1 women for life question

[willo012 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close willo012]

well I broke up with my girlfriend at the start of this year, now we had been together for 4 years. She was my first and I was her first. But she left me and it completely broke me because I was so madly in love and I still am. Its kinda sad but i.don't think ill even have a relationship again because I would never truly love another. But since then I have has sex on numerious occasins and I think that because I absolutely hate relationships now this will be my life and I have accepted that and in answer to your question I believe that if you both took eachothers virginity its better to be with that one person your whole life I would rather be like that

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Too me its simple. If you both love each other dont throw it away for sexxual conquests. If she is the woman you love and could spend the rest of your life with then you are the luckiest man in the world and did not have to suffer through awful relationshiops and heartaches.
If she is the one keep her and love her and realize that every time \you have had sex and will have sex in the future that it was with the person you love more than any other in the world. I wish I would have met my wife 15 years earlier. She wouldnt have liked me back then,lol.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

^ This

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

So if someone were to give you a beautiful Corvette when you were 21, told you it would be the only car you will ever own so take care of it, would you ever wonder what it was like to drive a Ford Focus?

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

OP:
My exhusband would tell you that there is nothing to worry about when marrying a virgin. Although we are divorced now it had nothing to do with our chemistry, love making etc... I never had eyes for another man chemistry/sex wise. Emotionally and intellectually is where I needed more. Live experiences come in many ways, not just sex.
Think of what sustains a relationship. I had a huge group of people trying to explain to me I had not lived yet. At the time, I could not understand wth they were talking about lol

Good luck to you. Its normal to think as you are thinking.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

So if someone were to give you a beautiful Corvette when you were 21, told you it would be the only car you will ever own so take care of it, would you ever wonder what it was like to drive a Ford Focus?

What if the ford focus had bigger headlights??

[growinglad Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close growinglad]

Just so you know I feel the same way sometimes. Like I've missed out somehow. I like what someone said previously about being disappointed if you did cheat. The chemistry is so good between us that I can't imagine sex with a "stranger" ever being as memorable.

But people do talk about how many girls they've slept with as if it's an accomplishment. They give the impression that people who've had a lot of sex have had a more interesting life. Well, I've done tons of interesting things, it just hasn't involved sleeping around! Getting drunk in a club and hooking up isn't exactly the most adventurous thing you can do in your lifetime.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

If you're not happy, find someone else. If you're happy, be happy. It's dumb thinking "wow I wasted my life, I could of stuck my dick in more vaginas and now it's too late"

[mistydawn Banned Find all posts View Profile Close mistydawn]

Alright...this is just my thinking. I don't know if you will see anything in it for you.

I find the people that don't even date until they are engaged very interesting. They engage to marry and then date. They don't come into the relationship/marriage with baggage. They also have only had sex with eachother. I respect it don't see it as crazy. I find it fascinating.

My parents did believe in dating. They dated for 2 years before they married. They did not have any form of sex before marriage. They have only known eachother and have been remained in love married 53 years. I am thankful for their example, they showed me how a real marriage is. Many women coming from a home with no marriage have romantic notions of what marriage is. They see it as a life long date pretty much.

[hsarge Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hsarge]

Cusp, when I was 21 I wanted a corvette, but I didn't know about BMW, Porsche, etc. And Lexus had not even been created.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

Cusp, when I was 21 I wanted a corvette, but I didn't know about BMW, Porsche, etc. And Lexus had not even been created.

LMFAO!!!!!!

truth.com

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Misty: I love hearing stories like that. So awesome for your parents and their children to see that

During my separation I went buck crazy trying to figure out why marrying young did not mean forever anymore. The stats of those that marry their high school sweethearts or college sweethearts are just not making it until the end

I was so upset that my revelation that my husband was not going to be my husband for the rest of my life (my choice).

What I found in my research (took almost a year) was interesting. Its many pages long but I will summarize.

From 1950 and before most people married within their own neighborhoods, communities. People LIKE them. Late 40's and 50's was a very financial time as well along with war etc...

By the late 60's women had a different role, or so they thought, and the dynamic changed. We wont debate if that was good or bad for the human race. But women lives were changed forever. Many options, so many things they could do.

By the 80's no woman really needed a man. But a man needed a woman if he wanted to pursue his own career and have a family that was in order and taken care of.

It seems by 1970's the divorce rate of those married in that decade and after took a hit. Continues to do so to this day.

I am not saying women are to blame. Because hell to the no, we are not. I just think that my generation (I was born in the late 60's) would have benefited in high school from some more training. Had I known that a marriage was not a rock that could weather all storms. Rather it is the most preacious flower that needs daily attention. Its a full time job. That along with your own full time job, your children, your household, your family and yourself leaves little time. Learning how to manage your own life and needs and then bringing someone else on board is key. I learned this just a few years ago.
I would not change one day one second with my exhusband or the life we had. It was what I wanted and needed at the time. I did not know that it would not sustain me into my old age.

What is wonderful is seeing the youth of today. I see it all around me. Both sexes having goals, meeting those goals. Living their lives and marrying in their mid 20's is more common (at least in my city which is one of the largest in the country) My hope is that with life experience they have made good choices for their life partner. Its not about today or even 10 years from now. It really is forever.

This old saying: One foot on yesterday, one foot on tomorrow, that means I am pissing on today. So many people get lazy or overwhelmed and say or try to live by the code of "live for today" . No. You need to think. Dont be lazy. Think about where you were, where you want to go. Think of it today!

Anyway thanks for sharing your parents story. I had hoped to be in the 50+ year club too

Hey at is stands I was still married for longer than any person I personally know. Not sure what that says lol

Have a great day

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

cusp, when i was 21 i wanted a corvette, but i didn't know about bmw, porsche, etc. And lexus had not even been created.

buy american!!!!!!!

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Rather it is the most preacious flower that needs daily attention

I like that

[Jazon2000 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jazon2000]

So if someone were to give you a beautiful Corvette when you were 21, told you it would be the only car you will ever own so take care of it, would you ever wonder what it was like to drive a Ford Focus?

wow///u took my brain and just made it explode....but what if it wasnt a focus but a bentley?
great point tho...

also wat if it was a used corvette and ur a new driver