I pushed for details. She had better sex when cheating.

[TeoDeles Senior Member Member of the Month July 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TeoDeles]

Pegasus you have some serious issues man.
You saw that I was right from the begining and you just can t handle that.
Its good to admit you are wrong, it makes you a man of respect. You are acting like a little child. Grow up and listen to people that know better than you.
My life have shown if I can keep a relationship or not. I kept the girls that really deserve it.
Don t bother with me anymore and I ll do the same.

I am always 1 step ahead. The OP learned that. Maybe you will eventually learn this too but I don t wait for you to admit it because your ego won t let you.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Uhuh .
Her is a quote of my post at the start of this thread.
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Hmm you realise the sex with her would have died away to nothing without this incident ?
That alone should make you rethink the relationship .

On the other thing i doubt you will get over it move on.
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You have let narcissism overtake good sense .
You would benifit from reading this thread.

[TeoDeles Senior Member Member of the Month July 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TeoDeles]

I was speaking to the OP and you showed up like a fart from nowhere just to attack me with empty claims .

Its a shame to be an administrator with that kind of issues man.
you are disgracing the forum. You are not just a member... so I suggest you to be careful because your place in the forum is delicate

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Here it is read and learn

https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/719...tml?highlight=

When you do you will see your attack on me is classic narcissist behaviour .

Your relationship advice goes beyond the op's current one .

ZZ has given a different view and mine is different again .

[TeoDeles Senior Member Member of the Month July 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TeoDeles]

Ok man.
I am not gonna drop to your level by continue chatting with you.
All I care is that the OP learned his lessons and is coming closer to self development.
Have a nice life

[Norwaydude Senior Member Member of the Month Oct. 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Norwaydude]

That was fun!

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

Glad you had fun Norwaydude. ha ha

I appreciate all of the help and different opinions given, which I kind of blended all together to get to my opinion. I feel its a good one. I can move forward so thanks.

It would of been cool if someone in the future, dealing with a similar issue, stumbled upon this thread and got some hope out of it. I say sorry to you. This isn't the happy ending I thought it would be either.

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

Im 27 but i dont understand shit about the modern relationships. I was raised quite traditionally, many females in my family and i was taught to put females in front of myself. This theory is contradictory in today's times i guess. that saying "girls are more interested in bad boys that don't treat them well than the gentleman that does" is quite true. But id say there are traditional valued younger women out there too, just few and far between. I'm talking about this as an interesting factor, not because i have a bone to pick with women now. interesting points were brought up on this phenomena earlier in this thread.

Gender equality was pretty bad back in the day. I Spoke to my granny about her views on this. She said women of today have overcompensated and aren't ladies anymore. She said it was a common belief among women back then that giving the man power makes him feel like a man, and the women feels safe and protected as a result. Also they would be proud to support his strength which in turn allows men to be the best they could be and treat their wife fairly as a lady. Pretty wise words which i think are lost in today's times. The same is true for males tho. A commercial diving instructor once told me something similar but from a males perspective. He said "Men were men, back in the day when boats were made of wood and divers were made of iron, unfortunately today boats are made of iron and men are wouldn divers". I guess i fall prey to this to some extent. We don't have great role models today, try think of good masculine role models in society today. We have lost the teachings of our seniors as we don't respect them. Kids on their smartphones while having dinner in front of the TV with mom and dad, too on their phones watching justin bieber.

This is a good forum to learn things like this. so lets not blame each other for not getting some right point that should be obvious. its like shouting at someone for being sick.

Anyway I can only share advice and thought that I thought was pretty cool.
Hahaha I sound like a friggen pre-schooler

[SoraSora Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SoraSora]

I'm impressed! I thought you'd end up like some people on this forum, in a null-zone running down a looped corridor.

Everyone seems to want to claim responsibility for your decision, but the truth is the type of person you are is what led you to make it. That was the strength of your inner character, so good for you!

You might feel a little heartbroken still, that makes sense. That just shows the strength of what you had with this girl when she was someone who inspired those feelings in you, before she changed. The more you engage with new girls, and look for new connections, the more you'll find you're capable of having these feelings and even stronger ones, in new, fresh, more fulfilling friendships, relationships, and further with girls.

I wish you luck!

[Norwaydude Senior Member Member of the Month Oct. 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Norwaydude]

Im 41 and i’m still struggeling with whats the meaning of it all. The older i get the harder i find it to understand woman. I have boiled my own needs down to two bulletpoints:

1.have good sex
2.have good fun

I’m taking care of my own 3 kids and dog. And get the love i need from them. I’m Having fun with friends so it is basically the sex part where woman can possibly contribute. And add some fun part if your lucky. My current gf could be a standup comidian funny af. Or else i would not bother.

You my friend is much better off without a shitty relationship. Now get out there and do some conquering, in the name of good old fashioned masculinity!! Rooting for ya!

[Dance Sucka Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dance Sucka]

Gender equality was pretty bad back in the day. I Spoke to my granny about her views on this. She said women of today have overcompensated and aren't ladies anymore. She said it was a common belief among women back then that giving the man power makes him feel like a man, and the women feels safe and protected as a result. Also they would be proud to support his strength which in turn allows men to be the best they could be and treat their wife fairly as a lady. Pretty wise words which i think are lost in today's times.

Your granny is spot on! There's a type of relationship where the man keeps his power and is supported by his woman, who he generously shares some of the power with. This is possible to have today if you learn the skills and find a relatively sane woman.

I don't really care that you cheated - that's your business - although I have an opinion about it. It was rough as hell, but now you're free and can have sex with all the women you want. You had a memorable relationship, and now it's over. You are free!

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Well, a sudden turn of events it seems. This whole relationship was suspicious from the beginning. I took the OP at his word and was disappointed when he drifted. Now, as the dust settles, it was probably for the best. While I think the advice here was all over the board, in the end, it made the OP think hard of the relationship and he was able to see through the fog this girl had put up in front of him. Its all good.

He needs some time to decompress and reflect. To make sure he compiles all the markers that showed this was coming but didn't see them. This will help him not make the same mistakes in the next relationship. Its tough to be objective with a nice pair of boobs and a beautiful bum staring you in the face. That is not what you are dating or marrying, it is the person and the personality that lies within. Need to decipher that person before committing. Has nothing to do with Alpha this or Beta that, you have to be you and be confident in who you are.

My best to you my friend, this was the right thing to do regardless of how empty you may feel. Don't look backwards at what you could have done, look forward at what you are going to do. Keep us informed of the next future Mrs. GiftBringer.

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

Thanks ZZman. Your input was well received

[Dionae Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dionae]

Giftbringer,

I can commiserate with your story. I recently broke off a long term relationship. One of the triggers was finding out that she was sleeping with a coworker. He's taller, older, richer, and arguably better looking. He's married too so that gives him an extra edge. And being taller, I'm almost certain he has a bigger and prouder cock.

My girlfriend -- now ex -- once even had the chutzpah to call me one evening late at night looking for solace because he was too remote. That gutted me. And like you were once, I am weak. I still love her -- for some mysterious reason.

She too wanted to marry me and have babies. But between the unstable work situation and my own personal issues, marriage always seemed so far away.

Also, to be honest, my own hangups about my penis size also got in the way of great sex. I'm 5"ish BPEL, but after reading about all of you guys out here with initial sizes of 6"+, I feel diminished and emasculated. And that's not good for an Asian guy.

Which leads to another thing. Most of the Asian women out there in their 20s to 30s inwardly see the non-Asian races as a sexual upgrade. Day after day, I feel like the bottom of the barrel. So if you're Asian, I hope you're tall because you're swimming against the tide.

I hope you can get over it. PE will definitely help. I just started my own regimen and in my own messed up way, I'm hoping that I'll end up in bed again with my ex one day just to prove that I loved her. There was a stretch of time where we hadn't had sex for 6 MONTHS. Why? Job loss, loss of equity in the stock market, she was making more than me at the time, etc. My libido plummeted and so did hers....at least for me.

Do not picture the image of your girl with him in bed. It will drive you towards suicide. You must, unfortuantely, regain your confidence. This means, as crass as this sounds, reasserting your manhood with a woman as soon as you can -- even if you don't care about that woman. I know this sounds like user talk, but I think it's true.

PM me. I have a feeling you and I are going through a similar emotional crisis. Just stretch your unit and bathmate it until it's as thick as her wrist. Then you'll largely feel that she's missed out. Totally messed up, I know, but somehow that's how we guys tend to think.

[july Banned Find all posts View Profile Close july]

Thanks. I know it's the right thing to do but it's difficult to throw away so much love. You're both right. Don't know if I can ever regain my masculinity.

I'm sad to have to use such a cookie-cutter word but you are a cuck right now. Still being with her is the same as being a cuckold.