First Date

[Mr. DK Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr. DK]

Hello guys, I'm curious of what you guys think about having sex on the first date with someone you like

What's usually the outcome? Is it something bad?

give me your opinions

Thanks

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

I don't think the sex really has any positive or negative impact. Both sides can be argued fairly well.
Like, having sex can bring you two closer, but might set a precedence that that's all you're after.

I think it's about what you do after the sex. Don't make the relationship just about getting poon

[Mr. DK Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr. DK]

I don't think the sex really has any positive or negative impact. Both sides can be argued fairly well.
Like, having sex can bring you two closer, but might set a precedence that that's all you're after.

I think it's about what you do after the sex. Don't make the relationship just about getting poon

So you think that depending on the person's desires, it may not always be that this person only wants you for sex? that this person really wants you and so on?

[faithandhope Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close faithandhope]

toadstool hit it bang on, perception is reality. If you make it all about sex and worry about it, thats all its ever gunna end up being. If you actually choose to care about the other person then it doesn't matter because you made the choice for that person to matter.

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

Give her the D

[Sonny747 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Sonny747]

If she is just another girl, then go for it.. If you see qualities in her that you might really like, then hold off for a bit.. If she does have sex with you on the first date it could be a habit for her and she may not be the type of girl you want to date and trust.. Just depends on if her values match yours and where you are at in life.

The older I get the less physical I become on the first few dates. It might also depend on if you knew her before the date. Say some woman at work where the tension has been building..

[Nachos87 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Nachos87]

Sex on the first date is a good thing. You should act while she's hot for you, or you might not have sex at all if delayed too much.
It still depends on the girl and you should act according to her signals. Her body is telling you everything; you just have to learn how to read it.

[MrsLooking4more Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrsLooking4more]

DK003 It all depends if your first date with him is the first time you met. I would not suggest to anyone to have sex on a first date with someone they just met in today's world. There is no risk free sex since nothing is 100% safe except abstinence, baring that all you can do is try to get to know the person before you become sexually involved. There are too many crazy men and women out there to take the risk.
For the rest I agree with Toadstool and F&H how you handle it when you are ready will give him a clue as to what you expect. Good Luck! ILY

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

So you think that depending on the person's desires, it may not always be that this person only wants you for sex? that this person really wants you and so on?

I don't know her, but wanting sex does not mean they want you ONLY for sex. Sometimes it does, for sure. Sometimes it doesn't. It depends what they're looking for in a relationship and where you can take it. Open, HONEST communication is very important

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Some people just click, I would not refuse a second date with a gal just because we had sex already. I would want to take her out just so she knew I liked her for her.

[Mr. DK Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr. DK]

DK003 It all depends if your first date with him is the first time you met. I would not suggest to anyone to have sex on a first date with someone they just met in today's world. There is no risk free sex since nothing is 100% safe except abstinence, baring that all you can do is try to get to know the person before you become sexually involved. There are too many crazy men and women out there to take the risk.
For the rest I agree with Toadstool and F&H how you handle it when you are ready will give him a clue as to what you expect. Good Luck! ILY

Thanks, Mom. Precaution is important when dealing sex. Thanks for your comment

[Mr. DK Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr. DK]

I don't know her, but wanting sex does not mean they want you ONLY for sex. Sometimes it does, for sure. Sometimes it doesn't. It depends what they're looking for in a relationship and where you can take it. Open, HONEST communication is very important

Thank, Toadstool. I appreciate you giving your thoughts. I shall take this as a note to self.

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

This is so fucking weird.

[faithandhope Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close faithandhope]

Thanks, Mom. Precaution is important when dealing sex. Thanks for your comment

Wait... really?!?!??!!?!?! hahahhahaha!!!

Oh... I get it now... yeah, thats kind of weird but who am I to judge...

How do you love someone over the internet?

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

The Mr and Mrs l4m "adopt" internet "children."

faithandhope, i just read your signature. LOL That made me laugh