Urologist says "...Put things in perspective" I'm going to prove him wrong

[cogswell Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close cogswell]

I went to see a urologist today about what i would call extreme Premature ejaculation. Also, I wanted to see about getting my frenulum snipped as it's pretty tight and pulls down the head when fully aroused. Basically I tell him what I want to accomplish and his only solution is giving me an ssri (paxil) and another drug to delay ejaculation and says "At most youll be able to last 2 or 3 minutes...it could be worse."

No, buddy, this is the worst thing at this point in my life, that's why I'm here to see you. But I digress. I'm going to fully overcome this issue and cum when I want to cum.

Some background here: 30 years old, athletic, 6' 5" with chronic depression and self-esteem issues. Didn't lose my virginity till I was 25. I have some slight ED issues coupled with Extreme PE, what I like to call the bulls' horns. It's like trying balance a ball on your head while balancing on a ball yourself. I've been so aroused that I ejaculated when putting condoms on before, it's that sensitive. I was on Lexapro from 2009 to 2012 then Prozac till summer of 2013, then wellbutrin till july 2014. As you can imagine the lexapro and prozac (although an ssri- which can delay ejaculation, although not subscribed for that) lowered libido and limited erection quality. I switched to wellbutrin after and it did nothing for as far as my erection quality returning.

I was in my only long term relationship with a girl from 2013 till recently, who was in her residency for urology, so she understood the mechanics of my issue and suggested we just have more sex and to also "do your 20 minutes a day" Basically masturbate with emphasis on the glans for sensitivity. Unfortunately I never did those exercises and as time passed the sex slowed as we were both frustrated at times. Weeks would go by and I wouldn't even initiate because it was so lousy. After some months apart doing long distance things ended a few months back, but not because of the sex. Even though I believe her when she says it wasn't because of the sex my self-esteem chaulks it up to that. Anyways, I'm rambling.

I just got my Fleshlight Stamina training unit in the mail yesterday and plan on attacking this issue hard (pun intended) I'm going to practice with this daily, coupled with a kegel program, and continuing with PE. I guess my point with all of this is I feel I'm at the lowest point sexually one can be as it's hard to find someone new who's going to put up with this issue. I'm in no place mentally and certainly not sexually to even begin dating right now but I'm going to prevail!

No pills are going to solve this. No creams are going to solve this. It's like putting newspaper over a puddle of piss and acting like it's cleaned up. I'm into solving root causes, not symptoms. Physical stimulation over time is going to get me the fuck over this!

I'm in control of this and will control my ejaculations as I see fit.

-Thanks for hearing my rant, fellas. Keep fighting

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Cogswell, if determination and persistence will help overcome pre-E (they WILL), then you're already on your way to recovery, I think. You have a great attitude and approach and sound motivated to defeat this. Read the pre-E forums and join the pre-E Group to get advice and guidance from other guys that share your battles. Many struggle with this condition, so you are not fighting it alone. Many here have also overcome their pre-E using edging and for those with porn induced pre-E, the AP90 program here at the GYM can also help. Keep asking questions in this forum to seek advice on your journey. Guys are all here to help each other and lend support when needed. All you have to do is ask.

[ItActuallyWorks! Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ItActuallyWorks!]

These all help depression/personally for me coffee is the best self esteem booster ever:

> This link is to a natural stress formula that has things like lavender oil, things from green tea, and things from chamomile tea, lemon balm etc. This could be effective for your depression possibly as well, because anxiety could be a factor.



> Drink a cup of coffee (antioxidants found in coffee serve as a short term anti-depressant) Also the caffeine is a stimulant and will make you feel 'there' or 'awake' which could also help with the depression you're feeling. Probably not the best thing for your erectile dysfunction though... But give it a try still.

> Take St. Warts John, it is a natural herb supplement and it promotes a happy mood, I feel toppling this alongside with coffee increases it's benefits in my opinion

> Make sure to get your vitamin D, it serves as an anti-depressant and promotes mood, increases testosterone etc. 400IU in my opinion is a very low level of vitamin D, I personally take 5000IU, anywhere between 5000IU-10,000IU will probably greatly help your depression. maybe take somewhere between 6000IU-7000IU from supplementation.

Erectile dysfunction issues:

> Horny Goat Weed is a natural herb that increases testosterone and sex drive. It also suppresses things in the blood stream that suppress NO2. Therefore, it will be easier to get an erection when you have more NO2 in the blood stream.

> L-Agrinine is an amino acid that converts into NO2 in the blood stream and relaxes blood vessels which allows the blood vessels to expand larger than usual.

> Ginkgo Biloba is acts somewhat like a blood thinner which will increase blood flow. It allow oxygenates the blood.

> Ginseng promotes overall well-being but is also popular for erectile dysfunction. It promotes blood flow, and I think enhances Ginkgo Biloba's effects. I kind of forgot a lot about this one but look it up it's very helpful as well.

> Folic Acid, which is vitamin B5, promotes blood flow as well.

> Exercise, maybe go for a quick job or do a few sprints. Any exercise will improve blood flow.

Premature Ejaculation Issues:

> Maca Root: It's a natural herb. It is an aphrodisiac that is often used to help premature ejaculation. Buy Horny Goat Weed, because most horny goat weed has Maca Root in it as well. Most horny goat weed has it with it and it will dfeinitely say 'WITH MACA' on the front, and you can see it in the ingredients saying 75mg or whatever amount is in it.

[ItActuallyWorks! Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ItActuallyWorks!]

Also, I would stay away from those depression medications they're bad for your sexual health. Also ADHD medication, like adderall and stuff is very, very amazing for self esteem problems and increases confidence, top it with coffee and it works superbly for depression/self esteem issues. My opinion don't take it as fact. This is if you have ADHD of course...

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Are you stopping the meds?

[cogswell Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close cogswell]

Are you stopping the meds?

I haven't been on anti-depressants for a year now. I started taking ritalin for ADD but only lasted a week as it made me super jittery and unable to focus. I prefer to do things without meds, especially in this instance.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

You likely were misdiagnosed. People without ADD, ADHD get very jittery on those medications.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

You seen one urologist who just threw meds at you. The woman you're seeing also an urologist, suggested something brilliant. Maybe not all of them are clueless.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

You will beat this, you'll never need meds again. I was on loads of different meds, and I didn't have depression, chronic pain, or anything that the meds were actually prescribed for.

[cogswell Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close cogswell]

It's going to be a long, uphill battle. I need to first pinpoint my ED and go from there. I tried using the fleshlight today and didn't last long, par for the course I suppose.

[cogswell Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close cogswell]

*using the fleshlight.

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

Forget ritalin. My friend smokes medical marijuana instead and its perfect for him.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Weed used to worsen my pre e.
Cocaine used to completely get rid of my pre e. Never tried ritalin ( Methylphenidate ) but like aderall it is a dopamine re uptake inhibitor.
Talk to your doctor before taking anything.

[Oxford Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Oxford]

Premature ejaculation problem ?? have u ever heard about >>>> promescent <<<<< The undisputed champion of liquids agains PE. No side effects no nothing. Give it a try and see how it goes. Even VIP are using lately.

[muscboy24 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close muscboy24]

Start using your fleshlight on a regular basis. Im addicted to mine :P I have never had any premature ejaculation problems, but since I started using my fleshjacks a few years ago I noticed I could last even longer before I orgasm.