Can a girl grow to like anal?

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Yes a woman can grow to like anal. It should be proceeded by a desire on her part to learn to like it. My ex preferred to be using a vibrator on her clot while I transitioned from vaginal to anal. Lots of lube is required. If anal fails or she wants it back in the vagina. Go wash first. This is true of fingers or tongue also. Keeping rubbing alcohol in the bedroom is handy for this. Not your tongue cleaning fluid so much.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

I have proof your girlfriend likes anal

Your girlfriend likes you, so...

You + Girlfriend = Like

Your girlfriend likes having sex with you

You + Girlfriend + Sex = Like

You like anal sex

You + Anal + Sex = Like

She does not

Girlfriend - Anal = Like

Therefore

Your girlfriend likes having anal sex with you, at least through correlation.

Her + Girlfriend + Sex = Anal

There's an answer you can be happy with.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I have proof your girlfriend likes anal

Your girlfriend likes you, so...

You + Girlfriend = Like

Your girlfriend likes having sex with you

You + Girlfriend + Sex = Like

You like anal sex

You + Anal + Sex = Like

She does not

Girlfriend - Anal = Like

Therefore

Your girlfriend likes having anal sex with you, at least through correlation.

Her + Girlfriend + Sex = Anal

There's an answer you can be happy with.

Ummmmmm does this mean he has anal with his gf.s , gf ??? Does his gf watch?

[dualdimension Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dualdimension]

Well my GF doesn't even like me licking or touching her anus but we will see!

[Ultimate Burrito Moderator Member of the Month Oct 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Ultimate Burrito]

OP, my wife is the same way. She has a very rigid view of intimacy. Heck it took years before we could venture past missionary and cowgirl and go to doggie. The best advice I can give is to take it slow, don't push it or you may push her away. The first time I touched her butthole she said "umm that's where I poop". I backed off for a while and then one time we were in the shower being playful and I rubbed up against her butthole and initially she didn't mind but then after a minute or so asked me "you know that is my butthole". Then there was one funny moment making love where I slipped out of her on the up stroke (doing cowgirl) and on the down stroke came in full contact with her butthole. She about shot through the roof (not from pleasure I assure you). There are times doing doggie where I was tempted to "accidentally" go into the wrong hole but as everyone has said, it's about trust. I think one of the road blocks for my wife is feeling clean. There is a lot of times she turns down oral because she doesn't feel clean for whatever reason. I always respect her wishes. Maybe that's where to start, find out from her what are the top concerns she has and then determine are they negotiable or hard stops. Just try not to make anal a focal point of the relationship. Can you be happy with her if anal never happens?

[NOWHARD Banned Find all posts View Profile Close NOWHARD]

Hi If she says no leave it at that, because she is a women and she wont change just to please you, that would be conceding to your whims.

But pop over to www.dodsonandross.com left hand side your see anal play, have a good read through it, also join and post to Betty, but I think you get pretty much the same answer, if its no leave it alone, and just enjoy what your getting now. OK

NOWHARD

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

Sometimes you have to say "tonight I will fuck you in the ass and you will do whateva I told you".You have to find the right moment and guide her and be patient will the foreplay.You have to be confident.Dont listen to this people telling you to give up, just because she is unsure.Its not about pushing her, its about making her comfortable.Lube is also very important.We prefer coconut oil.And also the pleasure from anal doesnt come from playing with fingers with her ass, it comes from thrusting fast and non stop in her butt, when she and her muscles are fully relaxed.And then my friend, she will scream from pleasure.Dont give up, your girl deserve to experience this.And then she will beg for it.

[AverageDude48 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close AverageDude48]

Goat, while I do not disagree with you that sometimes it is really good to be the man and just take what you want (for the sake of brevity, I am wording things this way....) I do not think that something like anal sex is one of those times.

Yes, it is an amazing thing when you are in Kroger and you are shopping with your lady (because she absolutely hates doing this and you make it fun) and you push her up against the frozen food bins and kiss her passionately. That is sexy. That is taking charge and being in control. That is unexpected. Agreed. Women dig that sort of thing.

Talking dirty to a woman is sexy as hell. Especially when you do it in such a way that they do not even know that they are doing that. That is taking charge and being in control. That is sexy.

Telling a woman, while you are sitting in Starbucks, that you are going to go to the rest room and that in one minute she needs to come into the mens rest room and you will be waiting for her because you want her to suck your cock and paint her face....that is taking charge and being in control. That is super sexy. And when she walks out of the men's restroom with just a little bit of cum on her face - and other dudes see it - that is epic!

But, telling a woman that you are going to fuck her in the ass when she is 100% against it....not sexy. I totally understand your point of reference. Believe me. Totally get it. And if the lady were kinda on the fence about doing this....depending on the lady and your relationship....then maybe that approach would be ideal and offer great rewards.

But, when the lady is dead-set against anal sex? Not cool. It is about trust and respect.

That story about Starbucks is true. I did not cum in her mouth - which is something that I pretty much always do - because she asked me - from the start - to not cum in her mouth because she had a bad experience with that and just could not do it. So, I respected that request. Because I respected her. She gave me literally hundreds of blow jobs. Not once did I ever cum in her mouth. And, I never asked to do that. There has been essentially only one other woman who gave me blow jobs who did not want me to cum in her mouth. I accidentally did once....and it was actually more on her because I told her that I was going to cum. She just timed it wrong. As things would have it, that was the last blow job that I ever received from her. And, she threw up 30 seconds after I came in her mouth.

So, while I totally understand the point of reference......I would suggest that telling someone who is dead set against anal sex that you - and I quote - are going to just fuck her in the ass tonight and you will do whatever I tell you might not be the best approach.

Now, if you have already had the conversations about anal sex and she has agreed to try it and you maybe have done the finger play (I am telling you....fingering a girls ass while she gives you a blow job is amazing) and you are ready for the next step but she is a bit hesitant....and you have her complete trust....then maybe the "tonight I am going to fuck you in the ass" approach might work. Maybe.

Anyway, being a man is a good thing. Being her man is a better thing. To do that you have to have her complete trust. Nuff said!

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I believe if your partner has said she doesn't like anal play, you should care and respect her enough to accept it.

It's like your saying she doesn't know her own mind or her feelings don't matter as much as your own.

I understand that 'rough' anal sex is all over mainstream porn but that doesn't mean all women like it or even want to try it.

The climate of coercion, where consent and mutuality is not always a priority for males who are trying to persuade women into doing some sexual is wrong. You need to have an adult conversation about it.

No booze, no accendital slips, no pressure from you etc. This response might not make me popular but it's the right behaviour.

[master-gauge Senior Member Member of the Month May 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close master-gauge]

^^^ There was Doc about the porn industry awhile ago.. And it briefly talked about rough anal.. yeah, not so nice.. A lot of the girls ended up heading to one of the local clinics for a stitch or 2 as it was put..

Probably one of the best ways to "feel" around if it is an option.. Would be to go doggy and slowly move a hand from the hips over close to the hole, then some kind of lube to start (spit, actual lube) and try a thumb.. IF u get swatted or "fuck that"!! Safe to say that little adventure is over.. Personally I was swatted every time, but 1 in the 90's and 1 in the early 2000's that was still quite taboo here..

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Sometimes you have to say "tonight I will fuck you in the ass and you will do whateva I told you".You have to find the right moment and guide her and be patient will the foreplay.You have to be confident.Dont listen to this people telling you to give up, just because she is unsure.Its not about pushing her, its about making her comfortable.Lube is also very important.We prefer coconut oil.And also the pleasure from anal doesnt come from playing with fingers with her ass, it comes from thrusting fast and non stop in her butt, when she and her muscles are fully relaxed.And then my friend, she will scream from pleasure.Dont give up, your girl deserve to experience this.And then she will beg for it.

I got a question for you, GOAT! Would you allow your GF to PEG YOU? What's good for the goose is good for the gander!...or in this case, Kidd!

[camaro Senior Member Member of the month June 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close camaro]

I think there are a few things to be addressed -

1. Most men want to do what makes them feel good, without consideration for the woman. Intention must be tempered by a proper understanding of the mind and body of the woman. Do you have this?

2. Anal requires some level of preparation to avoid nasty surprises. Preparation on her part includes "getting clean" etc. Preparation on your part includes introducing the area into the sexual experience over weeks and months. The mind creates fear, desire and assumptions. Opening up the mind is key to new experiences. Does she trust that everything you do is for her and not for your own ends?

3. Some women enjoy anal outright, some never do. It is an acquired taste for most, acquired over months of small steps taken to culminate in the actual act. Do you have the patience and knowledge to go about this?

4. Abandon all ideals of force, confidence, dominance, manipulation etc. Just like there is an adjustment period before you can stand on one leg for 2 hours, there is an adjustment period before she can do anal the way you want/like it. If at any step of the way she does not want to continue, abandon the path.

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

Nah, I don`t watch porn, just sometimes our amateur videos.Does the anal there count as a porn?Also talking from personal experience.Guys, dont twist it, I said sometimes you have to be the man at the perfect moment and try to relax her fully and be confident and dominant.If she is horny anyway, thats the moment.He said she let him play with her butt sometimes.And after that if it doesnt happen, well it will never happen probably.

jockinthebox, I can consider it, how is the feeling?

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

jockinthebox, I can consider it, how is the feeling?

I've never been "pegged" with a strap on, so I can't answer that. I can attest that anal play with an appropriately sized and formed anal device, is QUITE PLEASURABLE for a male, and healthy, too! THOROUGHLY CLEANS OUT THE PIPES, releasing ALL older sperm & ejaculate, allowing healthy production of newer more viable sperm and increased T levels, which makes you feel awesome!

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

What I realize is, here some people assume that if you prefer kinky sex, you watch too much porn, and your mind is twisted because of it.You know Tara, there is sex different than the missionary, and I assure you, hard and fast anal sex is a real thing in some people's lives, when done properly.And its amazing feeling.There are even couples who completely abandon vaginal, because of anal.They must watch too much porn, right?Not saying is for everyone, but you never know, if you never jump into the deep