I don't know about all this 'fuck yes or no' stuff (and I have read that article and take some points from it) but I think it's more important to be someone who a girl can look up to. If you can be better than her then the whole dominance thing should work itself out. I don't subscribe to the whole 'marriage is a democracy' thing. I know from watching my parents and dealing with family crises myself that someone needs to be the person to take charge when the shit hits the ceiling. Now, I'm not saying that we become total self-obsessed arseholes. I mean the opposite of that. I mean the guy who understands his girl and can be that solid irresistable object; being reliable and trustworthy in other words. I understand that this isn't first date advice but these are inherent qualities I think more people need to possess if they want to have long-term committed relationships, which should be the goal I feel.
Then there's the other stuff like taking care of yourself (hygiene and health and fitness), being caring and supportive and having a zest for life. I like that 'take life by the balls' stuff and I feel more confident when I know I am doing something I feel is positive for me. I'm single so I have that luxury but I know deep down that I can take care of someone and not be too overbearing. I know also that life is more complicated than this. You have to set some rules for yourself, some values, and abide by them come what may. Like a ship in the swirling sea, you gotta check your course and that the sails don't snap off.
Then there's the other stuff like taking care of yourself (hygiene and health and fitness), being caring and supportive and having a zest for life. I like that 'take life by the balls' stuff and I feel more confident when I know I am doing something I feel is positive for me. I'm single so I have that luxury but I know deep down that I can take care of someone and not be too overbearing. I know also that life is more complicated than this. You have to set some rules for yourself, some values, and abide by them come what may. Like a ship in the swirling sea, you gotta check your course and that the sails don't snap off.
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