Size or performance?

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

I saw another thread where women were asked what their size preference was. I was happy to see that the women who responded focused more on who the guy is and not his size. I haven't been coming here long but I notice that many of the guys on here seem no different than the guys in the halls at school. Bragging about their size and talking disrespectfully about banging women like her feelings aren't important. I have a gf and in my mind I want her to be happy in bed more than me. Now I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to get off myself but I just feel that she should come first. Now to my question for the women. Since size isn't as important as most guys are lead to believe all their lives, what is it we can do to make sure you're happy in bed? I am sure there must be different things for different women but I'm trying to learn what may be a common opinion with women on guys and sex. Thanks.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

I haven't been coming here long but I notice that many of the guys on here seem no different than the guys in the halls at school. Bragging about their size and talking disrespectfully about banging women like her feelings aren't important.

Hmm..

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

Hmm..

What?

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

We don't have many active women but when they see this I am betting most will tell you that it's the performance that matters most.

After all who wants a guy who is hung like a horse that sucks in the sack.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

As long as your penis is average (5.1") and the girl isn't a size queen, I'm willing to bet 99% of the time she'd pick performance over size. What good is a 9" penis that blows in 1 minute, if she takes 15 to get off...

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

As long as your penis is average (5.1") and the girl isn't a size queen, I'm willing to bet 99% of the time she'd pick performance over size. What good is a 9" penis that blows in 1 minute, if she takes 15 to get off...

14 minutes of foreplay goes a long way


....but then again so does a 9" cawk lol

[ScarletSkull Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ScarletSkull]

What do we want... hmm.

Someone who will be "with" me during sex. Treating sex like a way to connect, not just a way to an orgasm.
Understand foreplay, and how the day to day interaction can build desire like crazy if done correctly(you know, the whole women are crockpots and men are microwaves kinda deal?)
Someone who actually gives a crap whether I orgasm or not, and wanting to make that happen.
Someone who is attentive and caring
Someone who treats me like a person and not a warm body.
Someone who will be HONEST with me about likes/dislikes/preferences regarding not just sex but other related stuff like grooming, etc

I guess what it comes down to is - someone who is interested in learning their partner. All women are different in what they like or don't like - but if you are interested and pursuing her, wanting to KNOW her sexually. What she likes, etc. I know I've gotten a lot of flack for this, but I think that because so many men are so focused on having a big dick, it's like the ones that are genetically "gifted" with a big dick think that their job is done. I call it "big dick syndrome." And that doesn't work, not at all.

And, don't ever ever forget the foreplay or think that fondling boobs for 60 seconds counts as "foreplay."

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

What do we want... hmm.

Someone who will be "with" me during sex. Treating sex like a way to connect, not just a way to an orgasm.
Understand foreplay, and how the day to day interaction can build desire like crazy if done correctly(you know, the whole women are crockpots and men are microwaves kinda deal?)
Someone who actually gives a crap whether I orgasm or not, and wanting to make that happen.
Someone who is attentive and caring
Someone who treats me like a person and not a warm body.
Someone who will be HONEST with me about likes/dislikes/preferences regarding not just sex but other related stuff like grooming, etc

I guess what it comes down to is - someone who is interested in learning their partner. All women are different in what they like or don't like - but if you are interested and pursuing her, wanting to KNOW her sexually. What she likes, etc. I know I've gotten a lot of flack for this, but I think that because so many men are so focused on having a big dick, it's like the ones that are genetically "gifted" with a big dick think that their job is done. I call it "big dick syndrome." And that doesn't work, not at all.

And, don't ever ever forget the foreplay or think that fondling boobs for 60 seconds counts as "foreplay."

Thanks so much Scarlet. I was hoping for and waiting for someone like you to tell it. I am still pretty inexperienced in many ways having only been with one girl, my current gf. I guess I kind of already do some of what you shared and it is good to hear that I am basically on the right path with her. You made my night, thanks again

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Both. Size matters.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

What do we want... hmm.

Someone who will be "with" me during sex. Treating sex like a way to connect, not just a way to an orgasm.
Understand foreplay, and how the day to day interaction can build desire like crazy if done correctly(you know, the whole women are crockpots and men are microwaves kinda deal?)
Someone who actually gives a crap whether I orgasm or not, and wanting to make that happen.
Someone who is attentive and caring
Someone who treats me like a person and not a warm body.
Someone who will be HONEST with me about likes/dislikes/preferences regarding not just sex but other related stuff like grooming, etc

I guess what it comes down to is - someone who is interested in learning their partner. All women are different in what they like or don't like - but if you are interested and pursuing her, wanting to KNOW her sexually. What she likes, etc. I know I've gotten a lot of flack for this, but I think that because so many men are so focused on having a big dick, it's like the ones that are genetically "gifted" with a big dick think that their job is done. I call it "big dick syndrome." And that doesn't work, not at all.

And, don't ever ever forget the foreplay or think that fondling boobs for 60 seconds counts as "foreplay."

Ummm ok and what are you going to do for him?

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

To me, seeing the girl get off to the point where she is beside herself is better than the actual physical release.

This is why I say, why not be huge, be able to last a while/few rounds, and work with her to get her off as many times as possible? Why not...be all? lol

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

Both. Size matters.

Fortunately according to Scarlet for most women it doesn't. Maybe just the shallower ones it does. It is nice to know that we smaller guys can do as well and often times better than the bigger ones.

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

To me, seeing the girl get off to the point where she is beside herself is better than the actual physical release.

This is why I say, why not be huge, be able to last a while/few rounds, and work with her to get her off as many times as possible? Why not...be all? lol

Not all of us can be huge. From what I read most can only achieve an average of 1 inch length and 1 inch girth. 1 inch for a guy of 4 or 5 inches which is cool but puts them around average at best. So better to know how to please a girl with what we got then to fantasize about a big dick most of us will never have.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

To me, seeing the girl get off to the point where she is beside herself is better than the actual physical release.

This is why I say, why not be huge, be able to last a while/few rounds, and work with her to get her off as many times as possible? Why not...be all? lol

Ok, I agree with the first part of this. I'm been married with the love of my life for 28 years. I was going down on her today, and she was so into it, I came, no stimuli for my dick. Her pleasure and writhing got me so worked up I couldn't help it. I can usually last until I care to let loose. She was more than satisfied but pissed cause she wanted me inside her.

[mistercrowley Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mistercrowley]

I'm a little late to this party but I would say that size matters..to a degree. And not just bigger is better either. I had a certain goal set for myself and when I told my wife what it was she was like, "um...no." She did not want any more girth than I already had. I would say connection and focus on your partner and performance are more important. If you feel you need to increase your size, like you won't feel adequate until you do, then by all means go for it but make sure she's on board with that number too. You may be surprised.