Religious Split

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

You have done wise to break it off. She loves her religion.Yes she may love you but she loves her religion more. It's funny but if you asked her who does she love more, you or God ( a stupid question indeed) she would of course say God. SHE LOVES HER RELGION but sadly God is not a religion!!. Some might say to her that her religion and God are the same thing;faulty logic.God is not Mormon,Catholic, Jewish or any religion. He existed before religion ever existed and last I heard he hadn't converted to any of them.I have never heard from God that he favored one religion over another; it is men who say that. I am a church going Catholic and my only insistence on the person I married is that she be a good person. I would never force my religous views on anyone. God loves all good people no matter what religion they were either born into or decided to become! I would never put my wife before God but I would put my wife before my religion but I would never give up my religion.Paradoxical but I hope understandable.
As for the only girl you'll meet like this, I'm sure that God has created millions of girls just as pretty, caring, kind, wonderful etc and you will find one or just maybe He'll find one for you.

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Well said, Cusp.

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I think it's a really sad thing when religion causes people who are otherwise well-matched to part ways. But it is MUCH better to realize that this relationship was not going to work now, rather than later when marriage and children might have been involved.
Our hearts are with you, good luck in moving forward.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

No BW, I just reiterated on what you said before. You're the best!

[RIB2211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RIB2211]

Thanks again guys. I'm going to do my best to move on. Great to have a community of good people here to help out.

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Ugh, another rant. Sorry. Forgot to mention that my family loves this girl like no other, especially my mother and sister. My sister recently departed overseas, and I'm seeing pictures of her leaving and my ex-mormon girl is there at the airport with my family (this is yesterday, mind you, so everything that I have posted in this thread has happened at this point). Apparently her and my sister have made plans to skype with each other and she (mormon girl) still hangs out with my family since I'm two hours away.

This is just creepy. Really creepy. No, she's not a stalker, it's just that her and my mother and my sister became very close when we were dating, and I guess my family doesn't see anything wrong with how we ended our relationship, but I do.

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Ugh, another rant. Sorry. Forgot to mention that my family loves this girl like no other, especially my mother and sister. My sister recently departed overseas, and I'm seeing pictures of her leaving and my ex-mormon girl is there at the airport with my family (this is yesterday, mind you, so everything that I have posted in this thread has happened at this point). Apparently her and my sister have made plans to skype with each other and she (mormon girl) still hangs out with my family since I'm two hours away.

This is just creepy. Really creepy. No, she's not a stalker, it's just that her and my mother and my sister became very close when we were dating, and I guess my family doesn't see anything wrong with how we ended our relationship, but I do.

You should explain to your mother and sister that this break up is really hard for you. That you understand they're close with eachother, but you have to ask them to respect you and try and refrain from keeping her in your life. I know it sounds like you're being needy or too emotional, but this is the best solution. It will prevent you from being tempted to get back together with her and help you move on. I don't know how close you are with your family but really discuss with them that you're hurt right now and the situation with them still getting together just brings back old memories and hurts you more. You can't really tell them to stop being friends, but this way it will be easier for you to move on.
Hope this helps.

[hsarge Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hsarge]

People often like people they don't have to live with. Parents always like the 'goodie-two-shoes' type, because they are always on their best behavior around family. They will learn to like the next woman you are with because that woman makes you happy (at least they should).

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My ex gf's mom got mad at her when I broke it off because my ex gf turned out to be a huge flake and she cancelled on me on time too many so I gave her the boot and I explained to her why I was giving her the boot. She told her mom what I said and her mom got mad at her for having blown a great thing. Parents usually know best.......

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Not to be insensitive and such, I've spent some time in Utah. I can sum it up best with this .......... Utah is a like a Glass Globe, if you shake it, it snows like in a fantasy land. =]

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RIB211 I know how you feel I'm married to a mormon. IT has been 5 years or more I don't think it is giong to work . But when I was in New Mexcio I only went to there sacarment that the furthest I will go . I don't like it when they try to preach to you it is just not me.

[Going411x7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going411x7]

If you don't see eye to eye on this very important issue, it will only bring you heartache later on. As hard as it is, I think you made the right choice. Your mother and sister should know how you feel on this matter. The break-up was hard enough for you.

[Dea7h7rap 101 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dea7h7rap 101]

Hey all! I am a very strict member of the LDS church and just thought I would chime in here. I really do not like what this girl is doing, and it seems that mormons get such a bad rap due to us being cutoffish to others who do not want to listen to what we have to say. I really do not think that it was a good idea for her to say "come with me to church or we break it off" that is just stupid. If the two of you are very compatible and love each other, she should not be forcing you to come to church, that is going to do nothing but cause tension. However, that does not mean that you should be totally close minded in your views about her religion. Relationships are all about giving and taking, you want to have her, and you want to have her without her religion, which is extremely selfish. You say "I dont believe in the book of mormon" which is fine, but have you honestly looked at her religion? Why do you think she choose her religion over a guy she is obviously crazy about? Something special has to be going on there. Im not trying to preach from the mountaintops or anything here, just trying to pitch in for her team.

I do think that it was a VERY wise decision to split up, but she shouldnt have said, "come with me to church or else", as much as she should have said "Hey we really enjoy being around each other, lets continue down this path, and if we feel marriage is on the horizon lets talk about this religion thing when we reach it." Just coming from a member who KNOWS without a doubt that this religion is 100% true, and has studied many others. Hope this helps somewhat!!!!!

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but have you honestly looked at her religion? Why do you think she choose her religion over a guy she is obviously crazy about? Something special has to be going on there. Im not trying to preach from the mountaintops or anything here, just trying to pitch in for her team.

I appreciate your input, it's very valuable coming from someone within the LDS church. In regards to this question, yes, I have spent a fair deal of time around her religion. When I visited her in Utah for 5 days, we spent two of those strictly in Salt Lake in Temple Square, and learned all about the religion and it's preachings. I offered to attend a single service with her while I was there (without her asking me to, actually), but she wanted to go see The Spoken Word concert that morning instead. I've been very open to her religious side. Hell, I even told her that I would not have a problem with our kids (if we got married and had them) being Mormon and going to church with her, I just wanted them to be good, morally sound children. But apparently she wanted more out of me.

Good news I talked to my parents/sister and they agreed to stay away from her a little bit. I said there was nothing wrong with being nice and saying hello/catching up every now and then, but having her over for lunch/dinner/whatever or going shopping with her was just too much for me.

[Dea7h7rap 101 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dea7h7rap 101]

Its just a bad situation my friend. I have been there as well, with this roman catholic chick, and we just couldnt agree on views and it split us up. The easist way out for me was to just move on, and realize there are LOTS more fish in the sea! Good luck to you sir!