Real average and normal and healthy

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Too bad. Incoming.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

Okay...back on topic you two!

Yep...me as well!

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

[QUOTE=Tamora;1415616]Okay...back on topic you two!

Yep...me as well! [/QUOTE

Ugh oh. The chimp is on to us.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I'm moving to Newcastle!

It's because the north is poor and we can't afford heating lol

Our govt. doesn't know their is any England above Leeds.

[RedWilly Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RedWilly]

So I figured I'd see what y'all have to say about this. How many times a week do couples get it on, and what is normal and healthy. As some of you may know, I don't get it on often lol. But I'm making moves to change that, my problem is I feel like I can go everyday if it was an option, but that's not a realistic expectation, but what is. The all knowing internet says 1.5 times a week lol, but it's like anything it's a statistic put together by researchers that convinced people to take a online survey. I'd like to know what some of you have to say. It's hard to have a conversation with my wife, and say we're going to start working on our sex life, by doing it every day lol. I know there are a slue of different situations, and emotions and all that jive, but it has come to a point where it's getting scheduled, x times a week. I just need to know what x should be. I'm thinking 2-3, maybe 2.5 lol, maybe a good place to start.

Every time I hung out with my ex we'd do it. 5 times a week about. I'm 27 she was 22.

[akga80 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close akga80]

I think we're all here because we all can go everyday lol. Trouble is telling everyone else that, that's why I looked up averages, and I thought to myself once a week with a bj, can't be right. Jay your a stud multiple times a day, that's crazy. Tara good for you, not many women in ltr and marriages are down for everyday, it'd be a lot cooler if they were

[AverageDude48 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close AverageDude48]

I think - just as I do here in that I am here for awesome erection quality and if there is any length/girth gains all the better - that quality should trump quantity. So, if you have three amazing times with your wife one week that might be way better (might....mind you, pay specific attention to my language here) than the guy getting it every day. It all depends on what you and yours want | like | need.

So, as I say with everything else, everyone is different. Everyone has different needs. What is amazing to me might be hum drum to you.

It should not matter, specifically, what everyone else is doing. Yes - totally understand the intent of your question. But what would you like? What is normal for you?

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

ALL guys can have sex every day, sometimes multiple times, daily. If you're in a committed relationship then I think 4-5 X /week is about average. It may be spread over only 2 days, but copulation averages 4-5 X/week for me. Sometimes more, sometimes less, but that's about average.

[incogneeetoe Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2017*Special Appreciated Moderator Nov. 2021* PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close incogneeetoe]

I look at my frequency in terms of the month. I "get some" about 8 to 10 times a month.

We will do it once a week or so, generally, but then when she is ovulating it could be as much as two times a day (used to be 3, but it is hard to sync schedules) over two to three days.

I think I would rather be in the 12 to 15 times a month range, but what can you do?

[akga80 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close akga80]

The reason I ask this question is because our sex life is non existent, I feel like Ray Romano, hey honey you wanna, No Ray. It's pretty frustrating, but I'm coming to a point where I need to open up dialogue that out lines my needs, I honestly don't know what I can do, like I said I feel like I could go everyday, but it's been so long since I have been sexually active idk. Im a pretty smart guy, so I know when I open up this dialogue that I can't expect her to agree to everyday. But I'm not ok with once a week. And as shitty as this sounds I really don't care what she feels about it,it's been her world for too long. I feel like I pissed away my twenties.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Have you tried not asking just going for it? Kissing, touching, nibbling, etc?

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

I can go multiple rounds easily, but how can some of you do it every day, given life?

Sure, if I didn't have work and everything, but a lot of weekdays when I get home I can barely make dinner and eat it before passing out for the night. Weekends and days off, that's a totally different story.

[WIItard Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close WIItard]

You guys are on the high side. In my young days running two girl's I was hitting 4 or 5 a week. Once married more like 2 or 3 times a week. Once kids came along probably once a week.

That's not odd, I know many people who barely have sex once a month. Also if your wife gets gross looking and your older it's probably going to take to much effort. That another problem, many older people are in bad shape and sex is a daunting task so they don't really try.

[AverageDude48 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close AverageDude48]

Agreed with the "letting yourself go" comment. I am 50 but in really good shape (yeah! yeah! yeah! You all have heard that 1,000,000 million times) and am more often than not with 20-somethings. Most of the women in my age group are *NOT* in good shape at all. Now, I am all about connection so that trumps, but come on~! I keep hearing from people of all walks of life how little time they have and how busy they are. I have actually mapped out people's days with them and you would be surprised at how busy they are not. Sitting on the couch for five hours each night does not constitute "busy" for me. Anyway, I do not judge. Everyone will do what they think is best. But I can not imagine sex once a month! That right there would prompt me to hit the gym and to change my eating behavior. But, that is just me.

Sorry....did not mean to hijack this post. Being "older" and being "out of shape" are two of my biggest pet peeves (translations: pisses me off when people use either as an excuse) that I hear ALL the time.

[akga80 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close akga80]

Yeah, my wife kinda let herself go, I'm 32 and and I feel better than ever, I am very in shape, but it seems being a grown up got the best of her and she forgets about us, focused on kids school and so on. I hear what you are saying but I don't think I like it. I feel a married couple should do what married couples do as often as possible, I'm with average, kids are asleep let's watch a hour TV show to make sure they're asleep and spend the night enjoying each other. But that's not the case for me. Wish I get pretty heavy resistance from the kissing cuddling fondling department