Why on earth girl/woman says to man that she's had big

[KMWylie Senior MemberPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close KMWylie]

Looking Relationship forum there is tons of threads (my thread too) where men have sometimes relationship destroying problems when their partner has said that they've had big/huge penis inside her. I can't understand reason for that without asking telling thing like this. Is there so little understanding to male ego that they think it's nothing. Is it testing? Purposeful Self-esteem crushing? It is very bad idea for sure. It's just something that man doesn't want to know that her woman has had bigger penis inside her.

Could you ladies give your thoughts and guesses about that.

I think there are a couple of reasons why a woman would tell her partner this:

1. She's immature and either has no clue what she's saying could hurt her partner or thinks of it as bragging.
2. She's insecure. Like the bully in school who makes fun of the smart kid, because they feel stupid.
3. She's superficial. She cares far too much about her lovers' physical being, rather than their emotional being.
4. She wants to hurt her current partner. Like a metaphysical kick to the groin, she knows by saying she's had much larger, she's conversely suggesting he's much smaller. Whether this is in retaliation for some hurt he's given to her, or she's preemptively striking out, to make sure she always has the upper hand.

All 4 of the reasons above are BAD.

Just like a woman doesn't want her partner to tell her - Yeah, Jane gave the best blow jobs ever! - insinuating that her's aren't as good - women shouldn't ever comment on past lovers' sizes... EVER. Even if their current partner is dumb enough to ask.

[MAG5 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MAG5]

But back to the topic of the thread. Some girls are just answering honestly and giving you the brutal, honest truth when they say that. Some girls may not have actually had bigger but over time, past sexual experiences can become a blur and in her memory it seems bigger than what it was. Or she actually hasn’t had bigger, but she knows how important a mans dick size is to him and his self esteem and all that so she’ll say she’s been with bigger to bring him down a notch, make him try harder for her, maybe a power move, maybe she thinks it’ll look good on her part by having a bigger guy, she doesn’t want to feed his ego.

I’ll give you an example of a girl, my girlfriend, and a reason why if i were to ask that really stupid question, “have you had bigger?” She’d likely tell me yes even if she hasn’t.

So just yesterday my girlfriend and i were talking and she commented on how much I’ve helped her in just all aspects of life, how i give very good advice that she’s applied it to herself and it’s all worked for her and she was just thanking me. Now when i gave her this advice throughout the almost 6 months we’ve been together, she just shrugged it off and didn’t say anything about it. So just yesterday she send me these two texts....

“Hahaha not really! I do think you’re really smart. And give good advice. I just don’t want your head to get any bigger.”

So basically she didn’t want to acknowledge that was helpful, smart, and really helped her cause she was afraid it would feed my ego.

For those if you they don’t know what the term “head getting bigger” means, it means like your ego. Being conceited and kinda narcissistic. I’m only 25 but prior to my girlfriend I’ve slept with about 40-45 women, I’ve worked with top modeling agencies in the country, I do photoshoots, I’m a bodybuilder, so great body, great face, I have a large social media following, I get lots of female attention (and from gay guys). So she knows that I’m a very confident guy, gets lots of attention, lots of compliments, etc, so she doesn’t want to add to it. And she’s not stupid, any girl over 18 I’m sure knows how important and meaningful a mans dick is too him. So she has never and probably will never compliment me on my dick in anywyas. I’m 99.9% I’m the best she ever had in bed, but she hasn’t even admitted that either, but has told me, “sex with you is completely mind-blowing.”

[sumbigd124 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sumbigd124]

Its quite common for women to try to bring their man down if they are insecure or want revenge.
There's a reason why women are historically known for backstabbing if she herself feels she is in trouble.
Quite a large contrast between what a confident woman would do, and an insecure one.

Generally speaking in relationships.
Women have a way of justifying their bad actions to themselves based on what they feel, much more so than men would do. The mood she is in decide what is right.

This cultural image of women being innocent and virtuous is far from true.
A fearful or jealous woman is likely to strike back where she knows it hurts. In some minor or major way.

Fearful that her man will realize he is too good for her, or that some other woman is going to snatch him up unless she destroys his appeal to these other women.

The "I've had bigger", is judging by mens testimonies the most usual approach for immature girls and women to do harm. Innocent remark by itself, but she knows it will probably be very effective.

Somewhere, sometimes, a woman can of course talk about the big dicks of her past to her partner and mean nothing with it.
But mostly, if she manage to bring up the topic of big dicks out of nowhere, she would have a secret agenda.

[Hiplainsdrifter Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hiplainsdrifter]

But back to the topic of the thread. Some girls are just answering honestly and giving you the brutal, honest truth when they say that. Some girls may not have actually had bigger but over time, past sexual experiences can become a blur and in her memory it seems bigger than what it was. Or she actually hasn’t had bigger, but she knows how important a mans dick size is to him and his self esteem and all that so she’ll say she’s been with bigger to bring him down a notch, make him try harder for her, maybe a power move, maybe she thinks it’ll look good on her part by having a bigger guy, she doesn’t want to feed his ego.

I’ll give you an example of a girl, my girlfriend, and a reason why if i were to ask that really stupid question, “have you had bigger?” She’d likely tell me yes even if she hasn’t.

So just yesterday my girlfriend and i were talking and she commented on how much I’ve helped her in just all aspects of life, how i give very good advice that she’s applied it to herself and it’s all worked for her and she was just thanking me. Now when i gave her this advice throughout the almost 6 months we’ve been together, she just shrugged it off and didn’t say anything about it. So just yesterday she send me these two texts....

“Hahaha not really! I do think you’re really smart. And give good advice. I just don’t want your head to get any bigger.”

So basically she didn’t want to acknowledge that was helpful, smart, and really helped her cause she was afraid it would feed my ego.

For those if you they don’t know what the term “head getting bigger” means, it means like your ego. Being conceited and kinda narcissistic. I’m only 25 but prior to my girlfriend I’ve slept with about 40-45 women, I’ve worked with top modeling agencies in the country, I do photoshoots, I’m a bodybuilder, so great body, great face, I have a large social media following, I get lots of female attention (and from gay guys). So she knows that I’m a very confident guy, gets lots of attention, lots of compliments, etc, so she doesn’t want to add to it. And she’s not stupid, any girl over 18 I’m sure knows how important and meaningful a mans dick is too him. So she has never and probably will never compliment me on my dick in anywyas. I’m 99.9% I’m the best she ever had in bed, but she hasn’t even admitted that either, but has told me, “sex with you is completely mind-blowing.”

Geezus, I sure hope the OP is not ugly and unemployed, and lousy in bed....

[Hiplainsdrifter Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hiplainsdrifter]

My wife constantly tells other people how “big” I am.... it quite embarrassing since I’m only 6.8” bpel/5.6 meg ... maybe 6.3 nbpel.

I think she does it for the attention and nothing else.....

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

My wife constantly tells other people how “big” I am.... it quite embarrassing since I’m only 6.8” bpel/5.6 meg ... maybe 6.3 nbpel.

I think she does it for the attention and nothing else.....

Dude, appreciate a wife that's proud of her husband's Dong! Maybe she thinks it's because you know how to use it extra well...GEEZ, have you read the previous posts in this thread???

[Raven89 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Raven89]

I simply laugh when a girl says "oh, I'm used to big dicks like yours" and ditch her, because I know as an 8/9 incher, that it isn't an easy thing to find, so it says more about her insecurities and her desire to put me down a few notches than it says aboout my supposed size-boosted ego, and it's not a healthy thing for a woman to try putting down a man's self esteem, nobody wins anything out of that...

[MAG5 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MAG5]

I simply laugh when a girl says "oh, I'm used to big dicks like yours" and ditch her, because I know as an 8/9 incher, that it isn't an easy thing to find, so it says more about her insecurities and her desire to put me down a few notches than it says aboout my supposed size-boosted ego, and it's not a healthy thing for a woman to try putting down a man's self esteem, nobody wins anything out of that...

Exactly

[Trapezius Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Trapezius]

I simply laugh when a girl says "oh, I'm used to big dicks like yours" and ditch her, because I know as an 8/9 incher, that it isn't an easy thing to find, so it says more about her insecurities and her desire to put me down a few notches than it says aboout my supposed size-boosted ego, and it's not a healthy thing for a woman to try putting down a man's self esteem, nobody wins anything out of that...

One should try to boost partners self-esteem, not bring it down. That's toxic.

[Trapezius Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Trapezius]

What are you talking about? There will always be size insecurities no matter how big or small the average. You don't automatically fix those issues with a larger sample size.

Maybe that's true. But still I would think that if average would be 40", the 20" guys would not feel themselves as small as 4" guys feels compared to 8".

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

I have one theory why it's so hard for many men to know that his partner has had longer. Anatomy of vagina and penis is so that vast majority of penises fits all in in vast majority of vaginas. So if you know that somebody has been deeper inside it feeds jealousy. If anatomy would be so that average penis is 12" and almost every man could NOT go all in and difference in lenght would only mean how much penis is left outside. Men would not have problems with their penis length. Somebody is 14" when you are 12". No problem, he just left 7" exposed when bottoming out when you left 5". Then of course girth would still be a problem.

This. Essentially why I'd love to get into the 9-10" range, knowing that there is a 99% chance I'll never be able to use all of it anyways.

[peckerachu Banned Find all posts View Profile Close peckerachu]

This. Essentially why I'd love to get into the 9-
10" range, knowing that there is a 99% chance I'll never be able to use all of it anyways.

He is so 100% on point he can’t be more spot on. It’s about not being able to accept that another man had been and desecrated places you cant reach brings a foul feeling of inadequacy and disgust. If you are 9” and leave 2” hanging outside your girl you won’t be offended to hear shea had a 12” because it didnt do anything to her that you dont. However if you are 6 and hear shes been with 9” the relationship is destroyed forever and can never be fixed.

[dxbpe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dxbpe]

Some woman can only orgasm with a big dick. So maybe it's some kind of warning. "Don't be sad if I don't have an orgasm" because she's used to bigger

[Stoneblade Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Stoneblade]

This doesn't really matter if you're in an open relationship with your girl. I personally find it very erotic when she tells me she's been with a guy much bigger than me. It's the best dirty talk while she's riding me

[cathy22 Member Find all posts View Profile Close cathy22]

I've never mentioned to guy friends that my ex had a large penis but if they ask I tell them.