Girls:would you dump a man only because he was bad in bed?

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

I've never been with a woman but I have to assume that it's entirely possible for a woman to be bad in bed. Take, for example, one of the worst lovers I was with - quite above average in terms of penis size but absolutely horrible. He literally did *nothing* at all. He just lay there. He barely made a sound, he didn't move at all, it was awful. Really I might as well having been using a dildo because that's basically all he was - it was pretty much just using someone else to masturbate. I have to think that for men having a completely unresponsive partner would be essentially the same thing.

And there are some people who are just... untrainable. Sometimes they're just not open to changing.

[LongNThick Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LongNThick]

Great point Qandia.

My girlfriend in college (for a very short time) was one of those that didn't move. It was like screwing a living breathing doll. She would move when I would go down on her, and when she would orgasm, but during intercourse she would just lie there. It got to a point where I would want her on top as then at least she would move (and my hands were free to roam as well). She also learned how to control the rhythm so she could orgasm while on top as well.

[WIItard Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close WIItard]

I've never been with a woman but I have to assume that it's entirely possible for a woman to be bad in bed. Take, for example, one of the worst lovers I was with - quite above average in terms of penis size but absolutely horrible. He literally did *nothing* at all. He just lay there. He barely made a sound, he didn't move at all, it was awful. Really I might as well having been using a dildo because that's basically all he was - it was pretty much just using someone else to masturbate. I have to think that for men having a completely unresponsive partner would be essentially the same thing.

And there are some people who are just... untrainable. Sometimes they're just not open to changing.

That's how women can be terrible in bed. Just lay there doing nothing and it's not for me. You got to go. Tends to be the religious girls who act like that. I will try to train but only to a certain point. If you act like you don't want to be here then why are you here?

[sidneycrosby Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close sidneycrosby]

I tried to get a girl to be more than useless. Broke up with her recently for it.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

I don't give a shat how hawt she is.. if she'd rather just lay there and moan all the darn time, I'd rather just jack off to some porn.

Sex is a two way street ladies.. if you want the good D, show that you deserve it.

[ScarletSkull Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ScarletSkull]

Well, I guess if I'm honest, it depends on the woman! I was with my ex for 10 years and he was a selfish lover. And mostly, he thought things were great but was unteachable - he wouldn't really pay attention when I tried to show him what I wanted or gave him feedback.

And, in spite of how it may seem on this forum (given how much we talk about sex) the empty sex life was not actually the reason why we split up, though it certainly didn't give me any reason to hang on to things.

So, the woman that I was, would say yes.

However, the woman that I am now, would say no, but with the caveat... if he's a poor lover because of inexperience and he's open to learning/feedback, etc. then that's a whole different ballgame. If he's selfish, inconsiderate, and refuses to listen to feedback, then that's probably an indicator of things that could also be an issue in other areas in the relationship, and IMO probably not worth the time.

So, tl:dr, if he's willing to learn, then he isn't a bad lover even if technique sucks. If he doesn't listen to feedback and doesn't want to learn, then I wouldn't be interested.

[KMWylie Senior MemberPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close KMWylie]

Jock - That's a very good point. A good sex life is important. But, I think it sounds like you tried everything (bribery? LOL LOVE IT!). That's not being self-centered on your part.

You tried.

You communicated.

You did good. :-)

[bigbutlimp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bigbutlimp]

Thanks for your opinions!

You still haven't really convinced me that woman can be bad in bed though.....

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Thanks for your opinions!

You still haven't really convinced me that woman can be bad in bed though.....

I can't find a clip of it but there's an older 2 and a Half Men episode where Alan is in bed with one of Charlie's former flings - she's a very attractive woman and Alan can't understand why Charlie wouldn't want to be with here. They're just about to have sex and she basically says "okay... go ahead" and just lies there, with her eyes closed, looking kind of like she's braced for the worst. The inference was that she stayed that way the entire time. To me THAT would be an example of bad.

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

I can't find a clip of it but there's an older 2 and a Half Men episode where Alan is in bed with one of Charlie's former flings - she's a very attractive woman and Alan can't understand why Charlie wouldn't want to be with here. They're just about to have sex and she basically says "okay... go ahead" and just lies there, with her eyes closed, looking kind of like she's braced for the worst. The inference was that she stayed that way the entire time. To me THAT would be an example of bad.

Yes Qandisa, that is bad in bed. I want a woman that puts in as much work as I do. I want a vocal woman. I want her to talk to me, tell me with things feel good. Example, this weekend we were having sex. She really likes her nipples licked. So I do, with a little nibble. She says harder. Bite me harder. Or when she spreads her legs really wide and slide my dick in from the tip to my balls. I hit her kinda hard. And she says, harder, fuck me harder. That's what guys want. A girl that just lays there, I will not be fucking her ever again. I haven't had one of those yet, but some have been better than others.

[Sequoia Tree Senior Member Member of the Month July 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Sequoia Tree]

I can't find a clip of it but there's an older 2 and a Half Men episode where Alan is in bed with one of Charlie's former flings - she's a very attractive woman and Alan can't understand why Charlie wouldn't want to be with here. They're just about to have sex and she basically says "okay... go ahead" and just lies there, with her eyes closed, looking kind of like she's braced for the worst. The inference was that she stayed that way the entire time. To me THAT would be an example of bad.

lol, I've seen this episode, and it's a great example to reference!

Edit: found it
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QeCK_LoghwY

[PurpleOnes Senior Member Member of the Month June 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close PurpleOnes]

I think woman can be bad in bed if she doesn't know how to suck dick well.

Woman can be bad in bed if she just lies like a dead fish and doesn't do anything but just spreads her legs.

If she is seriously bad at dirty talk and does not do that at all. Then if she has too high expectations for a guy in bed and doesn't do anything but bitch and moan during or afterwards.

Lastly if she does not take care of her personal hygiene.

Sex is important in relationship and usually when it is not good in relationship eventually it boils down to cheating or breaking up.

[Dontrike Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dontrike]

I'm sure either gender would break up a relationship if the sex is bad enough for them, if their partner doesn't communicate what they would like or need or if they don't try and please them and think only about themselves and not wanting to improve.

Hell, I'd break up with someone if I was bad at sex, but that's just me.

[capyjohn Member Find all posts View Profile Close capyjohn]

That's how women can be terrible in bed. Just lay there doing nothing and it's not for me. You got to go. Tends to be the religious girls who act like that. I will try to train but only to a certain point. If you act like you don't want to be here then why are you here?

Exactly. Muslim girls are notorious for this. I don't know if it's because they've been taught sex before marriage is naughty, or if they're doing it because it's their duty, or what the problem is. One girl in particular was 40kg, soaking wet during sex, and barely whimpered when I slammed her with all I've got. What a disappointment, because she sure looked hot. The ones who wear headscarves seem to be the quietest. The less they care about religion, the better at sex they are. I've been with enough to know it's not just a coincidence.