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    Anal advice please

    Hi, I am looking for some real life experience and stories of people who have successfully done anal. I have been in a relationship for over a year, and recently just attempted anal. I am quite big (7.8x6.1) and my girlfriend is really small. Vaginal sex can hurt her even after a year (probably down to my pe!) and she has never done or been that interested in anal. When we tried, I started off giving her a massage, then we had sex and I gave her an orgasm to help her relax. I started to play with her bum and used my mouth and a finger but after a minute she said the finger is too sore so just try now (destined to fail I know). I got about 0.5cm in and she said it was too sore. I understand its a slow process and I am not trying to rush it, but what does everyone suggest? I hadnt used my fingers before this either so do you reckon get her comfortable with that before the next attempt?

    Best regards,

    Gooner4life
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    • #3
      I'd suggest adequate foreplay and communication, months of preparation may be necessary but try not to put to much pressure on it (absolute paradox right?). A home enema device is essential and so is lube, start with your little finger and start building up to your middle finger, then try two, after several weeks your partner should be somewhat prepared to attempt anal, best of luck and try to make it about her too.
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      • #4
        I had to give up anal when my girth got to 6 inches. She bleeds if we try it. They make toys that progressively stretch the anal opening, but I have to say in my experience anal is not all that great compared to really good vaginal sex where both parties are into it. Good luck
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        • #5
          Your girth is too big. I have seen porn stars who had anal sex too much and their assholes never really close. They are permanently stretched out. I wonder if this causes them to shit themselves since their hole is so stretched out. I think it is called "gape" .

          I never really understood why guys like anal. Maybe if it is tighter feeling but if your girlfriend already has a tight vagina then I don't see why the need. Unless your girlfriend likes the feeling of anal sex. You can pleasure her with a small dildo.

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          • #6
            Hey Gooner4life,

            While I agree with others that your current penis size can certainly be an issue, the bigger issue is that your gal is not really interested in doing anal. Anal sex requires a great deal of trust and relaxation for it to be accomplished safely and pleasurably so it is unlikely that any amount of "prepping" her with be sufficient enough to allow entry. My recommendation would be to leave the anal sex off the sexual bucket list for now. Perhaps later you can revisit it but if she continues to express reluctance, let it go. Instead, focus on other sexual things you two can do together and believe me, there are A LOT.

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            • #7
              Some girls like it some don't. I personally could care less about anal. If I never do again in my life it wouldn't bother me. However my girl enjoys it and so I give it to her from time to time, but I can tell you this. At 6 inch girth she would probably still do it seldomly when the mood strikes, but definitely not very often. And this is from a girl that really enjoys it. We have a toy that is around 6" girth and tried it once in her ass and she didn't like it. And that was after warming her up with smaller first. (me ) She told me then if I ever get that big we won't be doing anal very often if ever anymore.

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              • #8
                If girth is not an issue, it will help to finger her anis during her orgasm which will condition her to associate anal penetration with pleasure.
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                • #9
                  ARSEnal fan seeking advice on anal, anyone else see that.
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                  • #10
                    Butt plugs are great. I leaving one in for 15-20 mins before sex, works for me and my partners. I personally don't like fingernails in my butt it ends up making me more sore before. When you first penetrate you want to go deep slowly and leave it in for 30sec not moving. I have had to do a bit of trial and error my girth is a little over 7 inch.
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by The Passionate Wife View Post
                      Hey Gooner4life,

                      While I agree with others that your current penis size can certainly be an issue, the bigger issue is that your gal is not really interested in doing anal. Anal sex requires a great deal of trust and relaxation for it to be accomplished safely and pleasurably so it is unlikely that any amount of "prepping" her with be sufficient enough to allow entry. My recommendation would be to leave the anal sex off the sexual bucket list for now. Perhaps later you can revisit it but if she continues to express reluctance, let it go. Instead, focus on other sexual things you two can do together and believe me, there are A LOT.
                      I agree with this completely. If she is small and vaginal sex hurts her sometimes then she most likely will not anal. After all the goal is for it to be pleasurable for both, isn't it.
                      To totally satisfy a woman sexually is not about having a large penis, it's about being a good lover.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by gooner4life View Post
                        Hi, I am looking for some real life experience and stories of people who have successfully done anal. I have been in a relationship for over a year, and recently just attempted anal. I am quite big (7.8x6.1) and my girlfriend is really small. Vaginal sex can hurt her even after a year (probably down to my pe!) and she has never done or been that interested in anal. When we tried, I started off giving her a massage, then we had sex and I gave her an orgasm to help her relax. I started to play with her bum and used my mouth and a finger but after a minute she said the finger is too sore so just try now (destined to fail I know). I got about 0.5cm in and she said it was too sore. I understand its a slow process and I am not trying to rush it, but what does everyone suggest? I hadnt used my fingers before this either so do you reckon get her comfortable with that before the next attempt?

                        Best regards,

                        Gooner4life
                        Forget about it. Had anal one time with the Mrs and I'm only 6 by 4.5 and she had no fun at all. Been trying since and no dice. With your size do really need it tighter?
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                        • #13
                          Thanks for all the replies guys, haha love the ARSEnal comment. I understand what everyone is saying with regards to it being about her, but she was speaking to me about how she really wants to keep trying it and persevere. She loves when I play with her bum just cant get much penetration even with my fingers. A lot of you have talked about the fact that if hee vagina is tight enough why bother? Its just because we like to try lots of different things and this is something we both agree on continuing with, I just want to continue it in the least painful way possible. I appreciate everybodies comments and will continue to take it slowly.

                          Best Regards

                          Gooner4life

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by THOTbreaker View Post
                            Butt plugs are great. I leaving one in for 15-20 mins before sex, works for me and my partners. I personally don't like fingernails in my butt it ends up making me more sore before. When you first penetrate you want to go deep slowly and leave it in for 30sec not moving. I have had to do a bit of trial and error my girth is a little over 7 inch.
                            Do you have any pictures of your 7 inch girth that you can post?

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by jackjohnson View Post
                              Do you have any pictures of your 7 inch girth that you can post?
                              There is a pic inside the 9x7 goal group I posted.
                              “Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.”
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