GF losing patience with me because I'm not horny

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

My gf has been getting mad at me lately because I don't wanna have sex.

Sometimes I go through periods where I'm not interested.

It's not that I can't get hard. I can. Plus I have some Cialis I can take to get hard. But I just don't want to.

Also we've been fighting lately and it has stressed me out.

She thinks it's because I'm not interested in her and then she gets mad and we start fighting again and it's a vicious cycle.

How do I make her understand that I can't have sex everyday?

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Buy yourself some horny Goat Weed (60+% Icarrin) and get your T levels checked. There's NO REASON a healthy normal male would refuse sex daily, from a GF who offers it. You need a good endocrinologist to do some tests...if he finds nothing abnormal, then see a sex therapist and have them delve into your head issues. What you describe ISN'T NORMAL for an otherwise healthy male.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

Why don't you talk to her about this and explain that your reasons for not wanting to have sex have nothing to do with her. You need to tell her that you still find her attractive and value your relationship or she's going to think it's because you don't love me her. Also, try just cuddling with her once in a while. Women need intimacy as much if not more than men desire sex.

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

Buy yourself some horny Goat Weed (60+% Icarrin) and get your T levels checked. There's NO REASON a healthy normal male would refuse sex daily, from a GF who offers it. You need a good endocrinologist to do some tests...if he finds nothing abnormal, then see a sex therapist and have them delve into your head issues. What you describe ISN'T NORMAL for an otherwise healthy male.

my testosterone is high. i was fine until we started fighting and i got depressed. why is it abnormal to not want to have sex sometimes?

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

Why don't you talk to her about this and explain that your reasons for not wanting to have sex have nothing to do with her. You need to tell her that you still find her attractive and value your relationship or she's going to think it's because you don't love me her. Also, try just cuddling with her once in a while. Women need intimacy as much if not more than men desire sex.

we cuddle all night long while watching tv and sleeping.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Depression is a libido killer! Get yourself some help (mental) and work out your differences with your GF...you haven't discovered (or admitted) the underlying causes of your depression (IMO). Sex is NOT the root of your "problem"; it's a symptom!

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

For example, one time I got a cold sore and completely lost interest in sex. Because I couldn't kiss her or eat her out. The cold sore also stressed me out so my testosterone dropped. The lack of intimacy which lasted maybe 4 days triggered the hugest fight we ever had where i ended up punching a mirror and shattering it. We were actually on a trip at the time I was still doing my best to have a good time with her. But she just wants sex.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

For example, one time I got a cold sore and completely lost interest in sex. Because I couldn't kiss her or eat her out. The cold sore also stressed me out so my testosterone dropped. The lack of intimacy which lasted maybe 4 days triggered the hugest fight we ever had where i ended up punching a mirror and shattering it. We were actually on a trip at the time I was still doing my best to have a good time with her. But she just wants sex.

Hmm...sounds like you have some anger issues for sure...see a mental therapist.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

Do you have anger issues?

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

Do you have anger issues?

not anymore, I've worked that out. Like I said, i have high testosterone so I can get angry easily.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

Depression is a libido killer! Get yourself some help (mental) and work out your differences with your GF...you haven't discovered (or admitted) the underlying causes of your depression (IMO). Sex is NOT the root of your "problem"; it's a symptom!

Also vitamin D supplementation helps. I take 50K IUs of liquid vitamin D every day.

But here there may be a undiagnosed mental condition as well.

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

we have been dating for over 6 months and still haven't said i love you. Maybe I should try that?

[SmugLion Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SmugLion]

Well, don't say it if you don't mean it.

I think you should find out why you are stessed instead.

[MisterBator Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MisterBator]

For example, one time I got a cold sore and completely lost interest in sex. Because I couldn't kiss her or eat her out. The cold sore also stressed me out so my testosterone dropped. The lack of intimacy which lasted maybe 4 days triggered the hugest fight we ever had where i ended up punching a mirror and shattering it. We were actually on a trip at the time I was still doing my best to have a good time with her. But she just wants sex.

jesus. let me find a girl that just wants sex. most are more along your mind set from my experience. Usually I'm the one going crazy over getting some sex. mis alligned sex drives happen ALL THE TIME. Usually it's the man wanting more but it's reverse in this case. If yall are fighting to the point of breaking shit perhaps you should consider finding someone different as that is a clear cut sign of a TOXIC relationship.

[Beefster Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Beefster]

we have been dating for over 6 months and still haven't said i love you. Maybe I should try that?

you should try a viagra haha