan Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ManWithPlan]

Maybe this is a "VAGINA FETISH"? If there even is such thing ;p

[moxsum Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close moxsum]

I used to have the same issue.. didnt even know if I coud cum form a BJ.. but sex was always much easier.. but then.. I started cumming from BJ's too.. lol..

I think when getting a bj, your body is totally relaxed , especially your pelvis.. the PE comes from flexing your pelvic muscles/BC/PC muscles. Just mentally/physicall relax your whole body and your butt, pelvis, penis muscles.. and go slow.. if you think your about to cum, pull out and take a deep breath and jus play with your girls clit for a minute, then go back in.. and dont worry what she thinks etc.. over time it should help develop more control.

[boogie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close boogie]

I had this problem a few years ago as well. Well, not 30 seconds, but sub 5 minutes. Echoing what most of the other posters are saying, it is likely do to involuntary tensing of your PC muscle.


How do you masturbate?

[bulldog28 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bulldog28]

god I would LOVE to enjoy a BJ for more then 5 minutes...I often want to blow so quick.