The brutal truth

[thenewdude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thenewdude]

Anyone has preferences. Do women like big dicks? All depends on what the woman considers "big". I know you will have these sites where they say we like 8+ x 6+ which most have never actually experienced being that the size is of a low percentile of men and that most aroused vaginal cavities are not bottomless. Most times 7-8 will reach the bottom with some to spare depending on position of entry. Yes, there are women who like the stimulus of the penis rubbing also up against the cervix which is called a 'cervix push' (not slam) where the length must be there for various positions. It all depends again on the woman. If you don't have the length or girth and mean a size queen than I am sorry for you but most are not size queens. Listen to BatWoman.

[Brandon85 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brandon85]

The point is that if a girl truly, honestly loves a guy then penis size will never be an issue.

I couldn't agree with you more. In my last paragraph, I mention that if we are lucky, we would find someone who doesn't even see our (self perceived) flaws.

[NP97 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close NP97]

Everyone has their preferences.
New Girlfriend loves my dick. She says it feels amazing. Not cause of it's size, but because I know how to make her cum over and over and over again. Until she just can't do it anymore. Yeah, she said me being big is fun. Gives her more to play with.
What it really comes down to is that I am good in bed because I try to get her off. Not something she was use to in her previous relationship.

One person likes to have big dicks. Nothing wrong with that. Not the way every woman feels. So let her feel what she feels.

[malehanger Banned Find all posts View Profile Close malehanger]

I think if a women isnt super tight with big boobs, at least 38D with giant DSL's and a flat tight set of abs with long legs and brown hair then she couldnt possibly satisfy a man, now any of you men who have a women that doesnt fit that description must not be able to enjoy sex. It isnt possible, oooooopsy. My wife does not fit that description either but she sure is fun in bed. I am dumping her because she is not a set of visegrips.
Now doesnt that sound intelligient!

You forgot "must eagerly swallow semen like honey" and "enjoy offering her partner anal sex at least once per week"

[4Samson Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4Samson]

^^^ Hmmm take out the 38Ds and add a great ass, that all sounds just like my fiance haha. Let women want their big dicks if that is what they desire.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

Want and need is two different things, want is just how a guy wants a round ass or big breasts, need is if your vagina is to loose for average dicks.

[quickturtle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close quickturtle]

I don't think this woman should be condemned for having an opinion and preference, and even less for stating it. Every woman has different preferences, and it's nice to hear what they have to say coming from EVERY angle: The girl who claims with pride she prefers a big dick, the girl who expresses her lack of preference whatsoever, the girl who is "perfectly okay" with average and doesn't care for more, and the (probably rare) girl who enjoys a penis on the smaller side. It gives a LOT more credence when a girl honestly expresses her opinion (whatever it might be), because you've heard multiple different ones, rather than creating this fear in women to express their preferences due to everyone being too damn sensitive about it. I applaud her for stating her opinion. I wouldn't try to fuck her though

There are so many variables that can factor into what a girl is looking for in terms of a penis. And as a lot of people here like to default to, "it doesn't matter as long as there's love" -- that's absolutely TRUE in nearly all cases, but that's NOT the point. The point is that there are different preferences and hearing that some girls love big dicks is GOOD for guys with smaller than average or average packages. It shows that there are many different types of women and it makes varying views a whole lot more believable. I don't think the girl on that blog was trying to hurt anybody, but she's probably sick of seeing every girl who expresses their opinion on it spew some bullshit about not really having a preference just so they don't hurt their audience. Political-correctness is something that's ultimately harmful. I'm kind of sick of hearing girls with their obvious bullshit. My ex girlfriend told me she "definitely appreciates a large cock" but it's not what she prefers. Yes, if I had a larger cock she'd probably go wild over it, but she goes wild over my slightly sub-average cock just as much! (or... used to. Tear. ) She's just not saying "OMG IT'S SO BIG!" all the time to inflate my ego. Guys with big dicks get to hear that. Tough shit on everyone else. Get over it, buddy! Work on your self-image or work on your penis.

Anyway the point I'm trying to make is that more HONEST opinions is better, even if it's not what you like to hear. But look on the bright side, there is always someone else. And if you really aren't happy with your size.. isn't that why we're all here at PEGym? (or most of us, at least).




Also -- is it just me or did she describe a hipster straight out of Williamsburg?? Haha! Guy was probably a tool anyway.

[TheSnitch Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheSnitch]

Holy CRAP! LOL.

There is a difference between women and girls. Women appreciate things that girls don't. That includes size, shape, personality, experience, ambition ect ect - simple as that. Just as there is a difference between boys and men.

Here is the secret about women. Are you ready? Are you sure you can handle it? Ok here goes.

Women don't want their insecurities reflected back at them. Women don't want a man who is worried, who is always questioning, who gets uncomfortable easily, who feels like he isn't good enough, or has a sense of desperation to him. Women are trapt in their heads the majority of the time, worrying about all sorts of various shit - not that guys don't do the same - but I think the pressure is a lot different. They try to make the right decision, without breaching some kind of cultural protocol, while still listening to how they feel and with the intention to try not to hurt anyone or be hurt, also making sure they get what they want. That's a lot to handle.

Be a man who lets go of his worry, of his concern, who is absolutely a free spirit and can bring a women into that world too and she will be on you like white on rice on a paper plate in snow storm - the size of your penis be damned. Women want to not worry, to feel sexy without trying, to be a little sleezy when they are comfortable with the right man, to laugh and yes - girls do just wanna have fun. Stop looking at women as mothers, daughters and sisters - who have to conform to some sort of standard definition; they aren't beings of pure emotion who just want to be in love and blah blah. They are people. So stop listening to stand up comics and tv shows, stop reading blogs and listening for only what you want to hear.

Being a man isn't just about provision and protection - it's about carrying a burden; whether yours or not, because your shoulders are broad enough.

At least in my opinion lol

[Trotsky slaying thedragon Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Trotsky slaying thedragon]

I definitely see your points but there is no woman who values a small penis anywhere in the world. I've yet to encounter one, and I've yet to read about one. I always read or hear about one who may exist somewhere, sometime but there isn't a single example that exists in reality. There are two options: size doesn't matter (big, small, average okay) and size does matter (big, bigger, and biggest).

Fact is that having a small penis is a disadvantage while having a big penis is an advantage. A big penis will never be a deal breaker (end a relationship) while a small penis will be a deal breaker.

Tell me about that girl you know who openly vouches for small penises? Tell me about the girls (RE: every girl you know) who likes big ones?

[TheSnitch Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheSnitch]

I definitely see your points but there is no woman who values a small penis anywhere in the world. I've yet to encounter one, and I've yet to read about one. I always read or hear about one who may exist somewhere, sometime but there isn't a single example that exists in reality. There are two options: size doesn't matter (big, small, average okay) and size does matter (big, bigger, and biggest).

Fact is that having a small penis is a disadvantage while having a big penis is an advantage. A big penis will never be a deal breaker (end a relationship) while a small penis will be a deal breaker.

Tell me about that girl you know who openly vouches for small penises? Tell me about the girls (RE: every girl you know) who likes big ones?

It can be a deal breaker if she finds it painful to have constant sex with. Big penises are good for a good time, and some women can have that good time more often than others, but an average penis they can bounce on for a lot longer without getting sore. But, just like anything it's based upon the individuals taste.

[jmack Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jmack]

From personal experience, the gains I've made from PE have really helped make sex that much better. When I was average in 2008, the sex was great, but now it's just more enhanced. My girl loves it because the bigger size means the more regions I can cover to give pleasure. But it's not just about increased size, PE has also helped me with performance because when I do PE, it reminds me that the goal is to ultimately satisfy my lady, make her feel good, and keep the relationship healthy.

What I've learned is that easy does it and I remember reading "Rome wasn't built in a day." It's a good analogy that I use when doing PE.

[KungFuJoe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close KungFuJoe]

To the OP,

Just what exactly are you looking for? You post a single pointless blog of a single person and treat it like gospel. Then when plenty of people here talk about how it's just ONE persons opinion and not the entire female race you are so quick to just dismiss it.

So again I ask. What are you looking for? Do you want someone to share in your misery? Do you want someone to tell you how right you are?...that woman only care about one thing and one thing only...a huge cock? That nevermind what kind of person you are, or if you possess any other qualities a woman may desire...all that is trumped by having a small dick?

Your "small dick" is not your problem. Your attitude is.

[opuster Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close opuster]

Im just posting here so you could see my new signature.

[NoNoWay Banned Find all posts View Profile Close NoNoWay]

I suppose this is as good a first post as any... This is addressed straight to the OP.

Okay, I am "female." In the physical, probably chromosomal sense, anyway. I have a vagina and shit, was raised as a girl, etc. I also like men, and I like vaginal penetration to a degree. My gender is more masculine however, and most people in my life treat me as a "guy" or something similar. I may sometimes have differing perspectives on sex from hetero, cisgender women, and I have never dated a 100% heterosexual man and I probably never will. Take that with as many grains of salt as you feel that deserves.

I went to this link thinking I would maybe be reading some socially-destructive, man-writing-under-female-penname, cashing-in-by-telling-men-what-they-think-anyway bullshit. You know, like Maxim and FHM articles! ...Oh, no wait, it's a personal blog you're having an over-the-top reaction to, never mind.

Look, this post is discussing a man with a MICROPHALLUS. Unless you have that condition, I just don't know what you are so down about. I'm not sure your bullet-point breakdown is fair. But, okay, let's pretend it is.

1. Penis size is a deal breaker. Not a preference, a deal breaker.

Sho' is! Too big is a deal breaker. I'm not being facetious, I mean that. Past a certain size, I would give a guy a few sessions to see if we could get it in without incredible pain; but if not, I would take a pass. I'M not much longer than 6 inches, max. That's a fucking consideration!

I will not be with a guy who can hurt me. (And frankly, the number of guys here who are unperturbed when they are hurting their partners is fucking disturbing.) I will not be with a guy who could potentially injure me if he lost a bit of control (and I've yet to meet a guy who doesn't)...or just up and decided to force me (and after the "nicest" guy I ever dated got so pushy about staying FWB after we broke up that I was afraid to be alone with him, I will not trust cisgender men completely anymore). I want to feel physically safe with my partner, and a guy with a huge dick is not that guy.

Fear. Is. Not. Sexy.

REALLY small... I have yet to make up my mind. Honestly, it is not visually attractive to me, but I have the same awareness that the poster you linked does... I like women, and women don't have dicks, so why is a "larger" (read: not tiny) dick more attractive? I think we are both aware that this is a mental acceptance of a false binary paradigm that dictates both what "should" be attractive on a woman or a man. If I don't require a penis for sex in the first place, the possibilities for visual attractiveness should logically expand. It's just something to think about.

(Is there a biological reason for this? Maybe, but I don't trust ev-psych explanations either because they are usually a) wrong and b) say that every goddamn thing about my personal sexuality indicates that I am either defective, crazy, self-deluded, or LYING. So I'm not a fan of any theory of female sexuality that depends heavily on the idea of evolutionary hard-wiring. If I even get counted as female.

Oh yes, and I HAVE met women who preferred - genuinely preferred - smaller dicks. They were generally big, big fans of anal, or liked giving head but found it too physically strenuous.)

Regardless of the visual appeal though, there is (again, logically) no reason why a smaller dick should not be okay, provided my partner was not a fucking asshole. Penetration is not necessarily my favourite thing in the world, plus toys are also fun. If he was willing to be flexible and creative, even a guy with a TINY dick might potentially be fine in the wash. Thing is, most of the really-small-dicked guys I've met WERE ASSHOLES about it. I mean, incredibly obsessed over it to the point that their view of sex entirely revolved around their crotch and what they could and couldn't do with it, what their partners should and shouldn't feel about it, etc. They were pathetic. And unattractive. Outright gross, actually. No, I don't want you to send me 47874154 pictures of your dick and multiple messages asking me to describe in detail whether it's fuckable or not.

I realize that having a REALLY small dick would be...a life challenge, but if a guy could manage to have sexy confidence in himself regardless of the social pressure and some number of rejections, he could probably find someone truly interested. I've personally never met a small-dicked guy who had faith in himself, though.

2. Rejecting a man based on physical attributes is empowering because it asserts female sexual needs.

Something about the way you are framing this feels wrong. I don't know, there is a fine line here between, "you are not right for what I've determined my sexual needs to be," and, "I think you are inadequate, but I will dress that up." I think the poster is doing her best to err on the side of the former, and you are determined to read it in the latter frame of mind. Man, that doesn't make sex positivity look any good!

Being sex positive, genuinely sex positive, is about saying that nothing about sex is inherently shameful or wrong (as long as no one is being harmed). Sometimes we can't live up to that ideal (like any ideal), but it is not about being cruel about other people's bodies or sexualities and then acting like that's fine because your orgasm is on the line.

3. Small penises are laughed at because otherwise they would be sad.

Too literal.

4. Doing other things is just not good enough.

Maybe for her. I wasn't born with a penis jammed inside me, so I don't think I "need" one now. Penetration feels good. So do a lot of other things.

5. There *are* different body types for women, but only one anonymous friend is mentioned as being all size friendly while all of the commenters agree with her.

Aaaaand they were talking about a micropenis.

6. Strap-ons are not good enough.

For her. (Also, didn't her friend suggest it but drop the idea at least partially - if not entirely - because she thought the guy wouldn't accept it? She also dropped the vibrator idea for the same reason! Is the real problem here the toy or the guy's perceived ego?)

I think strap-ons are fucking hot. I've spent hours doing nothing but browsing those sections on sex toy sites. I want to fuck someone with a strap-on one day - I haven't done it yet, but it's a top fantasy. I would be open to a partner using a strap-on - especially a man. There's something extremely sexy about someone being willing to pleasure you with something they don't get anything directly from. Not all the time, mind you, because that's one-sided, but it's hot. Did you know there are strap-ons DESIGNED for men to wear? 'S true! There's like, a little pocket in them to hold your junk back. GENIUS! And so hot. You can also get ones that are just hollow inside and meant for your dick to go within, but I think those are too big, usually.

7. Lacking sexual satisfaction in penetration will dissolve all other benefits of the relationship eventually or cause cheating.

Well, lack of sexual satisfaction is probably going to dissolve any relationship. Whether or not that satisfaction depends on penetration depends on the people involved.

My sexuality is firmly on the "alternative" side, so my social contacts are not representative, but it shits me that I've met both women AND men who were angry and bitter that penetration is "so important" because they didn't value it much but felt they'd NEVER meet a partner who accepted that. Fuck, too bad I couldn't find a way to hook them up with each other to stop the whining.

First, I'm not trying to be bitter. I don't want comments that try to demean her or try to bash her or her ideas.

Too late, huh? Yeah, there's no one here being angry, bitter or hateful toward her AT ALL.

Sure there are different body types and different personalities but the idea that a connection will be severed because of lack of maleness is profoundly disappointing.

Penis size != maleness. End of.

In the end though, I really don't think it matters what any female says to you, or how representative it is of the whole or not. From your post, you don't care. You want to believe what you've already decided is true (BIG DICK SUPER IMPORTANT), and you'll jump on anything you even think is saying that as proof of how it "really is."

Those Maxim and FHM articles, the ones that tell you endlessly that no woman will ever accept a "pussy" guy, that you are faaaailure if you aren't willing to be "dominant" 100% of the time and pull her hair every time you fuck her? Oh yeah, those were also written for you.

[BTBrian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BTBrian]

NoNoWay - Thank you so much!! That was such a wonderful and insightful post, honestly maybe the best post I've ever read. I completely agree with you 100% how disturbing it is too see so many guys who want to be so big that they'll hurt girls. Again thanks for the post, hopefully you stick around and can continue to contribute to this site.