Any tips to blow her mind :)

[spanky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spanky]

... finding what they like and sticking to it in my eyes isnt the best way forward.

it might just be me, but i like to find out what she wants each and every time we make love ...

What I meant by finding what she likes and sticking to it is responding to her at the time, not sticking to it for the next 20 years! lol. I think we're almost saying the same thing there

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

Most important is not to plan too much ahead. You need to read your partner's responses and adjust to them. Even the same woman will want different things different times. But throwing everything possible at her each time is a sure turn-off -- it will make her feel like a piece of meat. Listen to her.... what she says, what her body says.... and be open minded. Don't have a fixed agenda in mind when you go into the bedroom. A large menu is a much better way to think about it!

Very true!! Some of my best laid plans were obliterated with a single sentence (she had no idea of what I had planned but I had to scrap those plans after only a sentence from her saying she felt this way or that way). I had to adjust to her mood. And not surprisingly, things worked out even better than I had planned since I had to go into improv-mode and think on my feet. Spontaneous action often works better when romance is involved.

Take BW's advice; keep things varied but simple. Great restaurants don't keep everything on the menu - they always mix it up.

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

@spanky, ah i see lol i thought you meant just find it and use it yeah were on the same track...same explaination just different lol

but yeah spot on in my book

@batwoman, i dont just throw everything at her...i know shes not a piece of meat..unless she likes it that way,, what im mean by do everything is dont stop trying different things. use everything in your arsenal to get her quaking.

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@spanky, ah i see lol i thought you meant just find it and use it yeah were on the same track...same explaination just different lol

but yeah spot on in my book

@batwoman, i dont just throw everything at her...i know shes not a piece of meat..unless she likes it that way,, what im mean by do everything is dont stop trying different things. use everything in your arsenal to get her quaking.

True ... but it's also a good thing to keep some ammo in reserve. There are tons of things that I've 'experimented' with on with my gf in bed that drive her insane - and haven't gone back to them, although she's asked me several times about them. Why don't I break those techniques back out? For one, it keeps her guessing and keeps the sex exciting. And secondly, do it too often and it eventually makes sex dull because it becomes 'normal routine' - and 'normal' is the death knell to your sex life. I keep a nice arsenal in the rotation and we have yet to have a 'normal' sexual experience.

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True ... but it's also a good thing to keep some ammo in reserve. There are tons of things that I've 'experimented' with on with my gf in bed that drive her insane - and haven't gone back to them, although she's asked me several times about them. Why don't I break those techniques back out? For one, it keeps her guessing and keeps the sex exciting. And secondly, do it too often and it eventually makes sex dull because it becomes 'normal routine' - and 'normal' is the death knell to your sex life. I keep a nice arsenal in the rotation and we have yet to have a 'normal' sexual experience.

Brother, I totally dig the way you think..............I think you and I were separated at birth!! lol

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

i dont mean choking in a bad way..just gentle like...just enough to take her breath away...i find a lot of women like it..its not what you do its how you do it.

Yeah, see, I have a really firm hand shake and I've been known to unintentionally squeeze the shit out of a woman's hand that I'm meeting for the first time so I can't imagine what I'd do with my hand wrapped around her throat while I'm bangin' the hell out of her.............

However, I'm in full favor of hair pulling, spanking and talkin' really nasty during sex.............

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

i love those last 3 things you listed...i often start sex off with spanking, just grab the missus as she walks past and put her over my knee, pull her panties down and spank her good till shes hot and sweaty from struggling to escape...then kiss her ass better while i rub her pussy. tell her shes a naughty girl while im spanking her and that she needs to be punished...

then its into doggy style with her pants round her knees and her pussy dripping with anticipation. fingering her untill shes pulling at my arms to try and get me to enter her. she never gets it that quick though, i like to get in there and give her head while i watch her juices flowing down her thighs and feel her squirm and rub herself into my face while i lick both her pussy and her ass.

woah i think i should stop im getting turned on here. lol but im sure you get the idea...

yeah i have quite a firm grip but i learned to controll it..well sort of i still get carried away sometimes but thats why i introduce safe words.. helps me a lot when i get carried away. some women never use the safe word but most do.

[spanky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spanky]

Round of applause I wish I could rep this more

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

i love those last 3 things you listed...i often start sex off with spanking, just grab the missus as she walks past and put her over my knee, pull her panties down and spank her good till shes hot and sweaty from struggling to escape...then kiss her ass better while i rub her pussy. tell her shes a naughty girl while im spanking her and that she needs to be punished...

then its into doggy style with her pants round her knees and her pussy dripping with anticipation. fingering her untill shes pulling at my arms to try and get me to enter her. she never gets it that quick though, i like to get in there and give her head while i watch her juices flowing down her thighs and feel her squirm and rub herself into my face while i lick both her pussy and her ass.

woah i think i should stop im getting turned on here. lol but im sure you get the idea...

yeah i have quite a firm grip but i learned to controll it..well sort of i still get carried away sometimes but thats why i introduce safe words.. helps me a lot when i get carried away. some women never use the safe word but most do.

Amen brother.

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

amen indeed...it makes me crazy when i know my lady is loving every second of what im doing..i like to see my ladys melt with pleasure before i even think about getting myself off.

[Wazza Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wazza]

Agreed, knowing that the girl is loving it is the number 1 turn on. Above anything she could possibly do to YOU.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

amen indeed...it makes me crazy when i know my lady is loving every second of what im doing..i like to see my ladys melt with pleasure before i even think about getting myself off.

Interestingly enough, my last two gf's were BOTH about pleasing me in bed and would let me do little to reciprocate aside from mounting them and giving them a good fuck. Strange.......and neither one would allow me to eat her out. THAT I found most odd.

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

i couldnt cope with that...thats horrific...the last woman i was with last week told me she didnt like head....i soon changed her mind lol...she also said she wouldnt kiss me cuz id gone down...i soon changed her mind...basically i changed her mind on a lot of things in the bedroom...

i just have that effect im afraid.

dont get me wrong i like it as much as the next guy when a woman takes control and gives you a good seeing to...but if you cant do it in return parsonally for me it becomes a bit of a turn off.

[spanky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spanky]

In my fairly limited experience, taking charge is hands down about the most erotic thing you can do in the bedroom. For me, the details are less important than the willingness to try things out and get stuck in, which is kind of what I was getting at up there with the whole thing about reading her responses being more skilful than having a huge repertoire.

When I was younger and less self asssured I struggled to be dominant with some women, and if I'm honest, I still do sometimes, but whoah, seriously, the more confident I've become in life, and the bedroom (or kitchen.. stairs.. alleyway etc) the quality of sex (and women's responses to me) has gone through.. the.. roof.

I'm sure I could learn a thing or two from you though either way blulite

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

@spanky

ive actually started a thread in the relationships section thant has guides i wrote on various aspects of sex.

there is also a seperate thread for people to request my advice and i will help where i can and write articles on chosen subject matters

https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...-job-done.html