Dating a bisexual

[Frozenpeople Member Find all posts View Profile Close Frozenpeople]

Hello guys!

I have recently started dating a girl that just happens to be bi. Now I have nothing against bi people, but I'm a bit worried. I guess I've always had no confidence and knowing that I have to compete with both genders does not make me feel better. To top it all off she has never dated a guy properly before (as in gone out or had a bf). But she has had loads of sex with guys... I dont know what to think of all this... I like her a lot, but I'm not sure if its all worth it. Not to mention the fact that I obviously have size issues coupled with confidence issues (I'm 5.5-6 EL depending on if its BPEL or NBPL)... I wouldnt be so shocked/confused with all this if it wasnt for that one time I had sex with her. It was good fun, but I was drunk so it never really went anywhere... she seemed to have all the control and initiated it and I've never... i mean never experienced a girl doing all the work for me? I guess I'm kind of scared of a girl that likes control.

I know most of you will say something along the lines of "who cares what she is, if you like/love her be with her"... but try to see it from my point of view. I'm new to this and I really have no idea what to expect. What if she likes girls more than guys?

Have any of you had any experience dating a bi girl, and if yes, how was it? Did you encounter any problems at all?

[Growler Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Growler]

I had a girlfriend that was bi and I didn't care at all that she slept with other girls, I don't see them as competition.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

I was in a long term relationship with a bi woman when I was younger 2+ years. They guy she left me for (her ex) is 1/2 my size and she has no issues with him. She absolutely loved sex too and im sure she is happy.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

She was a great girl and she opened my eyes to plenty when it came to sex. We had a very good break up and I continued to see her some after she went back to him. Id say she was the first girl to break my heart.

[Frozenpeople Member Find all posts View Profile Close Frozenpeople]

She was a great girl and she opened my eyes to plenty when it came to sex. We had a very good break up and I continued to see her some after she went back to him. Id say she was the first girl to break my heart.

Thanks for the replies fellas !

I guess you're right, there's nothing I should really be concerned about... I guess the real problem that I'll have to deal with/accept is the fact that I'm small down there and that shes played around with dildos before so she knows the difference. I'm pretty sure she was very unimpressed when we did it. That is also why I ended up on this website, and I've found lots of the advice here very helpful. Alas it would probably take me at least half a year to get a cm increase... But I'll still try it and start sometime soon. Hah, at least I got a nice comment for "lasting longer" than most.

Also funny that you made that comment! Pretty sure this one will be the first girl to break my heart as well !

[Cya at 8 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cya at 8]

Bi-Women are fun! Enjoy and don't worry too much about her preference. If she were a lesbian, she would not be dating you. She is bi due to more of a fetish and not interested in LTR with a woman.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

its the man that makes it fun it really is. If your happy and into her and having fun she will be too. You refrence the fact that you think you are small down there and your not small at all. Your on the big side of average and there is absolutely nothing your penis is holding you back from. If she was unimpressed it wasnt your penis. Be confident that your gonna have a good time next time and I hope you get another shot at it man.

[Frozenpeople Member Find all posts View Profile Close Frozenpeople]

its the man that makes it fun it really is. If your happy and into her and having fun she will be too. You refrence the fact that you think you are small down there and your not small at all. Your on the big side of average and there is absolutely nothing your penis is holding you back from. If she was unimpressed it wasnt your penis. Be confident that your gonna have a good time next time and I hope you get another shot at it man.

Thanks a lot man (you too cyaat8!). I guess I really need to be more confident I dont know why... but I've spent most of my life stuck in the "everyone is better than me" phase. I need to get out of it.. and I'm doing my best oh and I'll also be starting the JP90 day program this week as well. I just hope that I'll have time to work on both my confidence and PE (PE requires privacy hah). Since I can see that the two of you have been on this site for quite a long time, just out of curiosity, which program did you begin with? I know there is no one program to rule them all but from what I've read on here, JP90 is the safest/best route to take.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

I started with aspects of the JP90 Im fairly new here as well, I just do what feels goo jelqing and stretches really some clamping and uli's.

[Frozenpeople Member Find all posts View Profile Close Frozenpeople]

I started with aspects of the JP90 Im fairly new here as well, I just do what feels goo jelqing and stretches really some clamping and uli's.

Ah, never would have guessed that you are fairly new around here with 1,362 posts but yeah... what I forgot to mention is that this girl I'm seeing drinks a lot. She gets drunk and then usually loses control. This is partly why I'm worried. Plus, she seems to be one of those super feminist girls who wont accept the fact that they do depend on someone to take them home or take care of them in general. For instance, when I see her she kisses me and is really nice and we talk and communicate, but when it comes to phones, sms, facebook anything shes really emotionless. I cant even send her a <3 goodnight wish because she'll just say "gdnight" back to it which sounds cold to me.... Just now I took her home from a bar and she was drunk. I'm not going to be cocky and say anything like "oh she would have never made it home" but hey... she almost lost her purse on the way WITH ME THERE and i found it.

I probably sound like a such a miserable betamale to all of you I mean cmon... I care way too much.. Which is why I'm scared this will be a very one sided rs, as I'm a very emotional person and I just.. need communication/attention/care I guess? Oh why does life have to be so hard.

[ronnierokk Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ronnierokk]

I know a few, but what I'm going to tell you will "shock you silly"

well... not really haha.

If you feel you have to compete with women, which you really shouldn't, but if you do. Think like a women.

Women like other women for sex because a women Tully knows how and where to touch another woman to really make her feel really good.

Sometimes guys over look this. So one think to initiate during sex with a bi women is to take your time and really get into it, show the passion with her and spend a lot of time with fore play and having real fun with her.

As far as worry about your size, you are good man, if she enjoys sex with you I would not worry to much.

And if she likes to control you sometimes, try this. Blind fold her and that way you get to be the masterful lover. haha.

Have fun with it and enjoy her, give it a few months to see how it goes. Enjoy life, you never know when you will loose it.

Ronnie Rokk

[Novajelqer Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Novajelqer]

Have fun with her. She doesn't seem like she is choosing to stay with either gender at the moment, so enjoy her when you can. I would say don't get too attached and you won't get too anxious or hurt. Good luck with Pe and your relationship.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

If she drinks that much she probrably has other issues and im not sure its worth your time or effort. If you really like her though go for it.

[Frozenpeople Member Find all posts View Profile Close Frozenpeople]

If she drinks that much she probrably has other issues and im not sure its worth your time or effort. If you really like her though go for it.

She just broke up with me today, and I do feel very terrible, but I'll get over it. She was the first girl I actually really liked since my last break up which was a year ago (or even more). Its sad, but yeah... she is going through a "girl phase" now and apparently that means that she would be able to continue seeing me and stuff, but that would mean that we wouldnt be really even seeing each other (its not serious/committed) as one day she would flip and leave me. I guess its for the better.

[Novajelqer Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Novajelqer]

Sorry she broke up with you. This gives you a chance to find someone that can connect with you. Keep up the Pe, because as you get bigger you will increase confidence and really wow the next girl. Keep us posted