Awesome Results!!! This works!

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

You just showed the process I go through when fapping!!

[Zyxciz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zyxciz]

Because it can cause porn-induced erectile dysfunction. After long periods of use and progression to more hardcore and extreme genres of porn, you become used to these extreme things that they do and seeing 10's or 100's of women naked in one night so then when you are with a real woman, it isn't enough to fully arouse you. The fact that ED has increased since internet porn was introduced proves that it is bad. The best way to figure out if it's affecting you is to try and get a 100% quality erection without porn or fantasy.

When you say "without porn or fantasy", do you mean a fantasy related to porn or any fantasy that involves doing sexual stuff with any girl?

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

When you say "without porn or fantasy", do you mean a fantasy related to porn or any fantasy that involves doing sexual stuff with any girl?

It depends on what you are fantasizing about with this girl. From what I've read you should be able to get fully erect by visualizing yourself in an actual sexual encounter. Now I don't mean picturing a girl getting undressed (no different than watching porn), I mean imagining the sensations that you feel, emotionally and physically.

[Zyxciz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zyxciz]

It depends on what you are fantasizing about with this girl. From what I've read you should be able to get fully erect by visualizing yourself in an actual sexual encounter. Now I don't mean picturing a girl getting undressed (no different than watching porn), I mean imagining the sensations that you feel, emotionally and physically.

Well that's hard to do since I've not actually had sex yet. But I fantasize about this girl, and I imagine licking her butthole and fucking her. I imagine her giving me blowjobs etc. But I do feel some of the sensations you describe, like how it would feel to lick her bottom. Or how would it feel to take her from behind, and sliding my dick inside her tight ass. As for emotional sensations, It does feel good when I imagine her looking me in the eyes as she's giving me a blowjob. Also, I feel some intimiacy as I imagine her sitting on top of me and riding me off.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

Well that's hard to do since I've not actually had sex yet. But I fantasize about this girl, and I imagine licking her butthole and fucking her. I imagine her giving me blowjobs etc. But I do feel some of the sensations you describe, like how it would feel to lick her bottom. Or how would it feel to take her from behind, and sliding my dick inside her tight ass.

You get these fantasies from watching porn. Most girls aren't really like that, I've had 11 sex partners, not once licked an ass but only 3 of them have let me fuck their ass. To get over this fantasy/porn addiction, you have to shift your fantasies to a more erotic nature, rather than hardcore.

[Zyxciz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zyxciz]

You get these fantasies from watching porn. Most girls aren't really like that, I've had 11 sex partners, not once licked an ass but only 3 of them have let me fuck their ass. To get over this fantasy/porn addiction, you have to shift your fantasies to a more erotic nature, rather than hardcore.

I know, a girl isn't just going to go along with me wanting to lick her asshole. But it's a fantasy that really turns me on. The thing is I naturally drift towards hardcore stuff. Some of my earliest memories from porn, I didn't find the normal stuff arousing. Then I stumbled on this femdom movie where a girl was whipping another girl in bondage, and it REALLY turned me on. I was young at the time, probably 12-13 years old. Maybe my rape or chaotic upbringing played a role in that. Anyway, I wish I could fantasize about normal stuff and get turned on as easily by it. But so far, my anal fantasies seem to be the strongest. It really tears down my confidence because as you say, girls normally wouldn't go along with that type of stuff. Therefore, I'm afraid I won't be turned on, or as turned on, by normal vaginal sex.

Moreover, the whole erotic nature of sex is unappealing to me. I like to be dominant in bed, and I always imagine myself being the dominant one towards this girl. For instance, I'll fantasize about ordering her around, telling her to yell out "I'm a fucking slut" etc. Generally, I like to fantasize about making her do stuff that's degrading to her. But in my fantasy, I want her to be enjoying it as well. I want her to enjoy being the submissive one, and I imagine that she likes doing it to please me.

[freshMAKER Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close freshMAKER]

I love eating ass .

[Zyxciz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zyxciz]

i love eating ass .

That's my boyyyy!!!! Fresh!!!

[Hydeaway85 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hydeaway85]

Zyxciz I believe you really have some issues to overcome. Your view of sex being hardcore and treating women in what would appear to be a degrading way is not realistic. Are you referencing being raped yourself as having contributed to this outlook? Sex should be a loving act between a man and a woman. My wife and I were virgins when we married and respect and love each other. I can see some couples doing some playful roleplaying and such, as long as it's OK with both partners.

[Zyxciz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zyxciz]

Zyxciz I believe you really have some issues to overcome. Your view of sex being hardcore and treating women in what would appear to be a degrading way is not realistic. Are you referencing being raped yourself as having contributed to this outlook? Sex should be a loving act between a man and a woman. My wife and I were virgins when we married and respect and love each other. I can see some couples doing some playful roleplaying and such, as long as it's OK with both partners.

I agree Hyde, and this is affecting my confidence with women in general. Since I know I don't share the same view on sex as women, asking girls out is hard because of my performance anxiety. If I can't act out my fantasies, it's harder for me to get aroused. Seeing as I'm a virgin, I think I need a caring and understanding woman to help guide me in the bedroom the first time around. Yes, my rape and my violent upbringing has certainly contributed to this outlook. Since I was raped by an older boy, this certainly has had an effect on my obsession with anal.

[Hydeaway85 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hydeaway85]

Zyxciz, I feel for you man. Have you ever sought counseling for the trauma you went through earlier in life? I think it would help alot. They can teach you coping skills and help you out of this. I would suggest a Christian counselor if you have one available. It looks like you are struggling with depression (from your profile) and know that can be difficult due to the medications interacting with sexual functioning. It's my understanding Wellbutrin and Serzone (Nefazadone) do not have any side effects. One of the wonderful things about my wife and I being virgins when we married is we both learned about everything together. There is a closeness you get with that. It's like a treasure you are both experiencing at the same time.

[Hydeaway85 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hydeaway85]

Don't you just love morning wood? If you edge and/or do wet jelqs before bed you will have some amazing night and morning wood to enjoy. Make it a great Monday guys!

[Hydeaway85 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hydeaway85]

Keep consistent fellas. That is the only way you are going to get the gains you are seeking. I cannot stress to you how much edging and not cumming has contributed to my incredible gains. It's great for penile health and keeps your T levels high as well. Keep a positive attitude - think/say affirmations during your pe sessions. BE PATIENT. MAKE time for it. Reach out for encouragement. This works!

[Hydeaway85 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hydeaway85]

Boy you just cannot beat the hour or more long edging and edging/clamping sessions.

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

Boy you just cannot beat the hour or more long edging and edging/clamping sessions.

How hard do you clamp during the edging/clamping sessions ?