Being the dominant one

[DakkaBomb Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DakkaBomb]

Hai there I'm in a long distance relationship with my gf for 6 months now. While there is no physical contact at all we both like to talk about sex a lot. Sexting and stuff like that haha. Anyway she told me she likes being submissive. And to be honest I like idea of being dominant one haha.. buuut I just have basic idea about it but there is always more to know. Soo do you have any tips about being dominant for me? Thanks for reading.

[turtler Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close turtler]

I'm just a vanilla guy with no first-hand experience in this, but along with power there is always responsibility and a bond of trust that should never be broken. Before engaging in power plays, always talk things through first to make sure you're on the same page as to what you can do and what she is expected to do.

I've no idea how serious any of you are planning on being, but I'd do some heavy googling on the topic beforehand if I were you. Should be an interesting read anyway.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

Anything that's beyond... like standard "dominant role" stuff you should really have an understanding of each others comfort level...

I may be reading too much into this and thinking SM or bondage, but if she just means she likes to just lay there like a starfish, then that's a completely different thing.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

Personally I'm turned on when each side can take turns at being more assertive/dominant, although only up to a point (not really into BDSM/SM). To me it is a huge turn on when a girl really likes sex and isn't afraid on it...so as much as I'd like to be in charge, I'd also like her to take charge/be the aggressor every now and then.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

I'm just a vanilla guy with no first-hand experience in this, but along with power there is always responsibility and a bond of trust that should never be broken. Before engaging in power plays, always talk things through first to make sure you're on the same page as to what you can do and what she is expected to do.

I've no idea how serious any of you are planning on being, but I'd do some heavy googling on the topic beforehand if I were you. Should be an interesting read anyway.

Exactly↑↑↑↑. Don't ask us, everyone has a different idea and acceptable level, talk with her and see, there is nothing wrong with talking, why do guys think they have to know everything about sex and their partner ( especially when they haven't even met the girl ).
Talk to her, you don't want to go in slapping like a happy seal and she doesn't like it.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Personally I'm turned on when each side can take turns at being more assertive/dominant, although only up to a point (not really into BDSM/SM). To me it is a huge turn on when a girl really likes sex and isn't afraid on it...so as much as I'd like to be in charge, I'd also like her to take charge/be the aggressor every now and then.

I'm with you on this! I like to play what I call "Cowboys & Indians" with GF's! Not really BD or S&M, but some nice roping and hog-tieing along with "playful/ rough sex"- it's especially fun outdoors, camping or at the lake! We even take turns, with her being the dom, and I must say, I enjoy the role-playing equally! Gotta LOVE a creative GF or wife! Keeps your sex life fun and" unpreDICKtable"! Oh, and "props" are always fun additions to "surprise" your partner with!