Is big dink really that better?

[anonymity Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close anonymity]

Op. It has been said time and time again on this forum that the most important thing in the department of sex is EQ.
Your focus really should be on the health of your penis NOT the size.

[anonymity Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close anonymity]

Could it be that women are perceived to be naturally attracted to men with larger penises due to that these men generally carry themselves with more confidence than a man with a penis insecurity? I mean, unless you're nude, I don't know what's in your pants when you approach me! All I know is your demeanor.
Could be self forfilled prophecies here, creating a vicious cycle of self doubt.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

It's no coincidence that guys with bigger tools have more traffic in their bed, because our society is bent on this.

You are a cool guy and I agree with most of your advice. However, this one comment doesn't make any sense to me?!?!

Back in College all my buddies would go out and try to get laid. Every weekend. It had NOTHING to do with the size of their dicks! Big, small, makes no difference at all. Guy's love sex. Period. So all my buddies were chasing women. No, they didn't have clear plastic pants on so the girls "knew" who had a bigger dick. That's ridiculous.

I'd argue a smooth-talking good looking guy with a tiny penis will get WAY more pussy than some homely dude with a giant dong. I just don't get it. I just don't know why guys think penis size makes a difference or matters? IT DOESN'T.

[bumble Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bumble]

You are a cool guy and I agree with most of your advice. However, this one comment doesn't make any sense to me?!?!

Back in College all my buddies would go out and try to get laid. Every weekend. It had NOTHING to do with the size of their dicks! Big, small, makes no difference at all. Guy's love sex. Period. So all my buddies were chasing women. No, they didn't have clear plastic pants on so the girls "knew" who had a bigger dick. That's ridiculous.

I'd argue a smooth-talking good looking guy with a tiny penis will get WAY more pussy than some homely dude with a giant dong. I just don't get it. I just don't know why guys think penis size makes a difference or matters? IT DOESN'T.

I know guys with bigger than average penises. They've just opened their pants in a club, let the women look and went home with them.

I don't think penis size makes men not want to have sex, but I think guys with bigger penises definitely flaunt it more and brag and can utilize it to their advantage with women who only care about it.

That's what I'm saying here. Do I think guys with big dicks have meaningful sexual encounters, more so than any man? No.

But a guy with a big dick can easily find women who like them and get into bed. It's like having a flavor of icecream that some women really like. And know they want it and get into bed when they know they get it. I'm talking about meeting someone, seeing it, and getting into bed. Friends talking about it, and getting into bed.

A normal sized or small dude usually gets himself in a scenario where the woman has to try it to like it.

That's not to say there aren't small guys out there who get mad pussy, but all of my experience would say that is an anomaly and not the rule.

However, every male I know with a big penis has had women want them, just because of that. In turn, making it very easy.

It's easier when women want it. Normal women who don't really care or think about it, can get with any guy with any penis. They don't have a desire to want it. But some women, do. And a guy with confidence and a small dick will get laid as much as you say. But that's an oddity. Especially just being a member here. Many men have small dick syndrome and don't have confidence.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

I know guys with bigger than average penises. They've just opened their pants in a club, let the women look and went home with them.

Sorry, I give women more credit than that.

I do not believe a girl will go home with a guy that unzips his pants in public. And if she did, than that isn't the kind of skanky slut I'd let near my pecker anyways. Plus, I have never been to a club where guys did such things. Not even in gay bars! Perhaps I'm naive, or perhaps you need a new circle of friends.

[bumble Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bumble]

Sorry, I give women more credit than that.

I do not believe a girl will go home with a guy that unzips his pants in public. And if she did, than that isn't the kind of skanky slut I'd let near my pecker anyways. Plus, I have never been to a club where guys did such things. Not even in gay bars! Perhaps I'm naive, or perhaps you need a new circle of friends.

Oh, I completely agree. I wouldn't either.

It has happened. I have one friend who regularly goes on dating sites to show videos of his dick to women just so that they will fuck him. That's it. And out of the 20 or so he sends it to, 3-5 will do it.

I used to give women a lot more credit until I really delved deeper into our psychology. I, like you more than likely, had a mother who was very respectful, raised me to cherish and love women and adore them. But that made me put the pussy on a pedestal.

The reality is, there are women that are just as trashy as men, there are idiots, there are women who can't think without their friends, gossip, watch reality tv all day. And they are just as stupid as the idiot opening his waist band to let them have a look.

I am not good friends with these people, they are acquaintances more than anything else.

I'm a writer. Life experience is my bread and butter, good or bad. I enjoy all things. But as an observer and not a partaker.

[MrPriapus Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MrPriapus]

I agree with bumble on this. There are many intelligent women who do respect the intricacies of a sexual relationship and are not wooed by the size of a man's member. But, there are a lot of the younger crowd, most dumb, but some intelligent ones too that fantasize about a good "drilling" from a well-endowed man.

I go out pretty regularly and know that there are certain places that are breeding grounds for women of this type who are looking to hookup for a one-night stand. Most of them tend to cater to a lower class crowd, but I've seen the same behavior at nightclubs/bars from women of all classes. Women are biologically attracted to the penis. Some may think it's disgusting in the wrong situation, but I think in general, we are all subconsciously driven by lust to some degree. It's in our genes, we can resist the programming, but can't change the code.

But @ the OPs question. I would think that having a big penis is better in situations driven by physical lust (i.e. casual hookups) because GENERALLY it is a desirable physical trait for a man. So more times than not, a women lusting after a man physically is going to wrap her mind up in the fantasy of the situation and desire the appropriately fantasized penis. But again, this is a narrow pool of women we are talking about that are going to desire this. Most women, even ones that may have engaged in such behavior at one point or another, will have greater sex with a man that they care about than with Joe Blow with a 10" cock.

So to recap, you need to discern a women's erotic fantasy of a physical, unemotional sexual encounter versus a deep, loving, and caring sexual relationship.

[MrPriapus Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MrPriapus]

Sorry, I give women more credit than that.

I do not believe a girl will go home with a guy that unzips his pants in public. And if she did, than that isn't the kind of skanky slut I'd let near my pecker anyways. Plus, I have never been to a club where guys did such things. Not even in gay bars! Perhaps I'm naive, or perhaps you need a new circle of friends.

Yes, you may be naive, or at least unaware. This happens, I've seen it as well. But, it's a certain type of nightlife that attracts these things. Go to some clubs in lower income areas, or that attract women from lower income areas and you will see these acts more often. You may catch them at other establishments, but it's normally not as overt. Just a couple of weekends ago, my boy met a chick at a club in Addison (if you are from DFW you know this area is pretty upscale), and she gave him head in his car. She didn't look/act trashy or skanky, she was probably just horny, and my boy knew the right words to turn those knobs that got her turned on. One thing leads to another, and then suddenly he comes back with a smile and tells us the story. He could be lying, but he's known for these kinds of things, so I doubt it.

Be careful how you talk about women who do this, because it could be you one day that marries one of them. [I'm guessing your single since we're arguing about promiscuity in a primarily single landscape.] The past is the past, women get just as horny as men, and things like this can happen. If I somehow found out through sources that the woman I'm seeing (and care about) did something crazy like that in the past I wouldn't lose my head about it. Everyone has a before. It's the now and future that matters.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

No, a big dink is not better, a big dick is.

Wait, what!?

[BTBrian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BTBrian]

You are a cool guy and I agree with most of your advice. However, this one comment doesn't make any sense to me?!?!

Back in College all my buddies would go out and try to get laid. Every weekend. It had NOTHING to do with the size of their dicks! Big, small, makes no difference at all. Guy's love sex. Period. So all my buddies were chasing women. No, they didn't have clear plastic pants on so the girls "knew" who had a bigger dick. That's ridiculous.

I'd argue a smooth-talking good looking guy with a tiny penis will get WAY more pussy than some homely dude with a giant dong. I just don't get it. I just don't know why guys think penis size makes a difference or matters? IT DOESN'T.

Exactly! Of the three guys that I know that have had the most sex, supposedly one of them is big, one of them is average, and one is small. All 3 of them will approach women and do whatever they can to have sex, and they all get laid all of the time. Size absolutely does not impact frequency of random sex.

I know guys with bigger than average penises. They've just opened their pants in a club, let the women look and went home with them.

That's absolute BS.

[bumble Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bumble]

That's absolute BS.

You can believe what you want man. I have stood there, watching him talk into a girls ear, for no more than 3 minutes, then told her to look down, he pulls his waistband open and their eyes light up and he takes them home or to his car.

It's not a joke, it's not bullshit, it's very real. It's not every woman. Sometimes he just whispers in their ears and they shake their heads no, so he's saying "do you wanna see it?". And they laugh and walk away.

But out of the 10-20 girls he might do it to over a span of 2-3 hours, one will take the bait. Sometimes it's the first one, sometimes it's the 10th, sometimes it's the 20th. But he never goes home alone. I've even seen a woman look in his pants, tell her friends about it in a giggly kinda manner, then her friend went home with my buddy because of what she told her.

Sorry to say fellas, women are hormone driven sometimes too.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

This guy you go out with shows his cock to up to 20 girls a night? What a creep. Sounds like he's going to get a punch to the face or land in jail eventually. And based on that you conclude girls fuck guys with big dicks more often? I guess that wraps it up. Case closed.

[MrPriapus Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MrPriapus]

I think he's using a personal example to clarify the broader primal nature of men/women. Some studies say a bigger penis evolved due to increased sexual competition, so that a man with a larger penis can insert his sperm further and also scoop out other rival sperm (I think the study was done on rats or something). Another says that it evolved due to female choice in more promiscuous societies. And yet another idea posits that it could just be a social construct created by men unintentionally due to our own fixation on the size of our penis - our obsession fueled their inclinations. Who knows? But, whatever the case is there is a subconscious twitch that many (not all) women have that makes them excited about large penises. Doesn't mean the sex is better, or that they want to sleep with men with large penises, it only means that they have a subconscious primal inclination toward larger genitalia.

Wait, what am I saying... Yes, women like big dicks like men like big tits or butts. Not all women or men are this way, but many are. It's just evolutionary biology, and maybe in another 100,000 years we may have evolved our consciousness enough to ignore such baser instincts, but for now we're stuck with them, and you just gotta deal with the fact that the phallus is one of the many objects of desire for women.

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

Sorry man but this proves absolutely nothing in relation to your argument except that your friend is an absolute sleezebag. Secondly, if you approach 10-20 girls on a night out and said a nursery rhyme to them all, and 1 slept with you out of that group, it wouldn't imply that guys who told nursery rhymes to women were able to have sex more.

Of course some women like big dicks. That is obvious. Does this mean that a big cock will get you laid simply because you have a big cock? Sometimes, yes. Great, big deal. Having a nice sports car might get you laid other times. Being charming might also get you laid. And guess what? Being a nice guy, with plenty of interesting things to talk about besides the size of your cock may also get you laid from time to time.

In fact, I can 100% guarantee that a nice, intelligent, and funny guy will be more successful than that jerk you described. I reckon that he would not only do better quantity wise, but far better quality wise, as in he wouldn't be picking up someone who merely admires his bulge. 1 girl in 20 went home with that guy? Big deal, that is a terrible ratio! If most guys approached 20 girls in a night, they would likely have success. The reason that guy is having so much success is because he approaches 20 girls in a night.

But out of the 10-20 girls he might do it to over a span of 2-3 hours, one will take the bait. Sometimes it's the first one, sometimes it's the 10th, sometimes it's the 20th. But he never goes home alone. I've even seen a woman look in his pants, tell her friends about it in a giggly kinda manner, then her friend went home with my buddy because of what she told her.

Sorry to say fellas, women are hormone driven sometimes too.

[BTBrian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BTBrian]

You are a cool guy and I agree with most of your advice. However, this one comment doesn't make any sense to me?!?!

Back in College all my buddies would go out and try to get laid. Every weekend. It had NOTHING to do with the size of their dicks! Big, small, makes no difference at all. Guy's love sex. Period. So all my buddies were chasing women. No, they didn't have clear plastic pants on so the girls "knew" who had a bigger dick. That's ridiculous.

I'd argue a smooth-talking good looking guy with a tiny penis will get WAY more pussy than some homely dude with a giant dong. I just don't get it. I just don't know why guys think penis size makes a difference or matters? IT DOESN'T.

This guy you go out with shows his cock to up to 20 girls a night? What a creep. Sounds like he's going to get a punch to the face or land in jail eventually. And based on that you conclude girls fuck guys with big dicks more often? I guess that wraps it up. Case closed.

If that guy pulled something like that where I lived, he would be in the hospital. I'm not exaggerating haha I see people end up in the hospital about every other week for a lot less than that.

Also, as has been pointed out 1/10 or 1/20 is a pretty bad success rate, a confident funny guys could easily sleep with about 1/5 girls. It's really not hard and penis size really doesn't matter at all. I'll bet I could get a 1/10 or 1/20 if not better if I just walked and to girls and asked them if they wanted to sleep with me.