I'm A Woman, Ask Me Anything!

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Hmmmm, do I dare ask another question this morning? I think I'll play it safe....

How was your coffee this morning dear?

Great cup of coffee.

Aahhh, is Monsignor TheZZMan your Mr. Coffee?

This is actually very sweet.

Listen, there will be no exposing of coded messages on these forums. Geesh, you would have thought this was a public forum or something....

Yes, the "coffee" was exceptional!!!

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

I agree with you, and I am a Christian. The thing is, even if a woman has had vaginal orgasms before, it still takes a desire to seek them out to remember what brought it about.

Why would a woman NOT seek them out?

Again, there could be a lot of reasons. To me having an orgasm is great, but there needs to be more going on for me to seek out more. We can orgasm with a dildo after all but it does not come close to the experience I have with my husband because so much more is going on. Does masturbating make you desire your hand?

What I remember and desire most, and what makes me come back for more, is the whole experience. From the teasing to the touching, the caressing, the skin on skin action. The feeling that he wants me and that I am desirable to him. It is a very mental thing that brings on the physical. Just getting off is not enough - I need to feel like I have the freedom to express myself this way with no judgement or guilt. This doesn't come over night or in one night - trust and giving all of oneself takes time. Nurture it and it will blossom.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

But if you'd have to say on a scale of 1-10 how much girth matters in the enjoyment of sex, all other factors being equal, what number would you put on it?

I don't go about measuring, so I can't put a number on one aspect of the experience. When I'm having sex I'm not thinking about what size his dick is. I am thinking of how good it feels and fantasizing about what going to happen next.

[Undead Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Undead]

But if you'd have to say on a scale of 1-10 how much girth matters in the enjoyment of sex, all other factors being equal, what number would you put on it?

momma always told me dont ask questions u dont wana know the answer to lol......

[SnapperLapper Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SnapperLapper]

Again, there could be a lot of reasons. To me having an orgasm is great, but there needs to be more going on for me to seek out more. We can orgasm with a dildo after all but it does not come close to the experience I have with my husband because so much more is going on. Does masturbating make you desire your hand?

What I remember and desire most, and what makes me come back for more, is the whole experience. From the teasing to the touching, the caressing, the skin on skin action. The feeling that he wants me and that I am desirable to him. It is a very mental thing that brings on the physical. Just getting off is not enough - I need to feel like I have the freedom to express myself this way with no judgement or guilt. This doesn't come over night or in one night - trust and giving all of oneself takes time. Nurture it and it will blossom.

Exactly right, but then there are those women out there that truly, either can't, or won't do what it takes to get the O no matter what stimuli are used. It's called anorgasmia. Several factors "could" be involved, and the problem is not easily solved. It could be physiological, or psychological reasons that cause the elusive O for those with this problem. That's why I said earlier that there is no single answer that applies to all women.

If it were me, I would do everything in my power to try and solve this problem, but women are much more reluctant to do so. They will go through life feeling "broken", and my heart goes out to them, but for gosh sakes, do something about it.

[RedWilly Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RedWilly]

momma always told me dont ask questions u dont wana know the answer to lol......

I've asked multiple women multiple times on this site to put it on a scale... Never got a clear answer LOL!

Not sure what that means but I'll take it as relatively important but there are other factors that might be more.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Exactly right, but then there are those women out there that truly, either can't, or won't do what it takes to get the O no matter what stimuli are used. It's called anorgasmia. Several factors "could" be involved, and the problem is not easily solved. It could be physiological, or psychological reasons that cause the elusive O for those with this problem. That's why I said earlier that there is no single answer that applies to all women.

If it were me, I would do everything in my power to try and solve this problem, but women are much more reluctant to do so. They will go through life feeling "broken", and my heart goes out to them, but for gosh sakes, do something about it.

I would say statistically the numbers should be low for those with physiological issues. I think a lot has to do with society and truly not knowing what they are missing out on. I know a lot of women that think they are not supposed to enjoy sex as much as men. When talking to my friends and they tell me they aren't really into sex - my favorite phrase to them is "If you are not enjoying the it, you are doing it wrong". I have helped a couple get beyond their fears and anxieties and they enjoy a much better sex life with their husbands now. Women need to talk more about this issue and not be ashamed to do so.

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I've asked multiple women multiple times on this site to put it on a scale... Never got a clear answer LOL!

Not sure what that means but I'll take it as relatively important but there are other factors that might be more.

The way i see it is, if a girl isint happy with the size she either moves on or pretends its ok.... Just like us men, if we arent happy with the girl we either move on or pretend its ok LOL.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

I've asked multiple women multiple times on this site to put it on a scale... Never got a clear answer LOL!

Not sure what that means but I'll take it as relatively important but there are other factors that might be more.

It means, stop asking - there is no answer. We are not sugar coating anything, we are telling you exactly how we feel about it. Sorry it's not what you want to hear, but it is the truth!

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

I've asked multiple women multiple times on this site to put it on a scale... Never got a clear answer LOL!

Not sure what that means but I'll take it as relatively important but there are other factors that might be more.

Here's my answer:

When you look at a sexual encounter as a whole, if you're asking how important girth is I'm going to give it a 4. And at that it's still more important than length.
Why so low? Because penis size is by far not even close to the most important thing when it comes to sex.
(and even then 4 might be rating it too high)

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I am 52 and a size 6, 5' 9" tall attached is my doppleganger.

[ATTACH]88645[/ATTACH] I think my boobs are bigger than hers. A women that is confident in herself does not care about telling her age or any other aspects about herself, so I am not offended.

So ZZWoman,
You and your doppleganger are having a girls night out with plenty of fine wine and great conversation. You light up a big fatty in the hot tub and get completely relaxed. She slips everything off and her body looks just like yours. She moves up close to you, giggles, and wants you to slip everything off. What do you do?

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

So ZZWoman,
You and your doppleganger are having a girls night out with plenty of fine wine and great conversation. You light up a big fatty in the hot tub and get completely relaxed. She slips everything off and her body looks just like yours. She moves up close to you, giggles, and wants you to slip everything off. What do you do?

First, you'd never catch me with a big fatty, not my thing. Next, I'd thank her for the compliment and explain that women don't excite me that way and that I am a one man woman, I take my marriage vows seriously.

[akga80 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close akga80]

Weird question, me and my wife have been going through some stuff, unknown to her obviously, but known to me. Now the first thing you'll probably say is you should talk, but problem is she doesn't communicate that way, I've tried everything, it always turns into the blame game and she thinks I'm trying to turn it into something I'm not, and it goes from bad to worse really quick. So I've kinda shutdown, and I don't pay her anymore attention, funny thing is, she's getting better, really starting to get her shit together. First off, I don't understand that at all, I think it's like a power thing, like if I offer advice, she will deliberately do the opposite. Second is when should I start the rebuild process, like once she's actually gotten back to the person I married 10 years ago. Obviously not the same, but she lost her drive, no spark left, she let her self go, now she's trying to improve. But I've tried literally everything, every piece of advice on this website has blown up in my face, except this one. I'd like to reconnect, but I still feel like it's to early, what do you think.

[SnapperLapper Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SnapperLapper]

I would say statistically the numbers should be low for those with physiological issues. I think a lot has to do with society and truly not knowing what they are missing out on. I know a lot of women that think they are not supposed to enjoy sex as much as men. When talking to my friends and they tell me they aren't really into sex - my favorite phrase to them is "If you are not enjoying the it, you are doing it wrong". I have helped a couple get beyond their fears and anxieties and they enjoy a much better sex life with their husbands now. Women need to talk more about this issue and not be ashamed to do so.

I agree, and physiologic problems can be treated for the most part if admitted first and dealt with. Psychological problems can be a lot tougher to fix, but can be if the root cause is identified and dealt with. Even then it could take a long time.

I also agree with the, "If you are not enjoying the it, you are doing it wrong", statement. The trouble is finding someone close enough to the person with the psychological issue to talk to. It can be an embarrassing problem for some women, and they won't open up to just anybody, and in most cases won't even bring the subject up to a doctor of any kind.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Reluctantly dipping my toes in the water yet again...

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What are your thoughts on "Manscaping"? (to make sure I'm doing it right)

What about "Womanscaping"?

Should things be trim and proper?, shaved to the skin?, or should each do what they feel like doing?

A recent trend seems to be women letting armpit hair grow. I know this is commonplace in some parts of the world, but is a new phenomenon here in the states.