For those who are obsessed with their size, any idea where it comes from?

[ender1981 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ender1981]

My wife thinks i'm obsessed with my dick. She's said, "any bigger and it'd hurt". I'm only 5.5x5.25, so i know she's blowing smoke up my ass. But then i use our huge toy on her (its 7x6) and her eyes roll back in her head. She makes these half-hearted protests to get me to stop, but them begs me to go deeper and cums pretty much instantly every time. No matter what she says, i know she'd love it if i were bigger.

But where does that come from? I've had many good reviews from ex g/f's, fwb's and hookups. No one has ever complained. This is my best guess. When I was 13, i had my first girlfriend. On our first date, we went to a concert at our highschool auditorium where some local bands were playing. Soon after the show began she made a move and we started kissing. my first kiss. i was terrible, she wasn't much better. She put her hand on my knee and started wandering north. I practically heard my dick hit inside of my jeans, i was instantly hard. Her hand makes its way to my dick and she feels around for a minute, stops and says, "Is that it?". What a ****. She broke it off shortly after, i soon forgot the sting of the comment and moved on with my life. But i've been obsessed with my dick from that point on. I think its the root cause for my low self esteem and penis improvement obsession (foreskin restoration 2 1/2 years into that, PE on and off since college). I don't think its unhealthy, most people want to improve themselves. I work out to improve my body, read to stimulate my mind, watch how-to videos for home improvement, gardening, cooking etc.. Why is it taboo to want to also improve my penis? Anyways, just wondering if anyone else had a similar experience when they were young - i honestly forgot about that until a few months ago, things like that can have a profound effect on a person in their formidable years.

[Rybina Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rybina]

...i know she'd love it if i were bigger...

Not necessarily; if your current size hits the "button" when it's "balls-deep", then any bigger and you might start missing it. You could be the perfect length for her!

..........When I was 13......... Her hand makes its way to my dick and she feels around for a minute, stops and says, "Is that it?"..

You was thirteen, your penis had another six years of growing. Girls can play cruel games sometimes, you were probably going to be told that regardless, along with the other 30 lads that they rubbed up and told the same thing, then joked about it in the toilets together. Time to move on bro.

Yet............

I agree with your desire to do PE, never quit PE because a woman tells you to, but she may also be feeling a little insecure, you're married, why now all of a sudden do you want a healthier dick? Explain to her the reasons, and she'll most likely be very encouraging and supportive. (She might even help you out with your edging).

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

I think its the girth, just take it slow and gentle, make sure she is ready first, take your time.

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And no it is not a taboo to want to enlarge your penis, just be mindful of your partner and her comfort, after all, its all about mutual pleasure.

[ender1981 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ender1981]

Not necessarily; if your current size hits the "button" when it's "balls-deep", then any bigger and you might start missing it. You could be the perfect length for her!.

I've only made her cum from PIV once or twice and after marathon fuck sessions. This toy does it without trying after 2 minutes. Its the girth. Not to say i can't please her, i'm no slouch and we have great fun. The right tool makes the job much easier. If you didn't believe that, you wouldn't be here.

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

Just get down to your PE practice then and change your insecurities. Match that 7 x 6 toy she has haha

[aBone2pick Senior Member Member of the Month July 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close aBone2pick]

Are you sure that the size is the only factor? There are so many things to consider. Maybe having a toy used on her feels forbidden and thus she gets extra turned on. Who knows, man.

[Jakebfs Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jakebfs]

You aren't 5.5x5.25, your BPEL is 6.5. All of that get's used in sex so you're 0.5" shorter than the toy, and above average in both measurements.

It doesn't necessarily matter where the insecurity comes from because it's shared by most men no matter the size, just because when you're growing up you always end up thinking bigger would be better.

And like its been said- so what if she likes it bigger? Does she know about your PE? Get her in on it, get her to help. You have the potential to resize your penis to whatever measurements both of you want. If PE is working, try out a few toys for her and see what her favourite size is, then make that your overall goal.

Although, I'd say try not to use that toy too much, she might adjust a bit and get used to the bigger size which could make sex a bit worse for both of you after a while.

[downthere Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close downthere]

I've only made her cum from PIV once or twice and after marathon fuck sessions. This toy does it without trying after 2 minutes. Its the girth. Not to say i can't please her, i'm no slouch and we have great fun. The right tool makes the job much easier. If you didn't believe that, you wouldn't be here.

Yep, that's why I'm here. My goal is to increase girth for sure. I dated a few girls that could cum with me PIV, and it was obvious it wasn't a fake one with the uncontrolled shaking, speech problems, and inability to walk like normal for about 10-15 minutes.

My wife on the other hand, has never had a PIV orgasm with me. Yeah, she'll moan and pant like crazy to the point I have to tell her to be quiet so the kids don't hear, but she just never gets there. Maybe she has with prior boyfriends, but I don't ask that. I can, however, get her to the shaking, unable to walk thing by going down on her and then pounding her really hard with external clit stimulation. It's all good I suppose, but I just wish it didn't take the effort level it does. My lower (bad) back is on FIRE by the time we're done. But, everybody's different and I can't blame her for how she's built. And maybe, she just needs a bigger "tool" to orgasm vaginally. I'm determined to see if PE for girth enhancement changes the effort level on my part. I've got a funny feeling it will. But, if not, I love her and she loves me for who we are.

My .02c anyway

[INS Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close INS]

Hey, I've used a penis extension with a friend that's a bit bigger in length than your toy. I'm not obsessed with my own size as it's simply another tool. But I am obsessed with the size of the things I put in my partners haha. Like you said, it helps me reach deeper zones, and give her more girth. I'm not sure if I'd want be that size though. Might have to give up good oral/anal pfft. Conflicting. But I have enough time to decide because I'm just 5" right now lol.

I remember making a thread for giving the impression of more girth (search it from my history) and use deeper positions. Remember, your wifey's being very nice. You might not like it if she tells you you're too small. That's the thing about love yo. Your cock is the best because it's attached to you and they'd find a way to love it (within reason, perhaps)

[gerg Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gerg]

I give up - what is PIV?

[seanyboy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close seanyboy]

My wife thinks i'm obsessed with my dick. She's said, "any bigger and it'd hurt". I'm only 5.5x5.25, so i know she's blowing smoke up my ass. But then i use our huge toy on her (its 7x6) and her eyes roll back in her head. She makes these half-hearted protests to get me to stop, but them begs me to go deeper and cums pretty much instantly every time. No matter what she says, i know she'd love it if i were bigger.

But where does that come from? I've had many good reviews from ex g/f's, fwb's and hookups. No one has ever complained. This is my best guess. When I was 13, i had my first girlfriend. On our first date, we went to a concert at our highschool auditorium where some local bands were playing. Soon after the show began she made a move and we started kissing. my first kiss. i was terrible, she wasn't much better. She put her hand on my knee and started wandering north. I practically heard my dick hit inside of my jeans, i was instantly hard. Her hand makes its way to my dick and she feels around for a minute, stops and says, "Is that it?". What a ****. She broke it off shortly after, i soon forgot the sting of the comment and moved on with my life. But i've been obsessed with my dick from that point on. I think its the root cause for my low self esteem and penis improvement obsession (foreskin restoration 2 1/2 years into that, PE on and off since college). I don't think its unhealthy, most people want to improve themselves. I work out to improve my body, read to stimulate my mind, watch how-to videos for home improvement, gardening, cooking etc.. Why is it taboo to want to also improve my penis? Anyways, just wondering if anyone else had a similar experience when they were young - i honestly forgot about that until a few months ago, things like that can have a profound effect on a person in their formidable years.

It's probably emotional. I would bet that most women will tell you that a dildo and an actual sexual partner don't give the same experiences. They both feel good but in different emotional ways. Just because you think she cums faster with the dildo might not be the same experience, or even as good as, the emotional aspect that comes from the connection between you and her.

Don't know if that makes sense lol.

[downthere Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close downthere]

I give up - what is PIV?

I didn't know either...I just kinda guessed it was 'penis in vagina' when I wrote my reply. Maybe I'm wrong though.

[Dontrike Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dontrike]

I am asked by an internet sex buddy (a lady that is 10 years older than I am) all the time why I keep trying to make my penis bigger. She has not come out and said that I am obsessed, at least not that I remember, but I am pretty sure that she is concerned with my wanting of a bigger penis, mostly from the various questions that she asks. We plan to actually meet each other and do the deed and she has given me some heavy compliments, and even the slightest bit of worry. She has told me that "I will rip her apart" and that anal may become impossible, which is fine as I am 7x5.5 (6 girth after using my Bathmate), but I honestly don't think I am all that big.

My need probably comes from my pride of not wanting to disappoint anyone. To me that is more awful than anything else and I can't stand those things like being dead last or even second to anyone else when it comes to something that I care about. As a virgin I know I will be bad at first, and I can take my pride away from that, but at the least I want to be impressive in some sort of way when, and if, my first time ever comes.

As for you OP, I don't believe it is wrong to improve yourself and as long as you are not letting this do anything detrimental to you, which doesn't seem like you are. Your wife may just not fully understand why you are trying to do this. Have you two talked about you doing PE?

[ender1981 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ender1981]

I didn't know either...I just kinda guessed it was 'penis in vagina' when I wrote my reply. Maybe I'm wrong though.

You're correct. Its penis in vagina.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Ender I'm right there with ya. Took me a year to get where you are. Introduced vibraters, several models, into the bedroom a couple of years ago. I was 4.5 inches then NBPEL now 5.5 like you but only 4.5 EG. I stopped hoping that my dick, or any dick for that matter could do a better job than BOB, battery operated boyfriend. In an unguarded moment she admitted BOB gave her faster, more frequent and bigger orgasms than I can. Denies it now. She says I'm obsessed with my size too. And she's right, all guys are. She doesn't believe it. And she says I can throw all the vibraters away, all she needs is me, OK? Bob rolls her eyes into the back of her head and she can go for an hour till the batteries run out. U can get as big as u want but BOB will always be better. Don't get me wrong, I haven't given up. Wearing my phalsosan right now