The Urge is coming back

[Zman007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zman007]

14 days is nothing, actually when I've broke a porn addiction, twice now, I had worse EQ and libedo for the first month before it turned the corner. Stay strong, I've been Porn free for over two months and not missing it.

[CanIgrowPlease Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CanIgrowPlease]

14 days is nothing, actually when I've broke a porn addiction, twice now, I had worse EQ and libedo for the first month before it turned the corner. Stay strong, I've been Porn free for over two months and not missing it.

Yeah it would be motivating to see a EQ increase but I haven't. Hopefully it turns the corner like you said.

[Zman007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zman007]

Yeah it would be motivating to see a EQ increase but I haven't. Hopefully it turns the corner like you said.

You are impatient and focused on immediate gratification. Commit to the long haul or face reoccurring and worsening problems. Simple enough situation.

[HealthyMeat Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HealthyMeat]

Question does your bigger dick give you confidence ? How can I have confidence with a below average girth and average length and still a virgin in college ?

Does a bigger Dick give me confidence? No. I'm a very good looking guy, very in shape. When I take my shirt off at pool or beach I honestly think I get girls wet just looking at me, seriously. But just like you, I was very insecure all my life. I didn't loose my virginity till I was almost 21 and it was all because I was insecure and passed on opportunities. If I can go back in time to high school, i'd screw so many little teenage girls haha, but I missed on that experience if screwing fresh vagina that wanted me so bad. Anyway, what gives me confidence Is knowledge and social skills. Us men are so worried about our dicks when it comes to meeting women that we focus so much in it and its the last thing a woman sees. Confident women approached me a lot wanting to get to know me but was turned away not by the size of my Dick but the lack of confidence they saw in me. Women have radars for insecurities, they smell it like a cop dogs sniffing for crack at the Mexican border.

Stop worrying about the size of your Dick and build your character, your personality, and make some goals to make yourself the best person you can be. Guess what, you already started working on your self by joining this site, that should be step 1 of a huge list of goals you should write down, literally write down. Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself what your good at, bad at, and what you want to accomplish in life and set goals. Lots of them and write that shit down, don't be lazy. Only you can make yourself better and become less insecure. Make short term goals, daily weekly, monthly, to long term goals, 6moths to 1 year plus.

Now about your Dick, this is the best site to be for PE health. Pay attention to the success stories and look at the goals people created and met. Start of with the basics, take it slow and you will have a healthy penis on no time. With that being said, I have never met a girl that I was not able to give a uncontrollable, near neck breaking orgasm with my tongue on her clit and like half of two fingers in her. Sure I made them cum with my Dick but they cum harder with licking the clit. My wife prefers to cum when I go down on her.

[CanIgrowPlease Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CanIgrowPlease]

Does a bigger Dick give me confidence? No. I'm a very good looking guy, very in shape. When I take my shirt off at pool or beach I honestly think I get girls wet just looking at me, seriously. But just like you, I was very insecure all my life. I didn't loose my virginity till I was almost 21 and it was all because I was insecure and passed on opportunities. If I can go back in time to high school, i'd screw so many little teenage girls haha, but I missed on that experience if screwing fresh vagina that wanted me so bad. Anyway, what gives me confidence Is knowledge and social skills. Us men are so worried about our dicks when it comes to meeting women that we focus so much in it and its the last thing a woman sees. Confident women approached me a lot wanting to get to know me but was turned away not by the size of my Dick but the lack of confidence they saw in me. Women have radars for insecurities, they smell it like a cop dogs sniffing for crack at the Mexican border.

Stop worrying about the size of your Dick and build your character, your personality, and make some goals to make yourself the best person you can be. Guess what, you already started working on your self by joining this site, that should be step 1 of a huge list of goals you should write down, literally write down. Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself what your good at, bad at, and what you want to accomplish in life and set goals. Lots of them and write that shit down, don't be lazy. Only you can make yourself better and become less insecure. Make short term goals, daily weekly, monthly, to long term goals, 6moths to 1 year plus.

Now about your Dick, this is the best site to be for PE health. Pay attention to the success stories and look at the goals people created and met. Start of with the basics, take it slow and you will have a healthy penis on no time. With that being said, I have never met a girl that I was not able to give a uncontrollable, near neck breaking orgasm with my tongue on her clit and like half of two fingers in her. Sure I made them cum with my Dick but they cum harder with licking the clit. My wife prefers to cum when I go down on her.

You have the good looks that takes you a long way with the ladies. Im not the best looking guy, im not in the best shape not fat but you get my point and to top it all off I'm short (5'4). I get that confidence can take you a long way but I just can't find it. I can't stop thinking about my dick because I think about it 24/7. I'm worried about my size, performance, and EQ everyday. BTW my EQ hasn't improved after 18 days of no porn and no fap including kegals and edging and I haven't seen any improvement which is discouraging.

[drfrankencock Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close drfrankencock]

You have the good looks that takes you a long way with the ladies. Im not the best looking guy, im not in the best shape not fat but you get my point and to top it all off I'm short (5'4). I get that confidence can take you a long way but I just can't find it. I can't stop thinking about my dick because I think about it 24/7. I'm worried about my size, performance, and EQ everyday. BTW my EQ hasn't improved after 18 days of no porn and no fap including kegals and edging and I haven't seen any improvement which is discouraging.

I agree.

[Jaw Breaker Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jaw Breaker]

You have the good looks that takes you a long way with the ladies. Im not the best looking guy, im not in the best shape not fat but you get my point and to top it all off I'm short (5'4). I get that confidence can take you a long way but I just can't find it. I can't stop thinking about my dick because I think about it 24/7. I'm worried about my size, performance, and EQ everyday. BTW my EQ hasn't improved after 18 days of no porn and no fap including kegals and edging and I haven't seen any improvement which is discouraging.

It takes several months to start seeing the benefits from abstaining from porn. It varies from person to person, but 18 days is not enough to see any significant changes. You're taking a habit that took years (for some people a lifetime) to form ... your brain doesn't rewire overnight.

Also, I'm an inch shorter than you and I've dated women that were 5'10". Height has no bearing on dating unless the girl just simply refuses to date short men ... and that's okay because it's their preference. But height is not a crutch ... and neither is your normal dick size.

If you're worried about your body, you have 100% control over changing that. We can't all make ourselves better looking, but we can do a lot for our bodies.

Regardless of all of that ... if you think you need to change everything about you to find a girl, that's a big issue. You have to love yourself before others can love you. Confidence is a state of mind. The fear of failure is far worse than the temporary defeat of being rejected. You WILL get rejected ... everyone gets rejected ... the best looking people in the world get rejected. It's part of life. But you need to go out there and grab life by the horns and beat it into submission. Nobody is going to tell you what to do or how to do it. You're the only one that can take action. Stop hating on yourself so much and move forward.

[Zman007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zman007]

18 Days is nothing. It takes as long as it takes. Be patient, whining about things does no good. Take control of your life, or don't and wish you did. Your choice.

[HealthyMeat Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HealthyMeat]

You have the good looks that takes you a long way with the ladies. Im not the best looking guy, im not in the best shape not fat but you get my point and to top it all off I'm short (5'4). I get that confidence can take you a long way but I just can't find it. I can't stop thinking about my dick because I think about it 24/7. I'm worried about my size, performance, and EQ everyday. BTW my EQ hasn't improved after 18 days of no porn and no fap including kegals and edging and I haven't seen any improvement which is discouraging.

You missed the point I was saying. My good looks with insecurities got me NO girls... literally zero till I changed.

[CanIgrowPlease Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CanIgrowPlease]

You missed the point I was saying. My good looks with insecurities got me NO girls... literally zero till I changed.

On day 20 No porn/fap the urge is dwindling down everyday and it's a good feeling hopefully I can feel good about my size aswell. But anyways I appreciate the advice and help you and everyone is giving me. I truly needed it, I relapsed so many times and I felt like I would never tirn the corner and MrB8 was there to give me motivation and never give up. I want to give a special thanks to MrB8. Anyways I will give my penis some rest, I think I'm using my pelvic floor muscles too much in order to get to 10/10 EQ. I've damn neared tried to do this everyday since I started my no porn/fap session. Anyways I hope I can gain some confidence in myself and my current size and one day I can post in the success section of PEGYM. Hopefully about finally losong my virginity lol

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

Guys don't underestimate the power of quitting porn as well as masturbation.

If somebody suffers from excessive arousal problems quitting all kind of stimulation is the way to go. You should try to stay away from your penis as long as you can, at least for one month. The idea behind it is that you have to reboot your arousal response to stimulation. If you keep edging you are not going to benefit from it if you suffer from arousal problems. I'm not saying edging is bad, I just think you should first give yourself a period of complete abstinence. Then, once you feel you are generally less aroused you can reincorporate edging but I think a phase of reboot is necessary.

[CanIgrowPlease Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CanIgrowPlease]

Guys don't underestimate the power of quitting porn as well as masturbation.

If somebody suffers from excessive arousal problems quitting all kind of stimulation is the way to go. You should try to stay away from your penis as long as you can, at least for one month. The idea behind it is that you have to reboot your arousal response to stimulation. If you keep edging you are not going to benefit from it if you suffer from arousal problems. I'm not saying edging is bad, I just think you should first give yourself a period of complete abstinence. Then, once you feel you are generally less aroused you can reincorporate edging but I think a phase of reboot is necessary.

Yeah maybe I should stop this excessive arousal for about 2 weeks. When Im bored I arouse myself almost everytime. It's just discouraging because I haven't had any morning wood or EQ improvement im the 20 days of PMO. Do you have any advice/tips for EQ improvement.

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

Yeah maybe I should stop this excessive arousal for about 2 weeks. When Im bored I arouse myself almost everytime. It's just discouraging because I haven't had any morning wood or EQ improvement im the 20 days of PMO. Do you have any advice/tips for EQ improvement.

Well, I'm not an expert of EQ and I don't care much about it because I never had any EQ issues.

Nontheless I think if you want to improve it you could try the following things:

- Don't masturbate (this can give EQ improvements even to those who don't suffer from it)

- Exercise (running is a good activity)

- Try to eat bananas and blueberries.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Yeah maybe I should stop this excessive arousal for about 2 weeks. When Im bored I arouse myself almost everytime. It's just discouraging because I haven't had any morning wood or EQ improvement im the 20 days of PMO. Do you have any advice/tips for EQ improvement.

Relax, stress is number one EQ killer, do something you like instead of needlessly worrying, and do not monitor your EQ, your penis works best when not pressured.

As mentioned above, eat well and exercise, staying away from porn in and on its own will help your EQ recover, but it takes time to reprogram your arousal process, from depending on porn to normal mode, just be patient and do NOT panic, you are on your way!