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The cycle continues as she once again stated that she's not sure what she wants. I'm not sure where to go with this other than to support her and keep my distance. Hopefully she will let me know when her mind is made up. Thanks again for all of the advice everyone. It's been nice to have a place to vent.
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Be strong. I think you're on the right track. Your girlfriend seems to be like an unstable one. She may not do it on purpose but what she's doing is a form of manipulation. Stand your ground but don't be cruel.__________________________________________________ ______________________________________________
10/18/2010
Starting Stats
BPEL: 5"
EG: 4 1/8"
NBPEL: 4 1/2"
BPFL: 2.75"
Goal
BPEL: 7"-ish
EG: 5.5"
FL: 4"Comment
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I feel your pain. Been there...26 years ago and recently re-fell in love with her all over again due to coincidental relocation. Can't go into details, but I'm still feeling the pain. All you can do is move forward and let it go to the back of your mind. Find another and make baby steps.Start: BPEL 6" / EG 5"
Now: BPEL 6.625" / EG 5.2"
Goal: BPEL 7.5" / EG 5.5" ||8===D~·.Comment
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Thanks guys, It's nice to know there's light at the end of the tunnel. I feel that she is confused about where to go in life...maybe not wanting to let me go in fear of losing the memories or something along those lines. I just hope she figures something out soon so my head will quit spinning!Comment
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Well this weekend I was invited to come down and stay with her for a night. Lots of sexual innuendo's in those texts. Part of me wants to believe this is her way of trying to get me back and the other part of me KNOWS I am about to be used. It's amazing how she seems like a totally different person now. It makes me quite sad to feel that way. I think I made a big mistake and agreed to come down even though I know when I leave it will hurt.
On another note I have been debating on asking a girl in town to go out with her and some of her friends sometime soon. Not in the sense that I'm attracted to her but because she's one of the few people in town I've briefly met that doesn't seem like a raging hillbilly. I'm trying to convince myself that it's a good step to take.Comment
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That's a very good step to take - certainly move on that.Originally posted by Woohoo View Post
As far as the invite, play it cool. You should've turned it down but you can still be cordial and keep it amicable. Intimacy at this point may not be the best thing - some of the other posters were right in that you NEED some time to yourself. And she does to.Old Gym Log - Tracking progress with the iLogPE App
"Wherever you go, there you are. Stay sexy, my friends."Comment
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Ugh I know, I know I should have :/
I still have time to back out as I'm not supposed to go down until next monday. I may try to just turn it into a friendly dinner then stay at a friends house for the night. Although the thoughts of being close to her again are very hard to resist. She has called twice tonight, although I did not answer either one. She left a message both times and I could hear the sadness in her voice.
This would be a lot easier if I knew what was going through her head.
I am doing my best to take everyones advice and give her and myself time to ourselves but is a battle everyday.
Again thanks for all the encouragement and advice everyone
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Do you really think she and things will have changed in such a short time? that all will be different now? can you go there, see her and not get pressured into getting back together and just do the friends thing for awhile?Comment
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No, I know things have not changed. To be honest I'm not sure what I would be looking for by going down. Just taking it day by day trying to figure out what's best for me. I don't think she wants to get back together I think she just wants to have some physical contact to be honest. I think if this was her actually trying to get me back her conversations with me would be different. She is still distant and not very talkative. This is when she calls me, I have not called her unless it was a question about all the financial obligations she left me with, haha. So I have good on that front but I cannot resist a call from her yetComment
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BELIEVE me, I totally feel your pain at the moment. This lady friend of mine was supposed to go with me on a trip in 2 weeks. She tore into me today over something that happened yesterday..........something that I DIDN'T do and after my having threatened to pull the plug on our trip, she tells me "well, I could use the trip though, don't cancel it just yet". I'm sorry, WHAT?!?!?!?!? She makes my head spin like no other and life isn't supposed to be this way. Now she's telling me that you only live once and she'll just take the money out of savings but she ends the comment with "let's just sleep on it".Originally posted by Woohoo View Post
Like I said man, I totally understand where you're at.It's a tough job being good looking and hung :-)Comment
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Well we have not spoke in two days, so I think I found my out for going to visit. It hurts like hell, but I guess it is for the best. As much as I love this girl I think we have been doing more damage than good. Right now I would still love to have her back at some point as I still want to spend my life with her. Maybe one day she will decide that I am what she wants, but I'm no longer able to wait on the sidelines hoping that will happen.Comment
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Figured I would put an update up and maybe get some motivation to keep on keep'n on.
Oct 28 was the last time I had any real contact with my ex. I was supposed to go down and see her on the first. On the first we had not talked in 4 days so I figured she did not want to see me. So I didn't go down to see her. She sent me a text that evening about how upset she was about not seeing me and how sorry she was about everything that has happened. I ended up calling her after that text to calm her down. Not much was said other than sorry's and wishful thinking on both parts. She sent me "goodnight love" texts on monday and tuesday. Thats about it on that front
Yesterday I saw a bunch of old friends that I haven't seen in about a year and it was tough. They all asked about her and joked if we were married yet. It was very painful to talk about all this with them as they adored her. I know I haven't had a lot of time to really try and "get over" this but I just want to get to the point where I don't stare at my phone all day hoping to hear something from her. It definately doesn't make it any easier living by myself and spending 90% of my free time by myself.
I guess what I'm getting at is that it's been a rough week/weekend and I miss her/us terribly right now.Comment
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Cheer up bud!! Keep busy with life.Comment
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Haha working on it! Tough in this dead little town, eat/sleep/work!Comment
You should have turned it down...
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