What's the matter with this girl?

[BTBrian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BTBrian]

My advice is, don't worry about it. Her own psychological association with such-and-such song is her own business. If she doesn't want to tell you, that's fine. Just know that if she chooses to be with you, that is her own choice. You don't have to know the reasons behind it. It's nice if she tells you, but she's not obligated to.

She may even be more attracted to other people. That is fine, too. When that happens, she has a choice to make. Be thankful for the time she does spend with you. Most relationships don't last until death, take it as that; you two will most likely break up eventually, and this is a normal, healthy outcome.

I agree, it's not something to worry about. Hell for all you know she was thinking about you and that's why she got nervous! I don't know what the song is about but I'm assuming it was a love song. But anyways it sounds like you're worked up over nothing. If she wasn't into you she wouldn't be talking to you and trying to get to know you.

And Qarzan seems like you've learned a lot about your views on relationships the last few months eh? Good for you man

[Qarzan Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Qarzan]

90% of that learning/growing/maturing has occurred in the past month. Needless to say, it's been a crazy month! But I'm sooo much happier and have such a healthier outlook on relationships now.

I'm past the phase about working on making myself attractive and confident. Now I'm into the phase of infusing respect and independence into my interactions with people.

[DarkKnight Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DarkKnight]

Ok so I got good news and bad news.

Good news

Me and the girl made things official last week Wednesday and we kissed blahblahblah. We spoke about sex and are planning to do it soon, I hope so anyways. We told each other we got strong feelings for one another and she said she'll never leave me and wants no other guy (I'm aware that could change).

She also found out another girl who also liked me before was flirting with me and she got angry and wants that girl’s number to back off. I asked her not to feel threatened by her and I'll stop talking to the other girl if she wants but she said something like "I want her to know you're mine". I told my girlfriend how that other girl said to me "what your girlfriend doesn't know can't hurt her" and my girlfriend was like "BITCH SAID WHAT." She said she wants to talk about the issue with her best friend (female). I guess that’s a good sign that she gets a bit jealous or there's a bit of passion in our relationship? Am I right or wrong?

Bad news

A boy she knows tried to kiss her last month, before me and him were official. He threw himself on her again 3 days ago and she told him to stop because she has a boyfriend. She said how he walks her home and I was thinking to myself "is she giving him and possibly any other guys the message that she wants them?" What do you guys think?

More bad news?

About 5 months ago she invited me to her house and she said how no one was there. She did this over BBM (blackberry messenger) and if some of you guys don't know what that is it's basically an instant messenger on a phone. I was just a friend at the time. So I asked her how many boys has she invited to her house and she said she never invites boys to her house. Then I told her "but you invited me..." and "she said are you sure it was me, I don't remember."

Again am I thinking too deep? The thing is she claims she’s a virgin, and never invited a boy to her house. But I have proof where she invited me and I was just a friend, not a very close friend during that period as well. So she is basically lying, or is just an idiot and forgot she invited me. The thing is she didn't invite me to her house to play ludo or connect four (she told me I'm sexy when we first met) so do you think she is lying about what she said she's done and hasn't done with boys? Obviously she won't tell me the truth because she is scared about what I would think.

Last bit of bad news

I'm still finding it hard to be romantic, help meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

It sounds to me like there's a WHOLE lot of over thinking on your part going on here. You're wanting to analyze EVERYTHING she does, doesn't do...........you'll drive yourself crazy and it sounds like some insecurity on your part bro.

My advice is to just go with it. Whether she did or didn't invite you over to her house...........big deal. Point is she's claiming you are her bf and that's all that matters.

What sort of help are you looking for in being romantic?

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

The 'good news' I read what you wrote and i see lots of redflags.. she sounds immature and controlling, and i think you will have a lot of drama so good luck to you. *also never tell your girl another girl said "what your girl doesn't know wont hurt her" unless you want drama and bitchiness in your life. There are degrees of jealousy i am a jealous type and i am passionate ..but i have never in my life siad "i want her to know you're mine." or give me her number because my men are not property and that is controlling. i would say keep an eye out for if your girl has a vindictive streak.

The first bad and second the bad . I will say it seems you are over thinking and looking to catch her out on things that might not be there because of your trust issues stemming from your ex?

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

Id say stop thinking roll with it and see where it leads, have fun dont worry so much about analyzing the situation. If its gonna happen it will.

[Dontrike Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dontrike]

Some of it is definitely questioning, but for the most part I think you are over thinking things a little too much. I would just go with it for now and try to enjoy that you two are together. If something happens than it happens, but I wouldn't be saying what other girls are saying as that seems to set her off a little bit.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Some of it is definitely questioning, but for the most part I think you are over thinking things a little too much. I would just go with it for now and try to enjoy that you two are together. If something happens than it happens, but I wouldn't be saying what other girls are saying as that seems to set her off a little bit.

Plain and simply put, true and good advice.