So there's this girl, right...

[powow Member Find all posts View Profile Close powow]

Everything with a grain of salt. I'll bet you $50 you wouldn't want to sleep with someone I've rated a 3. Those are the facts. Attraction is not something you can control, and it's just putting a number on what you feel. Would you trust a friend to put you on a blind date even though you know he has no idea how to rate women? It means less when you're in a long term relationship because all this rating stuff is just preliminary.

Anyway, this is not our thread, and the subject is not about whether a rating system is moral, relevant or useful. If you feel strongly about it, start another thread.

[ThomasJohnThomas Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThomasJohnThomas]

Everything with a grain of salt. I'll bet you $50 you wouldn't want to sleep with someone I've rated a 3. Those are the facts. Attraction is not something you can control, and it's just putting a number on what you feel. Would you trust a friend to put you on a blind date even though you know he has no idea how to rate women? It means less when you're in a long term relationship because all this rating stuff is just preliminary.

Anyway, this is not our thread, and the subject is not about whether a rating system is moral, relevant or useful. If you feel strongly about it, start another thread.

I would feel awkward being rated by numbers, all I am saying. If she feels awkward about how he acts towards her too, maby that`s why she is ignoring him. Or maby he is less than 8. And why should she settle for a 4 or 5, right?

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

Tell her how you feel.

Exactly. Ignoring you when her other friends are around just isn't cool. Period.

[powow Member Find all posts View Profile Close powow]

Or maby he is less than 8. And why should she settle for a 4 or 5, right?

Yes, exactly. But he stands up for himself in front of her friends his ranking jumps to 7.

[ThomasJohnThomas Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThomasJohnThomas]

Yes, exactly. But he stands up for himself in front of her friends his ranking jumps to 7.

If she did the same, this girl would go up to 11!!

[Cockadoodle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cockadoodle]

Sometimes it is an act of dominance, as with my ex-girlfriend. She would ignore me in front of her friends and I would confront her about in front of her friends. She would get pissy at me for confronting her in front of her friends but I had tried just talking to her privately and she would deny it.

Anyways, she wasn't going to change and it wasn't worth my time, so I left. We tried to work it out but that was her personality, disrespect.

I suggest after talking to her to stick up to what you say. If she wants to hang out with you and her friends say no (and say why). When you don't listen to her she will start wondering why you don't listen to her. When she loses control of you she will either a) Say shes sorry and try hard to make it up to you. or b) ignore it and wait for you to crack. If she chooses b then just drop her. She will either get the picture then and want you back, or if she doesn't it is over and you were the better person. Sometimes you have to lay down the law, but just remember to be "fair" about it and you can't lose!

Thanks drummer!

Also,I used the "out of 10 scale" to give a quick physical description of her.
Not objectification. Maybe I would've done that before the AP90 but not any more!
Either way this thread is getting off track

[ThomasJohnThomas Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThomasJohnThomas]

Thanks drummer!

Also,I used the "out of 10 scale" to give a quick physical description of her.
Not objectification. Maybe I would've done that before the AP90 but not any more!
Either way this thread is getting off track

Yea, but this girl goes to 11!

[powow Member Find all posts View Profile Close powow]

also,i used the "out of 10 scale" to give a quick physical description of her.
Not objectification. Maybe i would've done that before the ap90 but not any more!
Either way this thread is getting off track

amen!

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Good ol` objectification of women...

This has nothing to do with objectification in the US, it is exactly as if you said some one is as beautifull as it gets. trust me, it is not as it seems, it is a commonly used phrase here at home.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

How has the battle of overcoming your fears gone. have you been able to advance and take the step forward.

[Mcfly Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mcfly]

Me and my friends use a 0 to 1 scale....1 is you would sleep with her, and 0 is it would take more than $20 to sleep with her. Simple.

As for your problem. I personally don't make a habit of going out with a girl and her friends unless I've got some of my friends along or we have mutual friends there. If you have to be out like this, don't play her game. She wants you to sit there and she's showing her friends that you need her to have a good time.

Engage her friends, take over the group. Make yourself the person that everyone in the group wants to pay attention to, and then give everyone but her that attention. Tease her with it. Girls want control but, but they want to be controlled too (to an extent).

Do this and let me know how it turns out.

[CaptainJohnson Retired ModeratorSenior MemberPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CaptainJohnson]

How to solve the problem: Invite your friends, her friends, and her out to a bar. Suddenly, everyone is talking, and you are the guy who connects all these individual pieces. Its nice to be the dude who makes the magic happen

On top of that, talk to her friends more than her, when you are all out. Give her attention through body language, occasional whispers like, "You look beautiful tonight" etc., but make the night about meeting her friends, hanging out with yours, and bridging the gap between the two groups.

[Cockadoodle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cockadoodle]

Me and my friends use a 0 to 1 scale....1 is you would sleep with her, and 0 is it would take more than $20 to sleep with her. Simple.

As for your problem. I personally don't make a habit of going out with a girl and her friends unless I've got some of my friends along or we have mutual friends there. If you have to be out like this, don't play her game. She wants you to sit there and she's showing her friends that you need her to have a good time.

Engage her friends, take over the group. Make yourself the person that everyone in the group wants to pay attention to, and then give everyone but her that attention. Tease her with it. Girls want control but, but they want to be controlled too (to an extent).

Do this and let me know how it turns out.

You a PUA? I started a month ago. I'm not very good at breaking up groups though.
I'm decent at most everything else though.

[Cockadoodle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cockadoodle]

How to solve the problem: Invite your friends, her friends, and her out to a bar. Suddenly, everyone is talking, and you are the guy who connects all these individual pieces. Its nice to be the dude who makes the magic happen

On top of that, talk to her friends more than her, when you are all out. Give her attention through body language, occasional whispers like, "You look beautiful tonight" etc., but make the night about meeting her friends, hanging out with yours, and bridging the gap between the two groups.

I thank you sir! A thousand thanks! No! Two thousand thanks!

[ronnierokk Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ronnierokk]

Ok let me ask you one thing. Is her friends girls or another boy?

Once I know this then I will respond acordingly...