Women's and Men's View Virginity

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

Too much pride I guess. I can't see myself getting naked with a stranger. Intimacy is a weird concept to me. I honestly don't know how to touch a woman.

Is sex really that fun?

It's really not what I'm looking for.

I had a talk with my friend the other day. I told him, "I'm good by myself. What's the benefit of a woman in my life?"

He replied, "...pussy."

It left me thinking, "That's it?"

Is sex all there is?

I'm looking for something deeper. I often wonder if that feeling even exists.

I'm afraid if I date someone. Ill won't want to be with her but she'll still want to be with me. I really enjoy and prefer my solitude. But it feels like something is missing.

Being with a woman is far more than sex. Its human nature. They are the person that you love and trust more than anyone in the world. They are the person their for you when you need support. They are their to share your success and failures with. They are their to rub your back in the morning or give you a blowjob when you are on a long drive home. They are their to help you be a better man, to help you grow as a person. A woman is their to see the best and worst of you. And if you treat them with the same respect, they will want to have a lot of sex with you.

It seems like you are jumping the gun and worrying about sex before you even have relationships with women.

[Merlin08 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Merlin08]

Being with a woman is far more than sex. Its human nature. They are the person that you love and trust more than anyone in the world. They are the person their for you when you need support. They are their to share your success and failures with. They are their to rub your back in the morning or give you a blowjob when you are on a long drive home. They are their to help you be a better man, to help you grow as a person. A woman is their to see the best and worst of you. And if you treat them with the same respect, they will want to have a lot of sex with you.

It seems like you are jumping the gun and worrying about sex before you even have relationships with women.

Good point, dmizzle. That's quite poetic lol

[MrsLooking4more Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrsLooking4more]

I did not consider my virginity a burden and would not have considered a burden if a man was a virgin. For me it was something I kept until I was mentally ready and in a loving relationship.

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

I did not consider my virginity a burden and would not have considered a burden if a man was a virgin. For me it was something I kept until I was mentally ready and in a loving relationship.

This is the way to do it if you want to keep your virginity. But you have have relationships before you can be in a loving one. First thing to do is start dating, you can worry about the sex part after you learn how to have a relationship.

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

Too much pride I guess. I can't see myself getting naked with a stranger. Intimacy is a weird concept to me. I honestly don't know how to touch a woman.

Is sex really that fun?

It's really not what I'm looking for.

I had a talk with my friend the other day. I told him, "I'm good by myself. What's the benefit of a woman in my life?"

He replied, "...pussy."

It left me thinking, "That's it?"

Is sex all there is?

I'm looking for something deeper. I often wonder if that feeling even exists.

I'm afraid if I date someone. Ill won't want to be with her but she'll still want to be with me. I really enjoy and prefer my solitude. But it feels like something is missing.

I lost my virginity when I was very young. The kind of young where saying the word penis to my friends would make them laugh.
I remember after I first had sex... my reaction was, Is that it? That's what the big fuss is about?

Honestly, I went through this promiscuity phase in my life where I chased down every girl I thought was attractive and worked my way into their pants, but it got SO OLD and BORING. I don't know how some guys are SO stimulated by sex.
Yea, sex is fun but it's not THAT great. To hear some guys talk about it, you'd be convinced that it was the Holy Grail of great feeling, like some healthy shot of pure heroin injected into you.
It's not.

You know what the fun part is? The relationship AROUND the sex. I'm a non-comittal kind of guy, but still, there's the meeting, the light hearted joking, the teasing, the touching, the build up, the tension, the wondering, the anticipation, and thennnn FINALLY....
THAT'S fun. But to call that "Sex" really misses the bigger picture. It's the relationship you build with these women that's fun.

I'm going to echo what everyone else is saying: don't worry too much about the sex part. But I'll add to it and say that that deeper thing you're looking for might not exist in the way you're thinking about it. I mean, I guess you gotta just find out who you are and what you want, and that involves exploration and meeting new people.

I find it hard to go out and be social and NOT meet women. It's impossible. Eventually someone's going to send you signals. Then it's your job to respond.

[inquisitiveness Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close inquisitiveness]

Sex just bonds you in a way nothing else can, in my mind. Makes you more than friends. You connect to the person, let them to see you at your most vulnerable.

I wouldn't let sex stop you dating, just because your dating someone doesn't mean to have to have sex with them. Just see how it goes and you can still have plenty alone time in a relationship. You both set the rules in a relationship and it's what works for the both you. Doesn't have fit society's norm for dating.

Interesting. Thank you, Tara123!

[inquisitiveness Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close inquisitiveness]

Being with a woman is far more than sex. Its human nature. They are the person that you love and trust more than anyone in the world. They are the person their for you when you need support. They are their to share your success and failures with. They are their to rub your back in the morning or give you a blowjob when you are on a long drive home. They are their to help you be a better man, to help you grow as a person. A woman is their to see the best and worst of you. And if you treat them with the same respect, they will want to have a lot of sex with you.

Wow. Thank you. Sounds like the ideal woman.

It seems like you are jumping the gun and worrying about sex before you even have relationships with women.

This is the way to do it if you want to keep your virginity. But you have have relationships before you can be in a loving one. First thing to do is start dating, you can worry about the sex part after you learn how to have a relationship.

Yeah, I agree. I tend to overthink things. My friends tell me I should just go with the flow.

Thank you, dmizzle!

[inquisitiveness Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close inquisitiveness]

I lost my virginity when I was very young. The kind of young where saying the word penis to my friends would make them laugh.
I remember after I first had sex... my reaction was, Is that it? That's what the big fuss is about?

Honestly, I went through this promiscuity phase in my life where I chased down every girl I thought was attractive and worked my way into their pants, but it got SO OLD and BORING. I don't know how some guys are SO stimulated by sex.
Yea, sex is fun but it's not THAT great. To hear some guys talk about it, you'd be convinced that it was the Holy Grail of great feeling, like some healthy shot of pure heroin injected into you.
It's not.

You know what the fun part is? The relationship AROUND the sex. I'm a non-comittal kind of guy, but still, there's the meeting, the light hearted joking, the teasing, the touching, the build up, the tension, the wondering, the anticipation, and thennnn FINALLY....
THAT'S fun. But to call that "Sex" really misses the bigger picture. It's the relationship you build with these women that's fun.

I'm going to echo what everyone else is saying: don't worry too much about the sex part. But I'll add to it and say that that deeper thing you're looking for might not exist in the way you're thinking about it. I mean, I guess you gotta just find out who you are and what you want, and that involves exploration and meeting new people.

I find it hard to go out and be social and NOT meet women. It's impossible. Eventually someone's going to send you signals. Then it's your job to respond.

Thank you, toadstool. I appreciate it.

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I really appreciate all the replies!

[Telerecca Member Find all posts View Profile Close Telerecca]

Hey bro, I'm also a virgin, 26 years old. Honestly, I also relate with your thinking. I have turned down a couple of women before mainly because they weren't my type, and the other one was still in college soooo too young for me. There's also this aspect where I get worried about the future especially in terms of money.

Right now though, I think life is just more than sex, and there are so many good things to enjoy. Like, I look forward to the morning runs on the lovely island I live in.

I also look forward to having sex in the future and I think it will be a beautiful and awesome experience with the right person. Really look forward to having a relationship with someone... maybe I should get in a relationship. MAN! I'm such a loser!

[inquisitiveness Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close inquisitiveness]

Hey bro, I'm also a virgin, 26 years old. Honestly, I also relate with your thinking. I have turned down a couple of women before mainly because they weren't my type, and the other one was still in college soooo too young for me. There's also this aspect where I get worried about the future especially in terms of money.

Right now though, I think life is just more than sex, and there are so many good things to enjoy. Like, I look forward to the morning runs on the lovely island I live in.

I also look forward to having sex in the future and I think it will be a beautiful and awesome experience with the right person. Really look forward to having a relationship with someone... maybe I should get in a relationship. MAN! I'm such a loser!

I don't think youre a loser. In fact, you sound like a winner to me

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

Hey bro, I'm also a virgin, 26 years old. Honestly, I also relate with your thinking. I have turned down a couple of women before mainly because they weren't my type, and the other one was still in college soooo too young for me. There's also this aspect where I get worried about the future especially in terms of money.

Right now though, I think life is just more than sex, and there are so many good things to enjoy. Like, I look forward to the morning runs on the lovely island I live in.

I also look forward to having sex in the future and I think it will be a beautiful and awesome experience with the right person. Really look forward to having a relationship with someone... maybe I should get in a relationship. MAN! I'm such a loser!

If you are happy not being with a women, then you are not a loser.

But there is nothing better than the smell of a woman. The touch from her soft small hands running down your chest. The feeling of her lips kissing your naval, slowly making her way south. Seeing the curves if her body by candlelight. The sound of her gentle moans as you touch her in all the right places. The sexual tension that pulls you like a magnet when you know the moment is about to happen.

So yeah, being with a woman amazing. I would highly recommend you give it a try.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

You know what the fun part is? The relationship AROUND the sex. I'm a non-comittal kind of guy, but still, there's the meeting, the light hearted joking, the teasing, the touching, the build up, the tension, the wondering, the anticipation, and thennnn FINALLY....
THAT'S fun. But to call that "Sex" really misses the bigger picture. It's the relationship you build with these women that's fun.

This. Always thought maybe I am a bit weird, but I don't understand the whole 'go to a bar, find someone to screw, and never learn their name' thing a lot of guys do. Sex is great, but there needs to be a connection or an interest there (beyond physical), at least to me. Same reason why some girls can start out a 10 and become a 4, or start out a 6 and become an 11.

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

This. Always thought maybe I am a bit weird, but I don't understand the whole 'go to a bar, find someone to screw, and never learn their name' thing a lot of guys do. Sex is great, but there needs to be a connection or an interest there (beyond physical), at least to me. Same reason why some girls can start out a 10 and become a 4, or start out a 6 and become an 11.

There is a time and place. Had much fun trying to get women to come home with me. Kind of an ego boost exercise. But that is the kind of sex where you can just be selfish.

I also prefer a deeper relationship otherwise thats all I would do. But sometimes its like eating a Snickers. Not very good for you but tastes really good at the moment.

[Telerecca Member Find all posts View Profile Close Telerecca]

If you are happy not being with a women, then you are not a loser.

But there is nothing better than the smell of a woman. The touch from her soft small hands running down your chest. The feeling of her lips kissing your naval, slowly making her way south. Seeing the curves if her body by candlelight. The sound of her gentle moans as you touch her in all the right places. The sexual tension that pulls you like a magnet when you know the moment is about to happen.

So yeah, being with a woman amazing. I would highly recommend you give it a try.

Yeah, I'm definitely a loser in this area. hahaha! I'm happy now but yeah I imagine being with a woman is amazing! You definitely have more experience compared to me in that area

I'm not so worried about losing my virginity. All in good time. I guess the first step is finding a wonderful lady while dealing with life's cards.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

I guess the first step is finding a wonderful lady while dealing with life's cards.

Arguably that's the hardest step, imo...